Of course, I expect a lot of guys to immediately reject the idea, based primarily on their belief that a threesome strictly involves one man and two lithe members of the Swedish bikini volleyball team.And men - when push comes to shove - tend to be more wary of performance anxiety when another man is present and adhere to the idea that they should be the sole sexual object when it comes to additional partners in the moment.
I haven’t made it much of a secret about my own desires - Lord knows, I’ve blogged and tweeted about them almost incessantly - but those aside, as I was watching the video replay (yes, there is video!) of this past week’s moment I couldn’t help think that it seemed so much more natural that way.
And it seems that there may be some scientific evidence to support my assumption.
Not that long ago I was reading about a study that showed how men, as a species, are driven to a higher level of genetic competition during the mating process when they are consciously aware of another male. Some of this relates to a scientific position known as (cue the geek theme) Bateman’s Principle. It was in this theory where researcher Angus Bateman connected a position of female reproduction capability to the male ability to impregnate endlessly. His theory - while far from perfect - suggests that a woman can only have so many offspring, whereas a male can, ultimately, produce infinite. Bateman’s Principle implies that females are choosy because there is little advantage for her to mate with multiple males. It boils down to the level of female promiscuity and mate selection on her end … meaning men must compete to mate with that female.
Yeah, you can look it all up before I get too comfy in my librarian glasses and lab coat.
Now, setting aside the human sexual evolution, what this means for someone like me is how those natural instincts translate into more satisfying sex. When the man is aware of the competition, his performance improves.
Women, without having to revisit Grade 9 health class, have the necessary bits to sexually accommodate more than one partner at a time - given you accept oral sex as being a means of sexual accommodation. That said, I have yet to have a man complain about me giving him a blow job; so I make this assumption partly founded on personal research.
Either way, it still sounds like a winning proposition from my end.
But I remain curious, and not just from my sexual point of view, over the concept of a threesome. The dynamics and emotional investment are somewhat frightening and exciting at the same time - like riding an amusement park roller coaster, except without clothes.
Andee xoxo
3 comments:
One of my strongest fantasies is to have a MFM threesome... does that make me competitive, confident in my performance or both :)
Well, personally, I think a threesome with two men is more natural as the woman has more than one "hole" for men to use. LOL but then again, a threesome with two women allows the women to enjoy one another's company as well, which they might like more. I have heard of what you call the Bateman principle as regards to cuckolding, with the idea being that the husband or male being cuckolded will be aroused incontrollably because another man is having sex with his wife. Males in the biological world routinely compete for females and territory during mating season (think of the pics of two moose with antlers entwined) so it is only natural for human males to compete as well. I think the reaction will depend on the male, though. Two alpha males likely will get more aroused and compete whereas a beta male is likely to be discouraged and defeated by the alphamale and lose all arousal. At any rate, I would love for my wife to have sex with another man or woman. Too bad she won't. LOL
paul
@pascsupporter
It is an interesting thing. Certainly women can 'accomodate' any number of men because of a couple of reasons. They have more holes and also because orgasm doesn't render them inactive for a period.
However as an enthusiastic participant in FFM threesomes I have to say that I do enjoy the contrast between the softness of a woman and the hardness (for want of a better word) of a man in the same bed.
Yes a lot of men have 'issues' with being in the same space as another male but just as many are more than happy to be in that space. Based on my experience being the one woman entertaining several men is something to be marvelled at. It is important however that all the men involved are confident and comfortable with their bodies or there could be issues.
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