This one came from one of my Twitter
followers a few weeks ago and has kind of sat in my mind – and archive – for a
bit.
When you get dressed up, do you pay
attention to whether you look 'too slutty'?
Outside of the fun that happens with me online, there are kind of two realities at work for
me as to why this isn’t really an issue: my personal struggle with fashion and
my offline environment not being truly conducive to being that way.
I have said before that a tremendous amount
of my personal style belongs to the fashion sense of my husband. He is a very
unique man who could spend hours – and hundreds of dollars – taking me
shopping. Almost all the outfits you see when I post pics on my blog and
Twitter are the result of him taking the time to pick something out for me
(with the exception of some lingerie and boots, which I have been ‘spoiled’ in
receiving from a couple male friends). Without that guidance, I would easily
opt for the most comfortable and practical style … and certainly not have the
ability to tease, flirt and torment as much as I do!
Some of the women I work with, quite
literally, ask if they can take him shopping with them after they discover that
a certain outfit was something he picked out, etc.
In those moments when I feel like pushing
the envelope a little, my decisions are completely based on being a distraction
– but not so much that it would impact my professional reputation. I aim for
the “sexy” most of all.
Secondary to that, my day-to-day life is
rooted in a very conservative work environment. I occasionally push the limits
a little with some shorter hems and by wearing my friends’ lingerie underneath,
but for the most part I can’t get away with too much. Heck, we even have a
policy for heel height – which rules out all those impossible sky-high stilettos you guys
love on us.
And, my day-to-day-not-at-work life is
rooted in playing taxi driver to a couple of exceptionally busy young men. I’m
sure I could get away with being a little sexier in my outfits for those nights
when I’m just a spectator to their activities – and likely not get any
complaints from the Dads in attendance – but it’s not always practical to be
wearing a miniskirt and heels to a hockey game.
But, having said that, every now and then,
the opportunity arises for me to go out on a hot date with my husband and not
dress so “Momish.” Again, I get an awful lot of advice and requests from him …
and occasionally I will relent and slip into something just so we can cut the
night short and get home early (if you know what I mean).
Even then, my husband’s fashion sense isn’t about trying to make me look “slutty” as much as it is about trying to help me feel confident, stylish and sexy.
In all honesty, the only times I have ever
felt close to ‘slutty’ are a couple of occasions when we went to a lifestyle
club – but my initial concerns over my own outfit were soon dispelled by what I
saw other women almost wearing. And in that kind of setting, their sluttier
seems to be the better!
I think there is a need to understand what
“too slutty” can mean. With some people, they think that a woman should stop
wearing certain styles when they reach a certain age. But others think that
when a woman reaches a certain age, she should dress how she wants because she
has the confidence in her sexuality to let all those societal conventions
disappear.
I think there is a difference between what may be acceptable in our society and what might be a bit much, but at the end of the day, if a woman has the
confidence to carry her sense of style off, then who are we to pass judgment?
Andee xoxo
1 comment:
The things I thought about while reading this!
I am currently entering a completely new career. After several years of working from home and essentially pleasing myself what I wear I find myself struggling to expand my wardrobe with clothing that you can't see 'down, up or through'. It took me a while to get my head around it but I am getting there.
Recently I was at university and I noticed a young girl wearing a 70s style crotched top. She was hot the top looked hot but the way she carried her books strategically and sat all hunched over told me that while she was all keen with the outfit when she dressed at home that morning facing her classmates had diminished her confidence somewhat. It was sad because she could have carried it off beautifully. Did she look slutty? Not at all. Was it inappropriate? I don't think so for university, for work probably.
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