Masturbation, while often assigned a bad rap - in some circles even considered taboo - is an exceptional method of stress relief. Sadly women have been raised to believe that masturbation is dirty and not natural. Personally I find it a great sleep aid, playing with myself to orgasm before I turn out my light at night. (And before you burst a brain cell, my hubby and I seldom go to bed at the same time due to varying shifts and work demands. He is often up well into to the wee hours working.) Masturbation fulfills a personal need that is rarely associated with anything other than me and my imagination.
And don't get me wrong...I will take sex above anything else.
The article I was reading was one of those trashy advice columns, and the young lady writing the letter was mortified to discover that her live-in boyfriend was still seeking pleasure from the "Palmer Twins" despite having access to her personal nirvana.
And the more I read between the lines, the more I came to think that she wasn't as upset about the manual manipulation of Mr. Happy as much as she was ticked about missing a good show.
As someone who has pretty much opened herself up the whole world - or at least anyone that wants to buy one to watch - when it comes to masturbating, I can attest to the excitement it can create when shared with someone. I'm not recommending people go out and make movies - Lord, no. I don't need the competition. But, what can add a whole new level of intimacy is allowing someone you love to share in that exceptionally private moment.
When I was discussing this with my own partner, he mentioned something I hadn't considered: the idea of how getting to watch is also an educational experience as well as sexual. You are able to see how your partner pleasures themselves, the erogenous zones to focus on, the pace, the friction, the tension and, when all comes together, the reward of the "O" face.
I think if more couples allowed themselves the opportunity to explore this new level of intimacy, they may find they have less sexual hang-ups over other intimate acts. By understanding your partner's position on self-love, you are able to get a deeper sense of what makes them tick. And let's not overlook how this can lead to an open door on sexual fantasies and firing up the libido with rocket fuel.
I have to admit, I love watching a guy pleasure himself. I find it exceptionally erotic...I just have to find a way to keep my hands, mouth and body to myself when I get invited to show.