More Sexy @ Work

Hey everyone, this seems to have become a pretty popular subject around here; probably because over the past year I’ve taken to dressing up again at work. Because I work in a medical field, I used to wear typical medical garb all the time – although more for comfort than need.

And if you've been following my Twitter for a while, you know I’ve grown tired of not looking a certain way. I think the way coworkers treat you is part of the way you dress. If you always look frumpy, you’ll get treated like a frump.And as I've migrated into my mid-30s - the sexual prime for a woman - I've been a lot more conscious of my style, attitude and, I suppose, my mannerisms and flirtatious nature.

So out of all that came this question a while back, and I've decided to revisit it here for my blog:

What is your favourite outfit that makes you feel really sexy – at work? 

One of my sure-fire outfits is a particular black shirt I have. It has a zipper at the neck, and fits kind of snug. With the right bra, I know I can really get the looks. I know that sounds vain – and I guess it is, but when you feel like you’re sexy, and other people notice you, it makes you feel better about yourself. At least it does for me.

I match this with a pair of snug black dress pants and a pair of black dress shoes (sometimes with a narrow heel, other times with a more traditional style shoe). If I’m feeling particularly sexy, I might match the top with a really sexy silver skirt I have and a pair of black boots. But I have to be careful not to spend time near the cardiac ward…LOL...OK, truth be told I won't wear the skirt to work because it is just damn short. I like to save it for those occasions when I'm heading out to a club, or a little more upscale place to grab a drink.

Oh, and I know one or two of you many be wondering - yes, all of it goes over quite well at home too!

Andee

xoxo

Places To Kiss ... or my travel bucket list

It's been a pretty crazy weekend for me and it's ONLY Saturday morning ... I will definitely have a PRIVATE blog or two to share very soon! LOL

I love this time of year - not just because Christmas is on our doorstep, but because it seems to be the season of parties - gala dances, cocktail parties, office parties, open houses and friendly get-togethers. 

This was a little something that is meant to bring a little romance and smoochability to the day ... and it seems some of you enjoyed my kissing styles entry the other day.

The Top 10 Places For Kissing - other than at Andee's house!

It's all about the kiss -- and these destinations provide an ideal setting for a memorable one.

Marriages are sealed with them, they're a traditional part of a greeting or parting and (according to a popular 1960s song) it's how to tell if your man "loves you so."

Kisses have captured the imagination of writers, artists and other romantics for centuries, so it's no surprise we keep trying to create some memorable ones of our own. If you're looking for an exotic local to create a memorable moment, offers some suggestions.

Paris, France

There's no shortage of scenic places to kiss in the renowned City of Lovers, like on a cruise down the Seine River, on the Eiffel Tower lit up at night or virtually anywhere the city's famous skyline serves as a backdrop.

However, Lonely Planet recommends an unusual place to stop for a smooch: the Père Lachaise Cemetery. That's where you find the final resting places of artists, writers and famous lovers like Abelard and Heloise, as well as hundreds of other notable names. Ladies, don't forget your favourite red lipstick to add your mark on Oscar Wilde's grave.

If you're looking for inspiration, head to the Musée Rodin to see Auguste Rodin's famous work, The Kiss. Love is also a popular theme at the Louvre, where you'll find romantic works like Antonio Canova's Psyche Revived by the Kiss of Eros in addition to the scenic Tuileries and Carrousel gardens.

Venice, Italy

Live out the romantic image of two lovers cuddling in a gondola through the canals of Venezia , or tour the city on foot to enjoy the historical architecture and ambiance. It's also home to legendary seducer and scholar Giacomo Casanova, whose prison room can still be seen in the Doge's Palace. You can even climb the Golden Staircase mentioned in his memoirs of his escape from prison.

Other must-see sites include St. Mark's Basilica, the Grand Canal and the Rialto Bridge. Rumour has it that lovers will enjoy life-long happiness together if they share a kiss while passing under the Bridge of Sighs at sunset.

Blarney, Ireland

You've heard the legend but have you thought about its practical applications? Kissing the stone to receive "the gift of the gab" might just help you sweet talk your sweet heart. But the kiss isn't without its trials because the stone isn't easy to reach. Those who want to attempt the ritual have to climb up to the castle's battlements, lie on their back and lean backwards over the edge to kiss the stone -- upside-down. Luckily, safe guards have been installed and the practice of hanging people upside down by their ankles has been abandoned altogether.

Sounds like too much trouble? The "biggest little village in Ireland" is still worth a look for its scenery and local history -- and it's just a short trip from nearby Cork City.

Casablanca, Morocco

This largest city in the North African Kingdom of Morocco gets the nod as the place to quote classic film lines and kiss "as if it were the last time". While you won't find Bogie's fictitious café, you will find a rich heritage that blends Arab and European influences. Visit the medina area to see the Hassan II Mosque, and brush up on your hassling skills before you hit the Central Market and the many shops in the city for that unique souvenir.

But kiss with caution: Morocco is a Muslim country and adheres to conservative laws and customs. According to government travel advice, a kiss in public place may give offense in some parts of the country, and heterosexual relations outside of marriage and homosexuality are illegal.

Kissing, Germany

This hamlet has an appropriate (if unusual) name for those couples seeking some relaxation time together. Located in Germany's Bavaria region, it's a small town of about 11,500 people that used to be a minor capital back in 1050 under the name of Chissingen . Located just outside of Augsburg, it's worth the detour for a kiss on the way to or from Munich.

If odd names strike your fancy, there's also Kissing in Guinea, Love in Saskatchewan, Intercourse, Pennsylvania and Conception Junction, Missouri.

Kissimmee, Florida

The name is asking for it. Bordering on Orlando, this city is a hub of activity and close to all the popular attractions. Nearby Disney World lures romantics of all ages with the promise of charming princes, towering castles and happy endings. Sandy beaches make a relaxing day trip, and it's a short drive to Port Canaveral where you can hop a cruise to the Bahamas. You can also stick around for local sights and attractions, like the Medieval Life Village and Historic Downtown Kissimmee.

New York City, New York

Movies like An Affair to Remember and TV shows like Sex and the City have made this city a media darling, but there's some historical precedence for special embrace. As Lonely Planet points out, Ellis Island was the entry point for immigrants entering the US and was therefore the site of many happy family reunions. Every year, millions of people gather in Times Square on New Years Eve to watch the ball drop -- and start the year with a smooch. And of course, there's Alfred Eisenstaedt's famous photograph of a sailor stealing a kiss with a nurse during the VE Day celebrations.

Other kiss-worthy occasions include a trip the observation deck at the Empire State Building and a picnic in Central Park's Sheep's Meadow.

Kiribati

Island destinations always make a great romantic getaway, but this tiny nation of rugged atolls offers something extra. Kiribati’s 33 isles are in the cerulean waters of the South Pacific, just west of the international dateline, making it the first place in the world to welcome the new day. If you ring in the New Year on one of Kiribati’s Line Islands, you and your beloved could be the first people on earth to steal a kiss.

Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

‘Tall and tan and young and lovely’ pretty much describes every frolicking sunlover on scintillating Ipanema beach. Antonio Carlos Jobim, a native of Rio, captured that universal longing for tropical beachside romance when he wrote the sultry ‘The Girl from Ipanema’. Listening to this bittersweet bossa nova will make you want to pack your bags and head to Brazil, where a kiss on both cheeks comes with every friendly "hello."

Hershey, Pennsylvania

How about a kiss of a different kind? Anyone who loves chocolate will undoubtedly enjoy a trip to the "Sweetest Place on Earth". There are many things to do in the area besides enjoy chocolate. If you're looking for a sweet Valentine's getaway, the town offers month-long chocolate celebrations every year during the month of February. Some of the events include gourmet dinners with chocolate dessert buffets, chocolate tastings and classes on how to make truffles and chocolate cocktails.

And if sports, nearby Civil War history and the charming countryside don't do enough for you ... buy some of that dark delight in liquid form - and I might let you lick some off me!

Andee

xoxo

The Sexy 'Trick'

Hey everyone, I pieced this entry together from a couple different conversations that I've had with some of my sometimes-flustered Office Guys. I'm sure a lot of you have probably even been down this road as well - because fashion is always a great topic among men and women ... and a great way to tease.

What are some of the things/tricks you do to make yourself appear sexy?

I’m not sure I have any real “tricks” that I use. I definitely put a lot of thought into my outfit for the moment, including what I wear underneath that outfit. I think if you feel sexy, that shows to other people. Maybe it’s just a vibe, or look…but I think you can tell.

I suppose the one thing that I do pay a lot of attention to is my hair. My hair is naturally curly, so when I take the time to straighten it and get all made-up, I think that would be my trick. I also spend a bit more time on my make-up, doing it a bit more than what I would for my job, or something like that.

When I’m out, I try to look a little more confident than I really am. In all honesty, despite what you guys see on my website, I’m still a pretty shy person face-to-face. This stuff is my ongoing “coming out” experience; a part of me that most people don’t get to see or know about.

Also, if I’m feeling in the mood, and the night is going well, I guess I flirt a lot, and keep eye contact a little more than I normally would.

What's your favourite ‘come F-me outfit?’

Well, it changes from time to time. Since my husband is the one who actually buys me most of my non-work clothes, so much of it depends on his “fetish” at the time. But I can usually guarantee it involves some sort of skirt.

If I’m feeling like I really need to get laid after a night out, I wear a skirt. That’s the one thing that pretty much always drives my husband crazy. The coup-de-gras is if I put on a pair of boots. Sometimes he’s so easy ;~)

A Sure Thing ... ?

Some of you guys have already seen the one outfit that I really like, and feel very sexy in: the white tank-top & sheer blouse with the black skirt.. I really feel sexy in that set, and it’s one of those that can be either very revealing when I’m in the mood, or a little classy and still sexy when I need to be.

Also, I have a great suede skirt and matching sweater. I don’t think there’s any pics online yet, but I have a pair of boots that goes with it. That really makes me feel sexy. I remember wearing it out one time when I was at a work-related convention. My girlfriends and I were hanging out at the hotel bar, and I was definitely enjoying the attention we were getting. A few of the guys there joined us and we all had a lot of fun (and free drinks for us). By the end of the night, it was just one friend and I left with a bunch of these guys, and the drinks had certainly loosened everyone up. The conversation was very sexual and filled with innuendo – which is also a riot when it doesn’t cross the line.

The comments I got on my outfit, and the boots, and my legs were a real turn on for me. I know that sounds very vain – which really, I’m not at all. But when you’re married and have been with the same guy for 17 years, you really love the feeling of knowing other men still find you attractive.

Andee

xoxo

Can We Be Friends?

I'm sure by now, those of you who follow me on Twitter and check out my little blogs and drivel realize that I read a lot ... and often read a lot of rubbish! LOL

I was sitting in my livingroom after dinner last night reading one of those trashy magazines my hubby bought for me. I think he just likes the little headlines on the cover that suggest ways to light up the bedroom and how to drive him wild with jello, etc. You know the type of magazine I'm talking about.

This one had the results of a recent survey they held for their annual hunt for the hottest men in the United States. I think it might not help that the editor is a guy, but anyway ... The one result I found interesting was that 90 per cent of the guys who responded said they believed men and women could just be friends. I found that interesting, mostly because while I believe that men and women can just be friends, I'm always amused how those friendships in my own life always end up revolving around sex. Maybe not the actual physical act between the guys and I, but the gradual build up to that being a big part of it - from subtle conversation, to flirtation, to the loosely veiled suggestions.

Even recently, a male coworker - who is married to a beautiful woman and has two great kids - began to make more aggressive innuendos. This was someone that I consider a friend on a completely different level. Especially since I know his wife, she knows me, etc.

It makes me wonder if perhaps I send out the wrong message to guys, even in friendship. The fact that I tend to be pretty open about my lifestyle, my antics and the occasion digression involving alcohol, a frat house and video cameras may not help my cause ... OK, just kidding about the frat house part - at least since 1993.

Do men believe that a purely platonic relationship can exist with a woman? Even in moments when both parties become actively involved in committed relationships with others, and eventual marriages? For me, it's quite a curious thought ... but I guess that's mostly because, as mentioned here and previously, I tend to be more of a flirt than I should be.

Is there some truth to the "it's me, not you" syndrome?

Andee

xoxo

Trashy Advice Drives Me Crazy

At break yesterday I was reading one of those trashy women's magazines that seem to make their way from the waiting room to the staff lunch room when their purpose has expired. In this one was the advice column from one of those "so-called relationship experts."

In her column, a writer was asking what it meant by her husband continually looking at other women. The reason this rings so true with me is because it is something that my husband and I continually discuss. Having said that, I also recognize that we are probably the kind of couple that would drive a "relationship expert" over the brink!

To her credit, the expert pointed out that we are humans, with an instinctive curiosity about others. Personally, I like to see it as a healthy dose of voyeurism! LOL However, the expert goes on to talk about her own past relationship with a man she referred to as "The Ogler." OK, lost me there - can you say "agenda."

The issue for me is more about the exclusion of the partner in the natural habit. Seriously, I am here on a website designed to help women like me improve their appearance ... which means improving how I look to others, in addition to all the personal reasons. Maybe I am the strange one for hoping that I am one of those women that does attract a man's attention. I certainly invest enough effort into it and it would be disappointing to discover it was all a figment of my over-active imagination.

But at the same time, I also can appreciate why my significant other likes to look at other women - heck, I like to look at other women! Does this looking suggest he is seeking a replacement for me? I doubt it ... but that is mostly because we don't misinterpret each others' "people watching." The key, in my definitely-no-expert opinion, is communication. The woman asking the question obviously has some jealousy issues, or feels threatened by his noticing of other women ... which to me indicates deeper problems in the relationship than just noticing a "hot babe" at the next table. It seems they are just not able to express a part of themselves in a marriage that needs to be nurtured more than one's ability to balance a chequebook or mow the lawn.

The emotional passion and desires need to be in bigger focus than anything else. I don't know about you, but it's not the material things that fuel my relationship with my husband ... it's knowing who he is, his desires, lusts, passions, ambitions, dreams and fantasies that make up a core part of it. If I know and am in tune with all that, then we sail through the moments of economic recession, mortgage re-negotiations, bills, etc.

Then, of course, we are able to relish those more "sexually charged" moments when his (and my) gaze is turned to a stunning set of legs in a short skirt. I say that because, truly, we both appreciate that. I know him well enough to say he would never be distracted by a set of tight buns or rock-hard abs on a fit guy at the beach.

The expert says that this woman "must not tolerate" her husband's ogling any longer - clearly suggesting something akin to showdown at the OK Corral. Like that will turn out positive.

Do I have an answer? Not really, it was just something that my coworkers and I got a little giddy about ...

Oops! I have to run. Have to get myself all dressed up for work in case that hot guy from the courier company shows up!

Andee

xoxo

What Turns Me On - Part 1

It seems that every flirtatious conversation, whether online, or in person, ends up with the question about "What turns you on?" And while this is certainly a subject that I will be exploring as my blog evolves, this was something I spent a bit of time "borrowing" to expand on the one thing that will get me in the mood fast, send my mind racing and strip away all my inhibitions.

The easiest way into Andee's pants - KISSING

Butterfly Kiss - With your faces less than a breath away, open and close your eyelids against your partners. If done correctly, the fluttering sensation will match the one in your heart.

Cheek Kiss - A friendly, "I really like you" kiss. Often the preferred kissing method of a first date. With your hands on your partner's shoulders, gently brush your lips across her cheek.

Earlobe Kiss - Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors.

Eskimo Kiss - With your faces less than a breath apart, gently rub your noses together.

Freeze Kiss (or Melt Kiss) - Experiment with this fun kiss. Put a small piece of ice in your mouth, then open mouth and kiss your partner, passing them the ice with your tongue. It's an erotic and sensual french kiss with a twist of cold.

Foot Kiss - An erotic and romantic gesture. It may tickle, but relax and enjoy it! To give a toe kiss by gently suck the toes and then lightly kissing the foot. It helps to gently massage the base of the foot while performing the kiss.

Forehead Kiss - The "motherly" kiss or "just friends" kiss. The forehead kiss can be a comforting kiss to anyone. Simply brush your lips lightly across the crown of their head.

French Kiss - The kiss involving the tongue. Some call this the "Soul Kiss" because the life and soul are thought to pass through the mouth's breath in the exchange across tongues. Surprisingly, the French call this "The English Kiss".

Fruity Kiss - Take a small piece of fruit and place between your lips (juicy fruits such as grapes, strawberries, small pieces of pineapple or mango are ideal). Kiss your partner and nibble one half of the piece of fruit while they nibble the other until it breaks in half, allowing the juice to run into your mouths.

Hand Kiss - Gently raise her hand to your lips. Lightly brush your lips across the top of her hand. Historically this kiss was performed with a bow, which showed deference to a lady.

Hickey Kiss - The object is not to draw blood, but to gently leave a mark that will prove your interlude was not a dream. This is often included in erotic foreplay.

Mistletoe Kiss - Surprise your lover by capturing them with a gentle holiday kiss under the mistletoe. This is also a good method for shyer individuals to steal a kiss from a potential lover.

Letter Kiss - Send your lover a kiss in a love letter by writing the letter x several times in a row at the bottom of a letter such as XXXXX.

Neck Nibble Kiss - Gently nibble up and down your partners neck. End with a gentle kiss on the lips.

Nip Kiss - This kiss can create a very erotic sensation. While kissing your partner, ever so gently nibble on their lips. You must be very careful not to bite to hard or hurt your partner. When done correctly, this kiss ignites wonderful sensations.

Shoulder Kiss - Simply come from behind, embrace her, and kiss the top of her shoulder. This is a sensual, loving kiss.

Sip Kiss - Take a small sip of your favorite drink. Leaving a little bit of it on your lips, kiss your partner. It is a unique way to create a sensual feeling and your partner will enjoy it.

Talking Kiss - Whisper sweet nothings into your partner's mouth. If caught in the act, simply say as Chico Marx, "I wasn't kissing her. I was whispering into her mouth."

Tiger Kiss - Quietly sneak up behind your partner making sure they do not know what you are going to do. Out of the blue, grab them and gently bite their neck. Make sure to get a few good growls in too. This will surely surprise them.

Trickle Kiss - Take a sip of a favourite drink and trickle it slowly into partner's mouth while kissing.

Tongue Sucking - A variation of the French kiss. During an open-mouth kiss gently suck on your partner's tongue (not too hard because it may hurt). Very sexy :-)

Quickie Kiss - When you're in a rush. Often the nose gets it rather than the lips.

Vacuum Kiss - While kissing open-mouthed, slightly suck in as if you were sucking the air from your partners mouth. This is a playful kiss.

And my own addition, just because it's Monday, rainy and life needs a little pick-me up interest:

Girl Kiss - When you get to try something completely different, but guys just wouldn't understand the sensation ... but seem to enjoy the vision. Aw hell, for that matter, I like watching two girls kiss as well - that is if I can't be directly in on things! LOL

Andee

xoxo

Check These Out!

Good morning everyone. Well, it's a bit of a sad day here - the last part of the weekend! I never want them to be over. But at least I know I can make things at work interesting enough to cut through the doldrums of routine. This is a subject that has come up before in a couple different chats I've had online - and especially since some of my Twitter followers think I have a reputation for manipulating this idea ...

How bad is it when you catch a guy checking out your chest? Obviously you don't want him staring at your ta-tas all day, but I often find that if I'm talking to a woman who's showing some cleavage, as hard as I try to look her in the eye, I just can't help taking a quick peek.

I guess it's one of those things that once you get used to it, it just becomes commonplace. Most days I'm just happy there's something for you guys to look at, although childbirth and gravity aren't being too kind.

I suppose we use them to get your attention at times. One of the best gifts I ever got from my hubby was a bra that made them look like they did when I was 18. Puts them back to where they should be LOL

If I'm out and dressed to attract a little attention, I don't mind it. It's something that I have been know to accentuate (spelling doesn't count with me if that's wrong LOL). Like most women, I like the attention I get, and I like knowing that I can get and keep your attention. And I like the little ego boost it gives me, and the feeling of being desirable to you.

But if I'm in a serious situation, it's not appropriate. Where I work, sometimes I dress up a little more professional. It's a pretty conservative environment, so when I catch some guy checking me out, I'm like "there's and time and place." But that's also a rule that I continually push to the edge, because, frankly, I work with some really hot guys and I like to get horny and fantasize - and I like to see if I can get them to the same frame of mind. Mostly I keep it still work appropriate, but at the only real difference is one more button undone, or a hemline that strangely borders on voyeurism.

I know that is totally a double standard, but hey, women are entitled to that :-)

Love ya guys!

Andee
xoxo

Saturday Morning Survey Results

Sitting here in my bathrobe, with my morning cup of mocha. A pretty typical way to start a Saturday around here. My guy had to slog his way to the hockey arena at some ungodly hour for our little man's practice, and I'm hoping that after his cup of coffee and a quick e-mail read he might be awake enough to notice that all I am wearing is my robe! As for me, I was reading a really interesting article in the newspaper this morning about an Australian sex survey ... I'm going to write a bit more about it after I finishing reading more (nudge, nudge), but here's a few of the highlights that I found intriguing:

• 1 in 5 women have made a sex tape
• 1 in 4 women look at pornography at least once a month
• 1 in 3 women rarely or never experience orgasm
• 57 per cent of women fantasize about sex with another woman
• 22 per cent of women have had a sexual experience with another woman
• Top fantasy partners - George Clooney and Angelina Jolie

Quite the interesting results. If it was a quiz, I scored 5 out of 6 ... Clooney is an awesome actor but he doesn't get me going as a "top fantasy partner" and Jolie? Well, I don't think I want to get more inoculations for a moment with her than a month in the Amazon!  ;-)

Andee

xoxo

Thoughts On Flirtation For A Commuter

I hope your plans for the weekend are going well. Mine are; we have a party we're heading to tonight, and - being good Canadian parents - tons of hockey! But not before one more day of work, and one more train ride into the city ... hopefully casual Friday will bring some delightful distraction in the office.

And, while we’re on the topic of delightful distraction ... I dug this little trashy bit up from one of my magazines. Appropriate reading in preparation for any place where some temptuous flirtation may occur ...

Learn the Art of Eye Contact

Don’t shy away from staring them down, but do it the right way. Ease into it by practicing triangular gazing, where you look at one eye, then the other, then at their mouth. Our flirting expert says practicing this for just a day will get you ready to start learning to interact with the people you’re attracted to.

Once you’ve locked eyes, keep looking: one study showed that it takes about 13 glances before the average guy approaches a woman!

MY TAKE – hmmm, isn’t 13 an unlucky number? Try me a bit sooner, or risk watching my flirt shamelessly with your wingman. But then, I have been accused more than several times of being a complete flirt.

Practice Small Talk

Before you approach someone you’re into, make sure you’ve got the basics of small talk down. "Challenge yourself to go out and make small talk with five strangers today," advises one flirting expert. "Don’t worry about whether they’re people you want to date. Approach grandmothers, other men, someone who’s not your type, whomever you come across. It’ll help you adjust to stepping out of your comfort zone."

MY TAKE – it doesn’t have to be ‘flirting’ just to communicate with people around you. All I see is people texting, e-mailing and cellphone chatting … come on; engage me in the old-fashioned way of talking.

Perfect Your Body Language

Want to get under her skin? "Get just a centimeter into a girl’s comfort zone, and look up at her with big eyes," says our flirting coach. The no-fail move? "Put your chest out, chin down, eyes high in the socket, head slightly tilted, and your weight on one foot. That’s important. If your feet are planted, they feel the resistance, just as much as they would if you had your arms crossed."

If a person positions his or her body at a ninety-degree angle from you when being face- to-face is just as easy, that doesn’t bode well, says the coach.

MY TAKE – there is a fine line in crossing into that comfort zone, so it takes a little experimentation with someone you are already comfortable with. And your body language is key. I’m not looking for a guy who comes across as a Roman gladiator (well, not until dress-up day), but rather a guy that is close enough to suggest tension and allows me to smell his cologne.

Nag Her

The trick when you’re flirting, the flirting coach says, is "figuring how to keep a balance between being engaging enough to retain someone’s attention and not seeming overly available." Tease her a little and call her out by saying something like, "Oh sure you do..."

MY TAKE - I have a very healthy competitive streak and engaging me in this kind of way usually draws me deeper into the conversation!

Don't Think Before You Speak

Don’t think too long before you open your mouth - it'll come off unnatural and awkward. "People sense it when something sounds too pre-meditated; that makes them uncomfortable," our flirting coach says.

MY TAKE - pick-up lines are tired, overused and tacky ... try something non-sexual; compliment an accessory or my shoes before moving into the stumbling, show-you-the-exit "You're Hot!!!" lines.

So, how about day to day, you might ask? Eyeing the cutie on your morning commute? Strike up a conversation with these pointers I "borrowed" for flirting on public transportation.

• Choose your seat wisely. It's a lot more natural to get close, conversationally, if you're not three rows back. But don't feel too self-conscious about making a strategic seat-change either. Chances are, they are never going to notice — and if they do, they might just be checking you out, too.
• If a girl's reading something, ask her about it. But don't just say, "Do you like that book?" Because then you're at risk of getting a one-word answer. Ask something more open-ended, like: "I'm sorry to interrupt you, but you seem to be enjoying that book. May I ask what it's about?" If she has a newspaper or magazine, you might want to ask if there are any must-read articles in it.
• Remember that the two of you have at least one thing in common: You're traveling along the same route. So you could ask a question about how many stops the train will make before yours, how long it might take to get there, or which station is closest to your final destination.
• Keep this thought in your head all the time: I'm never going to see this person again if I don't talk to him now ... so what do I have to lose?

Now, since I have a long winter of commuting planned, anyone want to share some thoughts or tips with me? LOL

Andee

xoxo

I Wanna Hold You Hand

I heard that popular Beatles song last night when we were watching Across The Universe. It put my mind to thinking, and I searched around until I found this to share with you:

Top Ten Hand Holding Techniques

1. The Passive Hand Hold

This is hand holding in its simplest form: your sweetheart’s hand gently but firmly cupped in yours.  It’s most appropriate for public environments where you want to remain tasteful and avoid looking “clingy,” but is still a great, effective way to add physicality to your romantic relationship. 

2. The Intertwined Fingers Hand Hold

A step up from the Passive Hand Hold, Intertwined Fingers provides a firmer grip and an increased sense of intimacy.  This type of hand holding is perfect while taking a romantic walk together, but it can have a downside of sweaty palms!

3. The One-Finger Hand Hold

Holding just one of your lover’s fingers is a more romantically playful method for times when you’re feeling flirtatious.  This is the easiest hand hold for your sweetheart to pull away from, but is still a great way to add some fun intimacy to the mix.

4. The Massaging Hand Hold

Turning a simple hand-holding session into a relaxing massage is a wonderful romantic surprise to give your sweetheart.  There’s an art to romantic massage, and an unlimited number of ways you can caress your lover’s hands and give attention to each finger.  This hand-holding method is best used while sitting down!

5. The Two-Hand Hold

Here’s another technique that is tough to do while standing, but one of the best ways to add some serious physicality and intimacy to hand holding.  Taking your sweetheart’s hand in both of yours will give them a deep sense of security, importance and calm.

6. The Palm Caress Hand Hold

This method is an intimate, secret way to tastefully caress your lover without being noticed by others around you.  Starting with the Passive or Intertwined Fingers technique, use one of your fingers to gently rub your sweetheart’s palm in an up-and-down or swirling fashion.

7. The Kissing Hand Hold

The Kissing Hand Hold is perfect for intimate situations when you’re alone with your special someone, and is often combined with the Two-Hand Hold.  Clean hands are perfect for kissing, and you should never be afraid to shower your lover’s fingertips, palms and wrists with romantic pecks!

8. The Gentle Pinching Hand Hold

This one isn’t right for every romantic relationship, and can be a little too playful and rough for some couples.  But gently pinching your lover’s fingertips and palms, if done correctly, can be an exciting, fun experience for you and your sweetheart, as long as you make sure you don’t do it too hard.

9. The Warm-Up Hand Hold

When it’s cold outside, there’s no better way to warm up your fingers than by having them caressed and rubbed lovingly by your favorite person in the world.  Don’t make your sweetheart use a heater when you have two perfectly good, warm hands to help them out!  Combine this technique with the Massaging Hand Hold for a great effect.

10. The The Morse-Code Hand Hold

This is the most unorthodox and interactive hand-holding technique, but can be a heck of a lot of fun if you and your lover can master it.  Agree ahead of time of a phrase that you want to share with each other silently–such as “I love you”–and assign it a number of squeezes that correspond with the syllables in the phrase.  Your sweetheart will remember that when you squeeze three times it means “I-love-you” . . . and can respond with a four-squeeze “I-love-you-too”!

So, who wants to hold my hand? And who wants to a bit more than that!

More Dressing For Sex-cess

Ok, I admit that all of this isn't really my idea. But after we touched on the dressing for the office yesterday, I thought I would dig into a bit of naughtiness for the rest of the day! I kind of "borrowed" it from one of those gossip-type/fashion/women's magazines. But, after reading through all the hints and tips they were offering, I grabbed my other half and we went through the ones that we agreed would work. Some of them, I kind of added my own little bits and pieces to as well.

But seriously guys ... if you're looking to maybe up the ante in your relationship (or even just a bit of raunch behind closed doors), this is pretty good reading with your significant other.

So, here it is ... courtesy of yet another not-so-productive moment in my day!

Dress for Sex-cess

Sometimes, it's the tiniest tweaks to what you wear — and bare — that can transform you into a bombshell. Just mix and match a few of these tips, and chances are those clothes won't stay on for long (nor will you want them to).

Invest in some little black undies

You already know that a little black dress is a crucial component of any gal's wardrobe. Well, here's another essential: a barely-there lace bikini or thong in noir. Now you'll never be at a loss for what to wear under that little black dress, or be shy about showing it off. MY TAKE - Definitely one that works. And you know what works for me? My husband knows my size and frequently surprises me with sexy little pair with a note tucked in asking me out on a date.

Put on clothes that say "pet me"

Silk, suede, cashmere, faux fur...unlike your usual cotton duds, these materials feel amazing against your skin and beg to be caressed. Talk about an easy way to get your guy's hands all over you. MY TAKE - When I'm in an intimate relationship with someone, I crave their touch in both a sexual and non-sexual way. If I need to, I'll find a way like this to encourage that touch.

Wear fire-engine red

There's a reason why red was picked to paint stop signs: It's one very arresting color. Wear a red dress, red shoes, red anything, and it'll make you feel on fire. MY TAKE - Red is an absolute MUST ... underwear, footwear, accessories. It's the one colour that I do agree I look good in. A sure fire success is to take her shopping for a pair of really sexy and simple red pumps. Suck it up fellas, an hour in the shoe store to see her wearing just the new shoes to bed ... yowza!

Put on an animal print

Even the smallest accent — a leopard-print scarf, a zebra thong — will make you feel a little more feral. MY TAKE - there's a fine line between trashy and tasteful. This is one area where there really is a fine line.

Slip into a strappy tank top

Bra optional. Then watch him try to keep his eyes off you. MY TAKE - around here we save that kind of exposure for warmer days, but shoulders can be so sensual. Plus, a cute little tank might just lead to that touching thing we hit on earlier! LOL

Surprise him with a garter belt

Haven't worn one since your wedding? Then it's time to give him a second viewing. It'll transform you into a sultry femme fatale from a forties movie; perhaps he'll want to role-play the hard-boiled private eye. On your next night out, slide your guy's palm under your skirt just high enough so that he comes across your little surprise. A sexy mystery will begin! MY TAKE - this is something you have to get your girl to try at least once in her life. Take her shopping for the lingerie and it will add the anticipation! And before you ask ... yes, often ... and sometimes when he can't be with me and has to spend all day thinking about it.

Wear a candy necklace one night

To get him nibbling, tell him it's his dessert. MY TAKE - you can get a bra and panties made from the same kind of candy!!!

Wear heels...and nothing else

When getting undressed one evening, take off everything but your stilettos. Casually walk around as if you just haven't bothered to kick them off yet and see how long it takes him to pounce. MY TAKE - see my comments on the sexy and simple red pumps. I have almost as many shoes as Imelda Marcos!!!

Slip into something comfortable

We know, full-length silk slips faded from women's wardrobes back in the 1940s. Here's why we should bring 'em back: First, they feel amazing under whatever you're wearing. Second, they look amazing in an Elizabeth Taylor, Cat on a Hot Tin Roof kind of way. Make sure it's the first thing he sees you put on in the morning — and the last thing you peel off come nighttime — to spark some Old Hollywood-style romance and feel like a silver screen siren. MY TAKE - I'll add something after I slip into something more comfortable!

How Sexy Is Your Office?

Ready For Work?

Those who have been following me on my website or Twitter know that I enjoy dressing up for work when I can. And they have also gotten the occasional insight into my many sexually-charged conversations with the men I affectionately call the "Office Guys." (More on them in a later blog!)

And while warm weather is a great time to use a nice short - but still socially acceptable - hemline, the colder weather here means I have to be a bit more creative in style. Hopefully some of you find the dress pants and sky-high stiletto heels look sexy. Now, I may not be able to strut around work in these babies all day, but I don't think you'll complain at how sexy they look in this update!

Feel free to drop a note or make a comment on what you would love to see me in (or out of!). Love ya guys ... especially my "Office Guys."

Andee

xoxo

Erogenous Zones

Here's another one for you guys (and girls) to consider. This was a question I received back when I was keeping a journal on my website more frequently; this one is about the areas of my body that really get me going when my lover plays with them.

What are you top 5 erogenous zones?

This is a tough question for me because so much of what turns me on depends on the person I am with.

The two easiest ones are ones that don’t seem to change: I love it when a guy kisses the side and back of my neck. If he has really soft and tender lips, and kind of gives me little nips and nibbles, it gives me goosebumps. The second one is when a guys sucks on my earlobes.

Something that I learned to appreciate as an erogenous zone as I got a little older and was with guys that had some foreplay experience was my nipples. If a man knows how to adjust how he treats them, knowing when to be soft and when to get a little rough, it can send me to the edge…especially after penetration. It will send tingles right to my clit, and will really get me moaning. Sometimes during sex, I’ll play with them myself – something that really gets my hubby going!

The fourth area is the inside of my thighs. I love it when a guy goes down on me, and instead of just heading straight for my pussy, he will kiss and nibble all around down there, making me wait to feel his mouth and tongue where I like it the most. Men who really know what they are doing when it comes to eating a girl know how to be patient, and drive me crazy by doing everything down there but that. Then, by the time they finally get to the good stuff, I’m so wet and horny that I go off like a rocket.

Big word of advice guys: take your time and make us want it more…LOL

Finally, the last of my top five is an area that only a very few guys have managed to find and know how to work it. As I mentioned before, I love having a guy play with my asshole. I just love the feeling of being taken in front, and teased like hell in the back. I guess that’s why a threesome is one of my big fantasies.

If the man I’m with knows how to tickle me there just right during sex, he’ll have me bucking and screaming in no time!

Andee

xoxo