April 19, 2013

Sex | Our Porn Fantasies

I don't know if it is just me, or if it is really the case, but it seems that there is a lot of discussion surrounding porn these days. Maybe it's with the abundance of Z-list "celebrities" coming out with their own sex tapes "I didn't know the camera was actually rolling, which is why I was completely faking it and playing directly to the lens); or maybe it's just because we feel the need to talk about sex because the weather is getting boring as a conversation piece.

Regardless, I found this question rather intriguing and decided to put my own thoughts to it:

Do we merely use porn as a fantasy “valve” that allows us to release our wildest wishes without the risks of physical experiments? 

On a personal level, porn is just something that allows the imagination to be directed towards something sexually intriguing but not necessarily achievable. Sometimes the imagination wants to lead us towards ideas that may require a significant physical and emotional departure from the safety of our personal realities - realities such as committed relationships and social mores.

So, from that end, porn allows my mind to wander into those ideas from a visual stimulation without sacrificing everything precious in my relationship and reputation. That said, I'm also not a huge consumer of porn, but as you do know, it doesn't hurt that I also have a little adult profession on the side.

But I can't say that it is "merely" a fantasy "valve" for me. Porn, in my life, is also an experiment in physical exploration and a significant motivator in me attempting to turn certain fantasies in real life. It serves as a point of conversation for suggesting that I have certain ideas and recognizing that some ideas are actually feasible. It brings to life a lot of the thoughts that sit in the deepest recesses of my sexual psyche, and helps add some fuel to my libido.

On a larger scale, I also think porn allows us to visualize and understand the thoughts that swirl around in our mind - and as long as it is legal and consensual - realize that our thoughts are somewhat normal and healthy. Obviously there are some very niche fetishes, and while a lot them are not for me, consenting adults do unusual things all the time. But for the most part, porn is a world where everyone gets a little something that makes them momentarily happy and leaves them sexually fulfilled.

And for some people, porn serves as an outlet to pent up sexual frustration - and any time we can let go of some of that pent up sexual frustration is a good time.
Andee     xoxo

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