I have to admit, I am someone who spends a lot of time reflecting on the path I have taken to reach this point in my life. Like many of you, I'm sure, there are certain events and moments that I wish I could go back to and do differently.
|Andee @ 18 years old|
The important part, however, is recognizing that I have reached a point in my life where I am happy with how things have turned out. I could gripe about the little extra padding around my middle, or the grey hairs; but overall, I am very content with my life and recognize that I have a lot of good things going for me.
This week for TMI Tuesday, we're looking at that road, and the events that got us to where we are...so, thank you to the TMI Tuesday reader who submitted the following THEN AND NOW questions. He wanted to remain anonymous.
1. What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 17 year old you?
Given the fact that I was already one year into a relationship with the man that would be my husband, I'm not sure there is anything that I can point to and say "I would have never thought..." However, not to be too presumptuous, I think the most surprising thing is how open and experimental our sex life is. I have often said to my husband that there is so much we have experienced together that I likely would have never explored if it weren't for him. I'm not sure I would have ever made the leap to turn my bi-curious thoughts into bisexual experience. Nor can I say that I would have had to courage to let a lot of my own kinks come out had it not been for him.
Another part that really stands out is how my 17-year old self was surprised at how enthusiastic my now-hubby was to perform oral sex on me. At that age, I had the distinct impression that it was a chore men had to endure in order to get some back. I had almost adopted that attitude until my husband showed me the joy of giving and receiving oral sex. Now seeing a guy's eyes roll back in his head as I take him into my mouth is almost enough to send me over the edge.
Also these days, with the support and encouragement of my husband, I have been allowed to openly delve into those fantasies and uncover a side of me that has always been something just a little repressed given my Catholic upbringing. Just another little surprise I never expected.
2. What one thing might shock that younger you?
Hmm ... in reality, it's hard to narrow it down because there are quite a few experiences that I would have never predicted or imagined would happen in my life. But the one thing I'm shocked about is how much I enjoy being sexy. I grew up in a small town and I was given to understand that purposefully trying to look sexy meant you were a slut. I am eternally grateful to my hubby for bringing out my tastefully sexy side ... and occasional slutty side too. He is always trying to get me to test my comfort zone and I'll admit that I have to put my foot down sometimes, but its always worth it when he can't keep his hands off me.
3. What part of the younger you’s (not necessarily at age 17) sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia?
I definitely look back at my younger body with envy. The photo above really was taken when I was 18 and just beginning to discover a whole new adventure in life. With my more mature self and my younger body I could be an absolute siren. I also miss the "carpe diem" attitude of sex from back then - just finding a secluded spot to do it in ... taking my lunch break in high school to indulge in a nooner and then spending the rest of the day sitting in the classroom daydreaming about the sexy sensation of him between my legs. Or making out and heavy petting in the back seat of a car at the drive-in ... kind of like a typical summer rock song. Sadly, some of that is lost as we get older and no longer have the convenience of dropping responsibilities to just fuck. Kids also can spoil the moment in a real hurry.
The thing about youth is that it's meant to be a time of discovery. Being 17 and knowing what I know now ... that could have been extremely dangerous!
4. Is there anything in the younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?
Most definitely there are still some fantasies that exist from my younger days that I have not yet fulfilled - some of which just won't ever happen regardless.
Bonus: Give your 17-year old self a piece of sexual advice.
- Don't be so afraid of what others think.
- Do what makes you feel good.
- Feel free to brag to your girlfriends.
- Marry your best friend.