April 19, 2011

Porn Stars | Drawing Comparisons

This might fall into the category of TMI Tuesday … but I’m sure you guys don’t mind. Right now, in my poll over to the right side of my blog “More explicit stuff about Andee” is leading the voting with 58% of your support. If you haven’t voted yet, make sure you do. The results of this will be how I spend my Sundays all summer long with you guys - so whether it’s talking dirty, answering questions or just posting sexy photos, you get to spend a part of your weekends with me.

This is a conversation that came up at work of all places. Usually we try to keep some of the naughtiness a little hush-hush due to the fact that not everyone likes to live an open-minded life, but I couldn’t help chime in on this one, myself.

One of the women I work with was complaining about how young men (as in just turning of age) get a very twisted sense of women in sexual roles because of mainstream porn. She was suggesting that x-rated movies do not teach young men very good things about sex, and mess with their expectations.

I’m sure it’s a conversation that’s been had for a very long time … and never mind women in porn, how about just the impression that toys like Barbie leave on body-image, etc. Growing up in my house, my brother was a “hide the Playboy in the barn” guy.

Anyway, it got interesting when one of the Office Guys suggested that porn doesn’t just give the wrong impression of women, but also serves as an ego-deflating reality for guys.

“Not every guy has a 10-inch schlong …”

My first comment was “Yeah, but it’s fun trying to find the ones that do!”

Apparently, that didn’t help the argument.

So, we got into a pretty intriguing debate about the other side of porn. It's a tough subject for me some days because I have to remember not to tell them about my own secret life. But, my co-worker’s point is very true, and something I never considered. I know guys like to draw comparisons, and maybe some of you really want us to be like these women in porn movies. Plastic surgery and breast augmentation are among the leading medical procedures in North America, as women (and more and more men) try to recreate themselves in these false images.

But I didn’t think there were issues with guys surrounding the male actors. I guess I always just looked at them as a necessity for the moment in these things. “Props” seems a bit harsh, but really, mainstream porn comes across as being all about these superstar “actresses” and the guys are just there. Most of them aren’t even very good looking. That’s probably why I lean more towards porn for women by women for my viewing pleasure - less monster cock and more plot. It also helps that I get incredibly turned on by girl-on-girl sex.

But do women compare men to those male actors?

The long and short of it – and only from my perspective – is pretty straight: Yes … and no.

Speaking from my own experiences, I can say that, as a woman, I do like seeing how big some of those guys are. When I see a good looking male actor in those movies, sure I fantasize about what it would be like to tackle something like that, wrap my hands, lips and all those other good bits around in and go. I think, wonder if he would do a movie with me? But those are brief flashes of mindless entertainment. In reality, these movies show nothing but a very base, animalistic part of us. They neglect the much more important element of intimacy which takes a sexual moment from “act” to “experience.”

I understand that men tend to be visual creatures. And while a good sight to be seen gets my imagination going too, I am much more stimulated by the emotional and intellectual connection with a partner. When I am with a man, and can watch his hard cock sliding in and out of me, it sends me to those really good places I need to be for ultimate pleasure.

It’s also why I want my mirrors back in the bedroom … (hint, hint)

But from the anatomical reality, after the first couple inches of penetration, the sensation lessens. That is because we are built with the vast majority of nerve endings closer to the front. Knocking on my cervix is a cool feeling, but if the rest of my body and mind are not connected it will be nothing more than a cool feeling. It’s why I like big dildos, but they will never, ever replace good sex.

Good sex takes a connection that extends way beyond your testicles.

In my experience I have a couple guys that may not challenge the porn stereotype completely, but come close, and frankly I was left feeling unsatisfied. The downside for women – from what I have experienced and learned from girlfriends – is that too many guys with a real gift between their legs think the whole thing is about them, and only them.

Do we compare you? Sure, just like you compare our physical features. And not just down there … eyes, lips, hands, muscles … it’s human nature. But more guys have gotten into my pants through my mind and heart than they have through my tape measure.

Andee     xoxo

2 comments:

H said...

Everything you said rings so true to me. The brain is the biggest sex organ. I think this is why I have not problem with posting pictures of my cock on my blog. I know my cock is very average but my willingness to share it shows confidence and I always try to incorporate humor. Confidence, humor and my willingness to pay close attention to your pussy with my lips and tongue are more likely to have you open your legs for me than if I did have a 10-inch monster. Don't you think.

PS: I love how you think. How about the HABS eh!

Andee said...

Thank you H ... except for the Habs comment. No way, eh! We might live here, but we're rooting for Boston in this one. The Canucks, on the other hand!!! Woo hoo!!!

And frankly, there are too many stereotypes of what is "average." It's never average if you know how to use it properly!