Anytime I have admitted it to men, like my Office Guys, it’s like they just got that Christmas gift they always wanted. Their eyes light up and they become 12-year-olds all over again, giggling madly that I used the word "masturbation." I hope to heaven they don't slink off at afternoon break to the private washroom and relive me talking about it.
Seriously guys…it’s just me making myself orgasm…it’s not like none of you haven’t done it.
Anyway, the conversation ended up with the debate of what is more erotic: a woman who masturbates with her fingers or a woman that masturbates with a sex toy?
My own personal preference is for a sex toy when I am doing myself. The sensations that my favourite toy brings to me allows me to reach my orgasm quite nicely and intensely. The only downside is that sometimes a sex toy makes just a bit too much noise; so when you are trying to be discreet it can be very difficult. Thank goodness for thick blankets and pillows.
When I am not able to use my toys, I have no issues with my fingers. But, as hard to explain in a descriptive way, those kind of orgasms are different.
I’m sure it is no different for you guys, but my experience with men has pretty much been that guys use their hands ... or at least one of them. I haven’t met many at all that use anything battery-operated or one of those fleshlight toys on a frequent basis.
WHAT IS IT ABOUT WOMEN MASTURBATING?
So instead of pondering too much over it, I asked my husband what it is about women masturbating, and then the toy vs. fingers option.
It seems what guys like when it comes to masturbating women is the simple fact that we do; anything that involves a woman pleasuring herself and genitalia is all that is needed. After that, he says it plays on a guy’s visual stimulation and revealing the secrets behind what it takes to make a woman orgasm.
Maybe it is that ‘secret revealed’ or that watching a moment that is the height of her vulnerability. Masturbation is a very personal and private moment for a woman, something that many of us don’t openly share with others. Well, unless you happen to be like me, who has several videos posted for guys to enjoy.
And while most women who masturbate with a toy do not insert it, he explained that there is something even more erotic about a woman who uses ‘foreign’ objects as sexual props. By doing so, she is revealing her willingness to experiment with a variety of non-traditional sex acts…which could suggest she is even more willing to be ‘wild and crazy’ when it comes to sex with a partner.
Now personally, anytime I find about another woman who masturbates, despite the naughty thoughts that go through my own mind, I’m thrilled that there are more out there who are comfortable enough with their own bodies and desires to enjoy a level of sexuality that far too many want to cast judgment on.
So fingers or toys, just get busy and enjoy. Masturbation is healthy.