And now, you expect the explanation.
See, that is what too much foreplay is like: all anticipation without any completion. Foreplay for me has a conclusion; a result in which I am having sex. And not by myself. Masturbation is not considered a good result for foreplay.
Foreplay is meant as a warm-up to something bigger. I love a lot of foreplay, because it helps create a much deeper emotional moment for when it moves to actual intercourse. I tend to be the kind of woman that is turned on immensely by a lot of physical contact as well – kissing, touching, etc.
And foreplay also isn’t just a physical part of getting me in the mood. My husband and I (and hopefully many of you) have learned the fine art of the mind-fuck. We use our imagination to heat up each other’s libido, often using our cellphones for some day-long naughty sexting and electronic flirting.
It’s all about creating some anticipation of the moment that is surely on the horizon. But there also comes a point where my interest will wane and you might find yourself on the self-loving train to nowhere.