July 18, 2011

Pillow Talk | Use Naughty Words Please

I was telling you a few weeks back about my experience with phone sex. And so when I saw this little bit in an older blog of mine, I thought I might dust it off. Plus, I guess this might help out if you like to have some sexy chats on the telephone with your partner ... or whomever it is you like to have naughty chats with!

I had read this intriguing little bit of news on the Internet and found it quite interesting. I’m sure some of you think I have way too much time on my hands, but the truth is, I just like to find an escape every now and then and reading trashy stuff is a great distraction for the mind and libido!

People with voices deemed sexy and attractive tend to have greater body symmetry upon close inspection, suggesting that what we hear in a person can greatly affect what we see in them.

"The sound of a person's voice reveals a considerable amount of biological information," said Susan Hughes, an evolutionary psychologist from Albright College in Reading, Pa. "It can reflect the mate value of a person."

Hughes, whose study was detailed in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior, cautions that an attractive voice does not necessarily indicate that this person has an attractive face.

A symmetric body is genetically sound, scientists say, and in evolutionary terms, in the wild, it can be an important factor when selecting a mate.

While I'm not advocating judging anyone on the sound of their voice, it might be fun to explore that versus the visual judgments we make each day in our lives … especially if you’re talking dirty to me!

Andee's Tips For Talking Dirty
(As borrowed from askmen.com)

Leave it in the bedroom
Don't take what happens in the bedroom out in public. That means that you don't get to swear at her or make lewd requests when you're having dinner at a nice restaurant, unless of course she asks you to.

Don't disrespect her
Even when you do talk dirty, remember that you're living out a fantasy with her. So that doesn't mean that she really thinks she's a bitch or what have you. Rather, she simply enjoys being treated like a bad girl on occasion. Separate fantasy from reality.

Explain that's it's playtime
Sometimes it's hard for your woman to distinguish if you're just playing around or actually mean the nasty things you're saying. Make sure she feels comfortable with your dirty talk by explaining that it's just a fantasy (see above).

Start out slow
It's better to be safe than sorry so I strongly recommend that you start out by saying tamer things and with tamer language (for instance, "I've been wanting to get inside you all day"), and slowly moving on to the cruder lingo in time. Remember that you can't generalize about women and assume that she means what you mean when she refers to "naughty language."

Turn the tables on her
The best way to encourage dirty talk is by assuming a different role in the bedroom. You submit and let her be more dominant. This way you'll get more of a clue as to what she means when she mentions "dirty talk." You need directions and she's the only one who knows the route.

Soft-core dirt
Although we all refer to bedroom talk as dirty talk amid sex, there are two levels to it: The soft and the hard. If your woman enjoys using different words to describe your penis besides the usual four-letter words we're accustomed to, then by all means, think of different ways to say what she wants to hear.

Of course, with time you will come up with many creative words to replace vagina, penis, fellatio, cunnilingus, and the like. And don't let her get away with "yes" and "no" replies either. Ask her what she wants from you, what she imagines you doing, and how she imagines you going about it. As well, some women might find this kind of talk sappy. So listen to the language she uses and if she gets graphic, then move on to...

Hard-core dirt
In the complete throes of passion, many people have been known to yell out some of the kinkiest, if not nastiest phrases known to man. So you can get nasty and fill in all of the following gaps with some of the most vulgar language you can think of. If you want to scream and yell or get close to her ear and whisper it lightly, that's up to you.
Andee     xoxo

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