TMI Tuesday | Playing With Myself

So, today marks the start of another new 'journey' for me. I am now officially in my 40th year, which means I have an awful lot of ground to cover in the next 365 days so that I can hit my 40th birthday looking all that much more sexually confident, physically fit and smashingly glamourous.

And, that also means that I may actually have a bit of a renewed ambition when it comes to making certain desires, wants and fantasies come to life. Or at least writing all about them!

And now, on to all that information that you just can't get enough of every TMI Tuesday ...

1. My favorite place to masturbate is _____ ?
Yeah, not as kinky as you might believe, but my favourite place to masturbate is in my own bed. That way, when all is said an done and my heart is done racing from the sexual build-up and release, I love to curl up and fall asleep. Masturbating is an amazing way for me to relax before bedtime - and helps take my mind away from the stresses of the day.

2. Have you ever masturbated in public? What were the circumstances?
Not sure; my answer is a bit of a 'sort of.' I wrote about it before: it was a couple years ago and my husband and I were on our way home from one of those sex trade shows in the city. We were downtown and the traffic was crazy. I had already slipped off my panties back at the convention centre and figured since we were going to be sitting in the car for a bit that I would give my new sex toy a little test drive of it's own. I simply pulled up the hem of my skirt, positioned myself accordingly and let the brand new batteries take me to euphoria of a roadgasm - plus give my hubby and amazing tease and scene.

It was equally erotic as people were walking past on the sidewalks only a couple feet away from our vehicle. I remember that was one amazing orgasm ... the sensation of a new toy mixed with the excitement of being in a crowded space.

3. Do you like mutual masturbation? Why?
Yes and no, but for all really good reasons. I love it because there is something very erotic for me in watching and being there while someone is pleasuring themselves. And sharing that moment with someone has an erotic sense of vulnerability. It's opening yourself up to a very different sexual experience.

No, because it's rare that I can allow myself to wait it out. Mutual moments like that generally end up in full-out sex ... not that full-out sex is a bad thing; it just means an end to the masturbation portion of the evening. There are lots of occasions when masturbation becomes a conclusion for me, as well. I'm one of those women that does need a little extra help to reach orgasm.

4. When was the last time you masturbated?
I'm writing my answers on Monday night as we wait for the Leafs-Bruins hockey game to start ... I masturbated on Monday morning shortly after shooting some new photos for my website - 'cause a girl can get rather turned-on posing in new lingerie that a friend sent for her to wear; all that touching my breasts and playing with my pussy while my husband snaps photos. Yep, I think I might masturbate again tonight.

5. Have you ever masturbated on camera?
Yes ... for both recorded video and on webcam. I still make new recorded videos every now and then for purposes other than just adding a bit of kink to my sex life. I mean, why keep the fun all to myself, and since I have received a few requests along the way from guys who want to watch ...

6. Do you like to watch people masturbate?
Call me kinky, but I love watching another person pleasuring themselves. I have had the wonderful opportunity to watch a couple men do that in front of me in person - and good lord, it's a massive turn-on for me. I would love to have the same opportunity with another woman. I have watched on camera and amateur videos, but not while I was right there just a couple feet away as she brought herself to orgasm. Now that would be yummy ...

BONUS: Have you filmed yourself masturbating? Care to share that film via a link?
Take your pick ... follow the video button and you can find several different videos of me masturbating, and a couple in which someone else does all the work on me!

Andee     xoxo

Masturbation | What Women Don't Get

I don’t think I’ve ever shied away from admitting that one of my favourite sexual pastimes is masturbation. For me, playing with myself is a brilliant stress reliever and a great way to revisit a fantasy within my imagination at the same time.

A while back, I got into a discussion with a male friend about the difference in how masturbation is perceived by men and women, and what those might be. He was wondering if there is anything women still don't get about masturbation. I assured him that I got masturbation quite effectively – and in fact planned to enjoy it later that evening – if I wasn't able to organize something a little more substantial. I always love those moments when you see the expression on their face as what I had just said sinks in and the mental image takes over.

Joking aside, what he was really wondering was if there was anything women don’t quite understand about male masturbation ...

I think many women in heterosexual relationships struggle with the notion that their partner will dabble in some self love believing the man no longer has any desire for intimacy. They experience a sense of rejection; fearing the concept of not being sexually appealing enough for their husbands, and struggle with the self-doubt that so many women have ... especially as they age and don't feel as attractive as they once were. But masturbation isn't about replacement – it's more about opportunity. It's only an issue when it reaches that stage.

At the same time, I know many women in heterosexual relationships who are perfectly content to let their partner dabble in self love. These are the women who view sex as a chore – usually the same women who I hear about from my sexually frustrated male friends.

I do believe there are women who are left feeling somewhat short-changed by the idea that their partner would opt for some masturbation versus sex. It comes down to context, when you think about it.

On a personal level, I don't get why men won't invite their partners to share in the moment; be an observer. I love to watch my husband pleasure himself. It's a highly erotic experience to witness.
 
But, it is a two-sided argument – as many women find sexual relief through a little manual manipulation and battery-operated banging. If they didn't, the sex toy industry would be almost non-existent. And there are men who feel that they have been replaced by some dildo modeled after the rather large member of a porn star; or they feel inadequate for the same reasons.

Which is something women don't get when it comes to men understanding why we masturbate.

Andee     xoxo

Fast Friday | Pure Randomness

Hey guys! Hope everyone is getting ready for the festive season! I love the holidays and all the excitement, but I have to admit that as I get older, the hustle and bustle wears me down faster.

And since we’re all running in top gear these days, I thought a quick little blog update might be more in line with the pace of our busy days. So, here’s a quick little something I’m calling my Fast Friday Five … five quick and easy questions that I can’t write a whole entry about, but have made their way to my inbox over the past few months.

Do you have a sexy nickname? How did you get it?
Well, my name for all my online fun is Andee – and maybe not as exciting as something like “Hot Lips” or “Lover Buns” but it is the name associated with all the naughty stuff I do here and on my website. The name came from a childhood friend who struggled to pronounce my real name. She still calls me that today; if she only knew!

What’s your favorite sexual position?
This question is always a huge struggle for me … I hate to pick just one. However, as I need to narrow it down, I love doggy-style the most. There is a lot to be said for having a guy enter me in that way; feeling him slide along all the most sensitive spots inside me … yum! Second to that would be the boring ol’ missionary, but mostly because I love kissing. And kissing while having sex … yowza!

But let’s be honest, anytime I am getting laid, that is the position I like to be in!

Do you prefer ice cubes or hot wax?
I have yet to experiment with hot wax … and while the ice cube experience was delightfully erotic on a very hot summer night, and the sensation of the cool water dribbling down my thighs was kind of cool, having the cock-shaped ice cube inside my pussy was friggin’ cold. I guess I should have tried the newlywed version of just using an ice cube to make my nipples stand out. But apparently the sensation of his hot erection slipping deep into my chilled pussy was amazing.

Do you like rough sex or smooth sex?
Yes …

Ok … each has its specific appeal. Sometimes there is nothing hotter than a very raunchy, tie me to the bed and torture me with sex toys evening, but I also enjoy a passionate, emotionally-driven tender night on occasion. Most of our sex life falls somewhere in the middle of these two extremes, but mixing things up every now and then keeps it all very hot and fresh.

Have you ever cross-dressed?
Um, no ... but even if I did, it’s probably not as kinky for a woman these days to dress up like a man as it is for one of you guys to slip on some of my favourite Fredericks of Hollywood lingerie and stockings and head out for a night on the town.

So there you guys, a few quick and easy answers to hopefully keep you sexually amused on what is surely a crazy Friday for you. It is for me.

Andee     xoxo

Sex | My Guilty Pleasures

What is it about sexual pleasure that makes us feel guilty? The shadows of our parents’ moral lessons? Or maybe society’s message that some things will forever remain “dirty” when indulged in? Despite how liberal our society has become, there is a social stigma attached to sex as a subject for public discussion. We can share all kinds of other deeply personal information with our peers and social circle, but sex is a taboo no matter how healthy and positive it is.

I'm not sure what it is, but sex remains something we're still not able to be open about. And so, whenever sex is on the menu, someone is bound to suggest we should feel guilty if we are enjoying it – or, in some circles, guilty for doing it for a purpose other than procreation.

What's one sexual guilty pleasure that you wouldn't openly tell your friends about? Why?
I'm not sure narrowing it down to just one guilty pleasure is good enough. There are a number of things that, sadly, I just can't be open about. I live in a pretty vanilla, very stereotypical suburban environment, where the only time sex ever comes to the forefront of conversation is when someone is banging someone they shouldn't be. I think most people are afraid to be known as sexual creatures.

Even this past weekend, my husband and I went to an annual sex show, where we usually scope out new ideas for my website, dabble in a little bit of our kinks, and maybe spend just a bit too much money on toys and lingerie.

So, one of the easy answers for something I would never disclose is the actual number of toys I own. There are a couple friends that know about my turbo bunny – but thanks to Sex And The City, it has been the one toy that is almost acceptable among girlfriends to admit to. But I'm not so sure I could have a similar discussion about my 9-inch black dildo, or the several other vibrating silicone sex toys that fill my drawer beside the bed.

Sex toys, while most women have them, suggest that there must be something else to what goes on in the bedroom – falsely. They have nothing to do with my husband's performance, nor mine. They have everything to do with a delicious enhancement and thrill to pretty much every time we get busy ... and damn, they're fun!

Which brings me to another topic that I just can't really dish on to people in my real life: the sexual habits of my husband and I.

On the way home the other night from the Everything To Do With Sex Show, we were discussing the situation between my Office Guy and I, and where things have gone lately. Save the whole story for another day, but it's just not as hot and heavy as it used to be –and quite frankly, I think my friend is struggling with his own sense of guilt/emotional baggage.

But as my husband was sharing his thoughts on the situation, he said "Can you imagine what our friends would think if they knew about any of this?" The idea that a married woman has the freedom to explore her sexual desires with a man other than her husband ...

Truth is, most people might like to fantasize about exploring sexually, but I get the sense that few ever act upon it – and that is what makes me afraid of sharing anything too personal with those not directly involved in my ongoing adventure.

Andee     xoxo 

The Real TMI To Yesterday's Questions

If you happened to stop by yesterday, you would have read my questions to the answers that the folks behind TMI Tuesday provided this week. Of course, if you have been paying attention to me over the past two years, you will know that I'm not one for short answers.

And even though the questions were created on the fly, I thought it might be kind of fun to dig a little deeper into the answers - because I think I have figured out that you seem to enjoy really getting into the naughty corners of my mind.

1. When using a dildo with your partner, where is the most likely spot it will end up? 

It all depends on exactly how the dildo became involved in the moment - and which dildo in my collection it is. Not too long ago, my husband bought me a new toy, strictly intended to be used for anal play during intercourse. He knows just how much the idea of being penetrated in front and back gets me extremely hot and bothered. It's a huge fantasy that we often like to play with.

However, I do own a couple of larger dildos that aren't exactly suited for that same purpose. As much as I like to think about being taken in both holes, some things are just a bit too large to make it a wild experience. Those particular toys are more than likely to be used as "torture" devices by my hubby as he torments the hell out of my pussy - and mind - with them.

2. What is the one accessory you can wear on a date to make sure you wind up getting laid?

Without question, my husband loves me in high heels. And I have learned that when I feel the need or desire for a little sexual attention, slipping on a pair of sexy stilettos is one way to guarantee I will get some.

I still remember when I first learned that my husband had a bit of a footwear fetish. At the time, we were still dating and I had borrowed a friend's pair of boots that I happened to like. At the end of the evening I was on my back, heels in the air, having an awesome time ... and would always have a little smile when I would see my friend wearing them, wondering what she would think if she knew what I did in them.

3. What is the one physical reaction you expect your answer to Question 2 will produce in your date for the night? 

Let's just say that I pretty know just how I can turn my husband on without doing too much ... a sexy little dress, a great pair of shoes and a naughty little glance will help me turn get him hard and stiff. And for those women who somehow think doing something like that is tiresome or beneath them, ie: "Why should I have to do something like that?" ... you have totally missed the lesson on seduction, and the rewards it brings.

4. What is something that you partner might say in bed that would put a damper on your sexual enthusiasm?
As I mention below, sex doesn't always have to be a serious occasion. Some fun, laughter and light-heartedness is also a good thing. However, short of referring to me by someone else's name in the height of passion or throws of orgasm, probably the one thing that would put me off is if a guy is talking to himself. The funny answer given by the folks at TMI was “By George I think he’s got it!” For me, that would be just way too weird. First, the George I know in my real life is not all that ... and secondly, it would be hard to get visions of Eliza Doolittle out of my mind.

If you don't know who she is, try reading Pygmalion by ... wait for it ... George Bernard Shaw. Or renting My Fair Lady, the musical movie version of the same story.

5. Sex doesn't always have to such a serious thing. What is the last thing you wore to bed that made your partner laugh? 

I find it amusing when I meet people who believe that sex has to be this serious, mind-blowing experience every single time. When you spend many years with the same person, you learn that sex can be fun on many different levels, from the excitement of newlywed sex through to exploring and pushing the relationship envelope inside the bedroom, it doesn't have to ever be "the same old thing."

In my relationship, we have shared tears over sex and laughs. One of the funniest moments came when I was in college and my boyfriend (who became my husband) stayed over. Canadian winters can get a little cold, and the house I was sharing with my roommates wasn't always at a tropical temperature. I was wearing a pair of wool socks to keep my feet warm when he brushed my feet with his and then said in a pretend sexy voice "Oh baby, I love how you wear things to turn me on."

It was a very hysterical moment for me at the time ... but I have since stopped wearing thick wool socks to bed. 

6. When using a washroom in a public place, what is the one thing that will make you risk wetting yourself instead of just going?

There is part of me that is intrigued by the idea of a glory hole experience. The anonymity of the situation, the thrill of doing something I happen to love doing - giving oral sex - is a turn on. However, despite the reality of what a glory hole is, I would still want the security of it being a safe and clean experience.

That said, slipping into most public bathrooms is a test for even the most relaxed germaphobe ... and if I see anything that remotely looks like a peephole, you can be guaranteed I will risk the kidney stones, and hold it until I can pee somewhere less disgusting.

Bonus:

What would you say to your partner when they accidentally discover your collection of Playgirl magazines?
I don't think I ever really got into Playgirl magazine all that much until later in life. I wasn't particularly drawn to pictoral porn; opting for the more erotic approach of the written word. Now, I have no objection to seeing photos of hot naked men with 0% body fat and hard and stiff ...

But I also don't have much reason to hide any of that.

So, the real truth behind my question to the answer: I hid them there so you wouldn’t find them ... relates a lot more to where I store my AA batteries, and how I keep them tucked away for my own battery-operated fun so that my Little Men will not find them and use them for silly things like their remotes for the video game system.

Andee     xoxo

TMI Tuesday | Comfort & Thrills of Sex

I always enjoy the weekly TMI Tuesday questions when they allow my imagination to run wild. This week we sneak in the back door, so to speak ... and look at the adventurous side of getting busy. In case you hadn't noticed, sex does happen to be one of my favourite subjects to blog about.

1. How do you feel about giving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger or sex toys)?

     a. I love it.
     b. I enjoy it.
     c. I’m ok with it.
     d. I don’t really enjoy it.
     e. I don’t enjoy it at all.
     f. I have never given anal sex.
     g. I have never given anal sex, but would like to.

In my relationship with my husband, the idea of me giving anal sex is a bit of a stretch, although not impossible. From my perspective, I would say I'm c), from my husband's perspective it is a somewhat rare occurrence in our usual sexual antics. I could count on one hand the number of times ... although, the last time I was on the giving end, I used a nice little vibrator that sends these delicious tingles right through you; definitely a wonderful sensation as I took his rock-hard erection into my mouth.

2. How do you feel about receiving anal sex (penetration with penis, finger or sex toys)?

     a) I love it.
     b) I enjoy it.
     c) I’m ok with it.
     d) I don’t enjoy it at all.
     e) I have never received anal sex.
     f) I have never received anal sex, but would like to start.

Somewhere in between b) and c) ... anal sex is something that I have to be in the mood for - when it comes to penetration. I find the experience something that I really need to focus on relaxing for so that I can enjoy the sensation ... and always lots of lube. However, I love anal play being included as part of sex through the use of a small dildo or vibrator. Only when those are too far out of reach will I resort to the good ol' fashioned finger. The sensation is incredible and helps push my imagination into some very naughty places. I have never made it a secret that one of my biggest sexual fantasies is to have two hard men treat every opening in my body with orgasmic enthusiasm.

3. How do you feel about getting undressed in front of a new lover, for the first time, as he/she watches you?

     a) It’s a turn on for me.
     b) It turns me on a little bit.
     c) I like it, but only because it gets him/her going.
     d) It does nothing for me.
     e) I don’t like doing it because I am shy.
     f) I don’t like doing it because I think it’s immoral/improper.

Hmm...a tough question to answer, because I can't say that the "undressing" is specifically a turn on, but rather the result of being turned on. The one thing to keep in mind is that there are millions of men out there that have already seen me naked, thanks to my website ... so, by the time I actually draw someone into my sex life, I've long gotten past any sense of reluctance to reveal myself.

Although, I do need to point out that as I have gotten older and sexually wiser, I have certainly become a lot more comfortable with my body image. Few of us - if any - are perfect. It just takes a bit of maturity to allow that to sink in and recognize flaws can be sexy because they make us unique.

4. Do you express your sexual pleasure with moans, groans, sighs, and other noises (provided that you are actually turned on)?

     a) Yes, each time I have sex (90-100% of the time).
     b) Yes, on most occasions (70-89% of the time).
     c) Yes, on some occasions (40-69% of the time).
     d) Yes, on a few occasions (10-39% of the time).
     e) Yes, but only on special occasions (1-9% of the time).
     f) Never, not even when I am really turned on.

I would have to say a) best describes me. I find it very difficult to be completely quiet when it comes to sex. Having said that, I'm also not the type that the neighbours will complain about or giggle when they see me in the yard. I do think that it is important to express the pleasure your lover is giving you, otherwise how will they ever know they are hitting the right spots.

5. Do you talk to your partner in a sexually explicit way?

     a) Talking dirty is one of our favorite activities.
     b) Occasionally, I like to talk dirty with my partner, and I do it with ease.
     c) I talk dirty with my partner, but it feels awkward.
     d) I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but I don’t dare for fear of being judged.
     e) I would like to talk dirty with my partner, but she/he isn’t into it.
     f) I don’t talk in such a way because I think it is inappropriate.
     g) I don’t talk in such a way because I can’t bring myself to do it.

Definitely b). When it comes to our sex life, depending on the intimacy of the moment, we will take our imaginations into some very erotic places with a little dirty talk. The mind is the best sex toy around, and when played with properly, it can make for some seriously hot sex.

6. What kind of animal do you most sound like when building to a climax?

     a) quiet little mouse
     b) low moaning wolf
     c) screeching beluga whale

Most of the time, I would say that I fall somewhere in between a) and b) ... in my reality, I have two young children at home and to make like an air raid siren would just not be appropriate. However, there are times when privacy is much more available, and I can really let myself go.

Bonus: Which do you prefer comfort sex or thrill-seeking sex? Why?

Comfort seekers value deep intimacy, quiet engagement and trust over time of familiar relationships. For them sex is best as a safe, loving nurturing space. Thrill seekers value wild energy, adventure and novelty; they are willing to try open relationships, testing themselves outside average sexual practices. These folks crave a place to push the boundaries of new experiences.*

*Adapted from Susan Mernit’s blog

Oh wow ... um ... almost impossible to pick, but I am going to lean towards comfort sex because it is more indicative of the intimate relationship I share with my husband. Our marriage is about that connection on a very deep and nurturing level, and it is the foundation of who we are as a couple. But, as you have been reading, the past few years have been about pushing the sexual envelope and exploring new thrills. This is an equally important experience because we have found the connection in our marriage that allows us to explore outside the traditional boundaries.

Andee     xoxo

Random Thoughts On A Saturday Morning

I woke up early this morning; a little bit horny and an awful lot frustrated. I think my mind and body is pretty much programmed to wake up at the same time every day now - despite the fact that it's my friggin' day off!

Since I'm not really one to spend the quiet time surfing porn while everyone else sleeps, I thought I would at least try to get something written for you. This past week and a bit has been incredibly crazy between work and home that I barely had time to think.

So, with me being just a little horny and waiting for a better time today to take care of all that, I thought I would go back through a couple of the questions I have been sent, asked, read, etc. to make up for being a little absent this week.

What’s the most unusual item you have used during sex that really turned you on and rocked your world?
I had to really think about this one ... and necessarily to narrow it down! It's not like I have experimented with a huge collection of unusual objects in my life. I was turned on to sex toys shortly after I turned 18, and from there everything was pretty standard in terms of vibrating penis-shaped objects.

But the one thing that stands out as one of the most memorable items was the one that led to me getting my first sex toy. At the time, I was not yet married, but dating the man who would become my husband. We were about 18 months into our relationship when I went to spend the weekend with him at his apartment. He had recently moved away for work, so we were trying to make the long distance thing work. This also meant that most weekends were spent fucking like rabbits because we were so horny from being apart.

On this particular night, I had worn a cute little dress - because if there is one thing about my husband, he love me in a dress. He had bought some wine and prepared a nice meal for us; a very romantic gesture. After dinner, we put in a movie and sat on the couch and finished off the wine, made out and generally just got ourselves worked up into a sexual lather.

I had in mind that I really wanted to leave him with something naughty to think about for the following week when we were apart, so after he had performed oral sex on me I stopped him just before he was going to slip his erect cock into me. I took the empty wine bottle and began to run the open neck along my pussy lips. There was just a dribble left in the bottle, so I tipped it up and let the last taste drip onto me. I asked him to see how that tasted, and he went back to licking me for all he was worth. Then, when he came up for air, I held the bottle against me and began to slide it in.

I proceeded to fuck myself with the empty bottle for a few minutes, then let him lick me once again before he got his chance to slide his erection into my now very wet, very ready pussy.

Afterwards, when we were both completely spent, he told me how much of a huge turn-on it was for him to watch me do that. The next weekend when I came to visit, he told me he could not stop thinking about that night and presented me with a little gift - my first vibrator.

Ever since that time, toys - and the occasional wine bottle - have been a regular part of my sex life.

Have you ever done the "Walk of Shame?"

Not in the same sense as the question implies. I have never had a one-night stand, and the vast majority of my sexual experiences relate to the man I am now with.

That said, even with being married, there are a few occasions that I can recall where I have woken up - now sober - and thought "Holy shit, did I really do what I did last night?" Some of those are confessional things I might have admitted to in a sexual-charged, alcohol-induced wildness ... and others have been sexual experiences that didn't turn out exactly like the fantasy I had in my head, such as our foursome frolicking with another couple.

Not really "walk of shame" events, but definitely "did I really do that?" moments.

What is the one sentence that gives you an immediate ego boost?

This is a bit of a tough one. You get a very ... hmm ... twisted perspective of me on here. I write about the thoughts, ideas and desires I have in my mind; and share some of the experiences along the way. It tends to be very condensed and thought-out. I'm not a vain person in real life, I don't share a lot of information about me in person, and I'm generally shy and reserved until I get to know you.

Having prefaced all that, these days I have been trying very hard to ramp up my wardrobe and look a lot nicer/sexier for work. What really sets my heart fluttering and my pussy tingling is when one of the guys (that I am not married to) says:

"Wow, you look amazing."

Andee     xoxo 

TMI Tuesday | May Is Masturbation Month

We all know by now that Woody Allen once used the famous line “Don’t knock masturbation, it’s sex with someone I love.”

This week for TMI Tuesday, I am bringing you to the brink of self-satisfaction with my thoughts on solo sex. That’s right, we’re back to discussing masturbation! However, before you reach for some facial tissue – what an odd name for something when that’s only part of the job it does – you need to know that this is about my habits, not how I do it.

1. How often do you masturbate?

I don’t think this is something I could say “twice a week” to. Like intercourse, it kind of changes with the cycle of my libido. There are some weeks when I am especially horny and find a little solo time daily … or twice daily. And then there are weeks when my favourite little sex toy sits in my night stand collecting dust, anxiously awaiting for the drawer to crack open and be sprung into action with the intensity of a new battery.

But having said that, masturbation is a regular part of my sex life. Being one of those women who needs a little extra help (due to some physical changes after childbirth) achieving orgasm, masturbation is something I am extremely comfortable with. It also helps that I have a partner who has an affection for sex toys and a saint’s level of patience. As my experience grew with the things he would bring home for me, so did my enthusiasm for even more twisted and kinky experiences. You can even watch me test a couple of really big ones in my latest video!

It’s also something that I have become more comfortable with as I … um … got better at it …? I used to view masturbation as a much more private moment than it is these days, but with experience, experimentation and the addition of delightful little gadgets, my comfort level grew to a point where it could be a key part of intimacy in my relationship. My website helped, of course, with the introduction of some pretty steamy videos where you get to watch me pleasure myself.

2. What are you doing to celebrate Masturbation Month?

I can’t honestly say that I knew that there was a month dedicated specifically to the act. Although now that I do know there is a month for it, I will certainly dedicate a round or six in honour of those who have cum before me. I might even go as far as offering a helping hand for masturbation in honour of those who are not able to do it themselves. I’m a giving kind of person that way. Who knows, I might even film a documentary on the subject … or at least turn on the camera for a homemade porn flick for you to enjoy while I masturbate!

I guess you could say it won’t necessarily change my pattern or frequency.

3. Do you like to watch your partner masturbate?

     a. Yes, it turns me on

     b. Sometimes, because it gets my partner very aroused 

     c. Not really, it’s boring

     d. No, it’s a turn off

     e. I’ve never experienced it but I would like to

Without question, I am an a-type personality when it comes to my partner’s masturbating. I would love it if he would let me watch even more often. I think it’s exceptionally sexy to watch someone pleasure themselves, even though it took me a while to be comfortable as the one being watched.

In the early days of my introduction to the naughty side of the Internet, I would secretly login to certain sites when my husband was working and flirt, chat – and watch guys do their thing for me. It was an exciting experience for me to learn that I could get men to share that on webcam – especially since they would frequently be asking for me to do that for them! I don’t know if I can say I miss those days, or if I just miss having the time on my hands that I had back in those days!

4. Do you let your partner watch you masturbate?

     a. Yes, it turns me on to be watched

     b. Sometimes, because it gets my partner very aroused

     c. No, it’s embarrassing

     d. I’ve never experienced it but I’d like to

Hmm, there’s not really a true definition in this for me. I let my husband watch/participate/do it for me very often, because about 80% of the time, I am masturbating myself to orgasm after we have sex. It’s not so much about it turning me on that he is there, but more about continuing the sexual moment to a point where we each have climaxed. Sometimes this is before we have intercourse – because of how incredible it feels to have him in me right after I have cum; while other times it is after we have made love and I am looking to “finish” things off for myself (as I alluded to earlier).

Away from those experiences, there have been times when I have done it for him as a way to get him excited. A hint of foreplay, perhaps. Regardless, any time sex is on the agenda is a good time.

5. Mutual masturbation, yeah or nay?

Oh god, yes! But the biggest challenge in mutual masturbation is trying to refrain from taking it to screwing like rabbits once each of us is all horned up from manual genital manipulation. Where I see this as a more intriguing option is the few occasions I have had with phone sex, and the aforementioned early days of exploring with webcam.

6. If you had an all-expense-paid trip to San Francisco to attend Masturbation-a-Thon 2012, would you go and masturbate? Why or why not?

Unfortunately the only answer to this one is a very wishy-washy “maybe.” The idea is exceptionally erotic, but once those initial thoughts wane, you start to realize that most people who attend events like these aren’t exactly the erotic types you want to share a masturbatory experience with. Jennifer Aniston is not going to sit in a conference room chair across from me and let me watch what she does with her hands between those sexy legs … nor will I get the chance to watch Thor actor Chris Hemsworth handle his hammer!

Reality is, most of the attendees to events like this tend to be either tattooed and pierced sexual/gay activists, or pasty-pale basement dwellers looking for a kink to add to their deviant track record. Like Pride Day, those participating generally don't speak for the majority. It’s the same reality that takes the eroticism out of nude beaches. The people you want to see naked are never the ones that are naked.

I know that sounds rather harsh and judgmental, but let’s be honest, we recognize that it’s close to the truth. I’m not into the act of masturbation for a political – or even a social – statement. For me, it is an experience that is meant to bring sexual satisfaction to me. Selfish, yes. But while I may strike the hypocritic nerve for my position, I just think it’s something that should not be considered an “agenda item” … which is what events like this tend to make it.

BONUS: Are you addicted to masturbating?

No, I wouldn’t say I am addicted to masturbating. What I would say is that if masturbation was an Olympic sport, I would most definitely qualify for the team. Practice makes perfect … and I like to practice as much as I can and as often as the mood strikes.

And now, with all that behind me, I think I might go celebrate!

Andee     xoxo

Humour | 10 Things About Having A Penis

I was reading the somewhat humourous article by Toronto blogger Josh Bowman entitled Ten Things I've Learned From Having A Penis, and I thought it would kind of fun to add my own thoughts from a woman's perspective on having a penis. Now, as you know, there are only a couple of ways that we can actually have a penis ... most of which are covered here.

I was 15 years old when I first had a penis. As I blogged about before, it wasn't the greatest or most memorable experience; in fact, I wish I had waited a while longer before I tried a penis. But, it is what it is and I have really worked hard at living my life without regrets ... and homicidal tendencies.

So, as a little weekend distraction, here are a few of things I have learned from having a penis:

1. Sometimes it can hurt. While a woman possesses the necessary receptacles to host a penis or two on occasion, if the proper preparation has not occurred, the arrival of an unannounced penis can be physically shocking.
2. Most penises are very friendly. I have learned that a lot of owners of a penis are frequently willing to share it.
3. The owner of the penis is also willing to share it in some very unusual places. When I was younger, this meant sharing the penis is places like the back seat of the car, behind my parent's barn, in the fort my brother built in the woods. As I got older and more familiar with the penis, the owners starting making requests for new places to actual visit with the penis ... and they didn't mean in the bush anymore.
4. No matter how nicely you talk to a penis, it will occasionally spit at you. Except the rubber ones. They just taste like blueberry sex lube.
5. No matter how much the owner of the penis tells you that it doesn't taste that bad when a penis spits at you, he never seems to want to indulge in any kind of kissing after you have had a penis in your mouth.
6. At some point in a relationship - even more so if I have indulged in a little too much tequila, the penis will try to slip in the back door.
7. If you talk really dirty to me, even if I have not had a little too much tequila, I will let a penis in through the back door ... but some penises don't like to hear that you are also interested in having another penis come in through the front door for the same party.
8. Some penises love it when I have too much tequila, but they do not feel all that spunky if they have had a little too much tequila.
9. Those who own the penis are very self conscious about any comparisons to other penises.
10. I prefer to have a penis that knows what it can do to me, as opposed to a penis that just takes up all the available space and doesn't know how to behave like a real penis.

Now, the are many other delightful things I have learned from having a penis, such as how when used properly, a penis can make my eyes roll into my head, my back arch and toes curl. Or how it will make me use the kind of language that makes a seasoned sailor blush. But despite all the things I have learned from having a penis, I can say that I am having much more fun as someone who just gets to borrow it on occasion than actually owning it. Ownership seems like far too much work.

Have an awesome weekend. I'm off to see if someone I know that owns a penis might be interested in visiting for a little while.  ;-)

Andee     xoxo

TFIF | Inspired By A Word Prompt

Yesterday, while nestled into the rather unbending seat on my morning train, I was looking around at some of the other tweets and blogs that I like to keep up on. One of my usuals - Gemma Jones - was sharing this idea for TFIF which I found really interesting. I can relate to a lot of what Gemma has written and shared because, like me, she is opening up her sexual adventure for you to enjoy. Life is meant to be explored, and it makes me feel a little less "alone" when I know there are many others out there that see it as an adventure, not just a condition.

And, as someone who struggles some days to bring you something intriguing to read, the idea of having to write an entry based on a single word struck me as the kind of challenge I could really put my libido to!

I suspect others will have their own take - some fictional, some erotic - mine is just going to be the naughty thoughts that swirl around (like that is a big leap anyway). I hope you like it.

This week's word:

Keyhole

When I think of that word, it takes me back to an old house that had those doors with the "Hollywood" keyholes that you could see through. And these days, I wonder how much fun one of those could be in fulfilling both mine and my husband's voyeuristic fantasies. So, here are a few of the things I would love to see through the keyhole:

1. My husband with another woman

Strangely, this is my fantasy more than his. But it also helps me understand why he was so supportive and caring about me to achieve mine last week. I would love to watch him as he does all those wonderful things to another woman...to see his hands touch her all over, to watch her reactions through the foreplay. It would be an incredible experience for me to watch him get oral. I would love to watch her face at the moment he slides into her, and then to watch his sexy butt. I would love to see him at the moment of climax...there's just too many hot things about what I would like about this!

2. My husband masturbating

I know this is something that a lot of men are not very comfortable with sharing. I think I kind of understand; guys have been "taught" that self-gratification is a very private thing - and for many, a very dirty, sinful thing. Some men I know think women see masturbation as a sexual dysfunction: why would you do that when I am here, am I not good enough for you ... etc. When, in fact, it is a very normal and healthy activity - that I just happen to love seeing men do!

3. Another couple having sex

It has been a long time since I have been able to watch this...and that last time was a bit of a scramble as there were four of us in bed, each with our own partner and each doing pretty much the same thing. I would love to just be able to watch. And this is so much better than the typical "put in a porn flick." I want to be able to see all the little nuances of the moment, how she pushes her heels into the mattress as he thrusts into her...the beads of sweat...to hear the moans and passion they share in the moment.

4. Another woman cumming

As someone who is only recently becoming a bit more comfortable with this being a 'public' act, I am also a little 'double standard' about it still. But to watch another woman bringing herself to orgasm - heck even without a vibrator - is something absolutely delicious that I would love to be a part of.

5. Someone peeking at me

If you haven't noticed by now - after all my blogs, tweets and 10 years of posting on my wesbite - that I have a little exhibitionist in me ... well ... you're missing out! It has long been a fantasy of mine to have someone watch me have sex. It's a very exciting fantasy that, despite already being a reality for me, continually gets me going. It's why I have mirrors in my bedroom.

There you go, some wonderfully voyeuristic thoughts on what I would like to see through one of those old-fashioned keyholes. Now, I'm off to Home Depot to see if they still make them!

Andee     xoxo

TMI Tuesday | Making A Wish ... list

I had all these great ideas of how I was going to get some really insightful blogs written for March Break, since I was home for the week. But, as you may have been following along, there are some really incredible events planned for me tomorrow – and unfortunately my mind is in a complete disarray of nerves, excitement, horniness and anticipation.

So, this week I went back to the folks that bring a lot of us some great Too Much Information Tuesday ideas for inspiration ... hope you like what you learn about me today!

This week’s TMI Tuesday idea is brought to you by Mistress Gail who was inspired by the handy little app that allows you to add anything to your Amazon gift list – the universal wish list button.

1. We all know and love a Top 10 list, who or what is number one on your wishlist?
I'm not sure the "who" would mean too much to anyone but me. I'm not a real celebrity-chaser, so dishing the names just wouldn't make sense. There are people in my life that have aroused my sexual curiosity to all kinds of new levels and right now, things have been put in place to (hopefully) put some reality to that fantasy.

Having said that, when it comes to other ideas of a Top 10 list, I have posted a couple here before about some of my wishes. Right now, I would definitely rank a trip to the world's most romantic city: Paris, France. I would love to recreate one of the classic photographic moments of being kissed with the Eiffel Tower as the backdrop.

2. Tell us 2 naughty things you’d put on your wishlist and 2 more naughty or nice things you’d add to the list.
Very good question ... and a bit of a challenge for me because I have a great many of the naughty things I want. The first 'naughty' thing on my current list would, perhaps, be a trip to Hedonism. I'm very curious about what an experience like that might bring. The second 'naughty' thing would be an honest-to-goodness MFM.

Now, for the additions ... they're not really 'naughty' unless you use them for a naughty intent, but I'm going to suggest adding some more stockings and garters to my growing collection. I recently discovered just how much they can enhance the workday – again, when shared with the right people – and there's nothing nicer than a naughty way to pass the time at work!

3. Your order has been mixed up and instead of your selected gift you receive Fireman Sam (see http://mollysdailykiss.com/2011/12/07/inflation/). What do you do?
After reading her review, I think the best thing to do would be to call all my girlfriends and organize a pool party. He might be a bit more fun as an inflatable raft if his 12-inch hose isn't going to put out my fire. Sex dolls for women strike me as a bit creepy – actually, sex dolls in general strike me as creepy.

4. The miss-delivery is sorted and you get the right order. Because of the mix-up you’ve also received a free gift voucher for one of many new accessories available to enhance your new wishlist item. What do you choose?
Right now about the only real sex-toy curiosity I have is about those We-Vibes. There is very something intriguing about having that enjoyable sex-toy vibration going on – hands free – while my partner was burying himself deep inside me. So, I think I would like to try it out, but after reading many reviews on them, I'm not sure I would spend the $150 on one.

5. Your best friend arrives at your back door just as the courier (who is to die for) arrives at the front door with your accessory delivery. What do you do? (choose one)
    a) usher your friend away because it’s ALL YOURS! and you can’t wait, let alone share
    b) tell your friend to come inside with the intent to have them join in
    c) what the heck, two’s company, four’s an orgy! (invite the courier in as well)
I would border between b) and c) ... someone needs to hold the camera, and since the item I have selected is best put into use with a man and a woman, the super-sexy courier will be required to make a delivery of a much harder kind.

Bonus: Do you have a real wish list in the works? If yes, what’s on it?
I do have a bit of a wishlist, but it also borders a little between a 'bucket list' and a set of goals. Of course, that said, I`m also well enough aware that life can deal changes in a hurry and the reality is you need to roll with what comes your way. Some of the things that are on my list aren't really concrete items. There are lots of places I wish I could travel to, like a tour of historic Europe, chase pirate footsteps in the Caribbean, enjoy an African safari ... while other ideas tend to float around where I am hoping my career goes. All somewhat normal and suburban.

But when it comes down to a sexual wishlist, I`m not sure there is much on it that would surprise people. I have a lot of sexual desires, fantasies, ideas ... all that good stuff, but I can`t positively say there are many things that are mandatory items. More of what is on that wishlist is about continuing the adventure. Yes, my wishlist includes a MFM threesome and the opportunity to explore much more deeply my bisexual side, among a few other thoughts; but mostly my real wishlist centres around enjoying each and every opportunity that does come my way.

Andee     xoxo

Sex | Ways To Get Busy Before You Die

Sweet, by the time quite a few of you get this one, my blog will have passed 100,000 views. I have no idea if that is good, bad or somewhere in between, but I thought it was pretty darn impressive given that this is pretty much my personal diary of my sexual adventure and I didn't expect much.

Anyway, if you're one of 100,000 views (well, that's silly to say), thank you for spending a bit of your time here. I sure hope you have enjoyed my ramblings...

On my morning break the other day I was reading a cute little article about the kinds of sex every woman should have before she settles down. I'd like to say it was enlightening, but it was nothing more than the usual fare: break-up sex, vacation sex, public sex ... yada yada sex.

Gotta love the "expert" advice the bitter and jaded editors of trashy women's magazines tend to source.

As I was sharing some of ideas within the article with one of my coworkers, it came to me that a better idea would be to write something about the kinds of sex you should have before you die ... well, according to Andee, at least. I'm certain there are a lot women out there who still believe Sex In The City was a documentary.

And so I started to tap into my own sexually distracted mind to come up with some concepts on the variety of ways you should get busy before you die. I'll be honest that most of this list is built on sex after you are in a committed relationship, but if you can get it while you're single, more power to you! The idea of getting some of it after marriage just adds to the kink level ...

Voyeur Sex

This could also be called exhibitionist sex, but I'm not talking about doing it in public places were you may or may not be caught by innocent passers-by. Surely you accomplished that in high school, or as a "late bloomer" in your college years and hoped that your roommate was asleep.

Voyeur sex is what my husband and I set for when we first dipped our naked toes into the steamy waters of "swinging." Best described as "watching and being watched," voyeur sex does not involve climbing on someone else's husband for a reverse cowgirl ride to paradise. Instead, it involves doing the reverse cowgirl, doggy, what-have-you, while another couple is only inches away; hopefully enjoying the whole show.
BUCKET LIST: 1 / SOCIAL MORES: 0

Sex-Toy Sex ... with someone there

Lying in bed at home playing with yourself is an awesome to relieve some stress and bring about sexual relief, but the excitement level is enhanced ten-fold when you open up one of your most intimate moments to someone without fondling distance.

Far too many women believe that their sex toys are best left in the night stand for those moments when the hubby is at work or in Bismark on business. When the flames of passion are barely fluttering like a pilot light on the water heater, one of the easiest - and truly erotic - experiences you can share is the orgasmic show of bringing yourself to the height of toe-curling sexual ecstacy. Add to his thrill by implementing a no-touch rule - or try my favourite and have him slide his fingers into you and rub your g-spot as you cum.
BUCKET LIST: 1 / SOCIAL MORES: 0

Same-Sex Sex

I will be perfectly honest here - because I know a healthy majority of my readers are guys - I am really talking about girl-on-girl same-sex sex. My own personal fetishes don't revolve around watching two guys in the heat of passion ... well, unless I am firmly sandwiched in the middle of them (more on that below).

I know that a vast majority of men enjoy the idea of two women enjoying each other. And after a few years of quietly being curious about why, I had the opportunity to confirm those curiosities. Deliciously worth the experience.
BUCKET LIST: 1 / SOCIAL MORES: 0

Really Kinky Sex

I'm not talking about using a orgasm-approved sex toy or an ice cube, but something really out of the ordinary. And on the flip side, that doesn't necessarily mean bondage straps and meat hooks either.

Because everyone has a different version of kink (trust me, I've learned that rubber clothing and hoods are considered normal in some circles), the idea here is to push the limits of your own comfort zone towards something exceptionally erotic and exhilerating.

In my sexual experience so far, I have dabbled with a variety of relatively kinky things, from a sex swing and light bondage (kinky to some) through to a foursome and uncovering my bisexuality (kinky to others). But, I think I am going to say that this remains something I am in pursuit of.
BUCKET LIST: 0 / SOCIAL MORES: 1

Threesome Sex

Perched high on my personal bucket list, this is something that is a purely selfish sex act ... and one that should be added to everyone's "must do" list. I'm not fussy if your own fantasy is two hot blondes from the Swedish Bikini Volleyball Team, or your spouse and that friend you think would be game, if you are able to wrap your brain around the idea of being the object of two other people's desire then it is worth exploring.

My personal fantasy involves my husband and another man ravishing my naked body and bringing me to the point of orgasmic exhaustion. But, for the record, it remains a fantasy ... for now.
BUCKET LIST: 0 / SOCIAL MORES: 1

Bonus: Dangerous Sex
Hard to define, because like "kinky," everyone has different perceptions of what is and is not dangerous. And, let's be clear: dangerous does not equal unsafe. Playing with fire is good when dribbling candle wax on your nipples, but putting your health at risk is not what sex should be about.

Truth be told, I'm not even certain of my own territory here. Perhaps something that involves a night of unbridled debauchery at a place like Hedonism?

Anyone have some truly erotic ideas?

Andee     xoxo

 

Masturbation | Privacy...Or A Good Show

Like so many other times before this one, I was reading an article that prompted me to write something of my own. Well, when you commute like I do, you have a lot of time to ponder these things are form your own opinions.

Now I happen to (proudly) be a habitual masturbator. I've never shied away from admitting that; a woman needs to find a sense of sexual release and since I understand my body best... I know that's hard for some guys to accept (without video evidence), but it's just a natural part of who we are. And I know you guys can totally relate to that concept.

Masturbation, while often assigned a bad rap - in some circles even considered taboo - is an exceptional method of stress relief. Sadly women have been raised to believe that masturbation is dirty and not natural. Personally I find it a great sleep aid, playing with myself to orgasm before I turn out my light at night. (And before you burst a brain cell, my hubby and I seldom go to bed at the same time due to varying shifts and work demands. He is often up well into to the wee hours working.) Masturbation fulfills a personal need that is rarely associated with anything other than me and my imagination.

And don't get me wrong...I will take sex above anything else.

The article I was reading was one of those trashy advice columns, and the young lady writing the letter was mortified to discover that her live-in boyfriend was still seeking pleasure from the "Palmer Twins" despite having access to her personal nirvana.

And the more I read between the lines, the more I came to think that she wasn't as upset about the manual manipulation of Mr. Happy as much as she was ticked about missing a good show.

As someone who has pretty much opened herself up the whole world - or at least anyone that wants to buy one to watch - when it comes to masturbating, I can attest to the excitement it can create when shared with someone. I'm not recommending people go out and make movies - Lord, no. I don't need the competition. But, what can add a whole new level of intimacy is allowing someone you love to share in that exceptionally private moment.

When I was discussing this with my own partner, he mentioned something I hadn't considered: the idea of how getting to watch is also an educational experience as well as sexual. You are able to see how your partner pleasures themselves, the erogenous zones to focus on, the pace, the friction, the tension and, when all comes together, the reward of the "O" face.

I think if more couples allowed themselves the opportunity to explore this new level of intimacy, they may find they have less sexual hang-ups over other intimate acts. By understanding your partner's position on self-love, you are able to get a deeper sense of what makes them tick. And let's not overlook how this can lead to an open door on sexual fantasies and firing up the libido with rocket fuel.

I have to admit, I love watching a guy pleasure himself. I find it exceptionally erotic...I just have to find a way to keep my hands, mouth and body to myself when I get invited to show.

Andee     xoxo

30-Day Sex Challenge - Day 9: Glass Toy Fun

A rare Monday off for me led to some steamy afternoon fun. My husband informed me this morning that he would be working from home and that there would some sexual action going down.

Given that I had a few things to get done, plus my already-scheduled gym date, meant that we would be hooking up at lunch time. Normally when we are home together on weekdays, we get up to a few other kinds of naughty fun, photo sessions or videos. It's not very often that we schedule sex...but I'll take what I can get.

A while back I was telling you about a certain toy that I had bought at the Everything To Do With Sex Show. I wasn't sure that I would be all that into glass, but agreed to give it a try for the sake of my adventure. I now wonder why I was so reluctant...oops! That would be suggesting I tried this toy on my own.

Um...well, it's not going to sit in my nightstand with all those other toys and not get any action.

Well, today when we got into bed and began with some inspiring foreplay, my husband said he wanted me to get my toy out and make sure that I came first. So, as I was beginning to really enjoy myself with my old stand-by Pocket Rocket, he slid the glass dildo into me. The incredible sensation of it sliding across my g-spot brought me to an incredible orgasm - twice.

Andee     xoxo

Masturbation | What Gets Her Off?

Once again, a lot of the conversation these days - when it comes to my Tweets anyway - seems to revolve around the idea of self-love. But, then again, it is something that is a big part of my daily routine, so I’m quite comfortable with talking about the subject. For anyone who has taken a naughty little peek at my videos, you will know that I am someone who indulges quite a bit in some sex toy play.

So when this came up in conversation not that long ago, it gave me some ideas on using it for a blog update. Plus, I know there are some of you out there just enjoy the thought of a woman - any woman - willing to admit she masturbates.

Anytime I have admitted it to men, like my Office Guys, it’s like they just got that Christmas gift they always wanted. Their eyes light up and they become 12-year-olds all over again, giggling madly that I used the word "masturbation." I hope to heaven they don't slink off at afternoon break to the private washroom and relive me talking about it.

Seriously guys…it’s just me making myself orgasm…it’s not like none of you haven’t done it.

Anyway, the conversation ended up with the debate of  what is more erotic: a woman who masturbates with her fingers or a woman that masturbates with a sex toy?

My own personal preference is for a sex toy when I am doing myself. The sensations that my favourite toy brings to me allows me to reach my orgasm quite nicely and intensely. The only downside is that sometimes a sex toy makes just a bit too much noise; so when you are trying to be discreet it can be very difficult. Thank goodness for thick blankets and pillows.

When I am not able to use my toys, I have no issues with my fingers. But, as hard to explain in a descriptive way, those kind of orgasms are different.

I’m sure it is no different for you guys, but my experience with men has pretty much been that guys use their hands ... or at least one of them. I haven’t met many at all that use anything battery-operated or one of those fleshlight toys on a frequent basis.

WHAT IS IT ABOUT WOMEN MASTURBATING?
So instead of pondering too much over it, I asked my husband what it is about women masturbating, and then the toy vs. fingers option.

It seems what guys like when it comes to masturbating women is the simple fact that we do; anything that involves a woman pleasuring herself and genitalia is all that is needed. After that, he says it plays on a guy’s visual stimulation and revealing the secrets behind what it takes to make a woman orgasm.

Maybe it is that ‘secret revealed’ or that watching a moment that is the height of her vulnerability. Masturbation is a very personal and private moment for a woman, something that many of us don’t openly share with others. Well, unless you happen to be like me, who has several videos posted for guys to enjoy.

And while most women who masturbate with a toy do not insert it, he explained that there is something even more erotic about a woman who uses ‘foreign’ objects as sexual props. By doing so, she is revealing her willingness to experiment with a variety of non-traditional sex acts…which could suggest she is even more willing to be ‘wild and crazy’ when it comes to sex with a partner.

Now personally, anytime I find about another woman who masturbates, despite the naughty thoughts that go through my own mind, I’m thrilled that there are more out there who are comfortable enough with their own bodies and desires to enjoy a level of sexuality that far too many want to cast judgment on.

So fingers or toys, just get busy and enjoy. Masturbation is healthy.

Andee     xoxo