April 24, 2012

TMI Tuesday | My Sexual Personality

Every now and then, a really awesome TMI Tuesday comes along and takes over my mind and imagination. This week we have returned to one of my most favourite subjects – alright, you busted me there – my MOST favourite subject: sex

What is your sexual personality?
a) The Controller – initiating sex, twisting your into positions you want, driving the scene play-by-play
b) The Sex Slave – you love to be used and at the mercy of your lover. You won’t initiate but follow and do as you are told. You love to be used.
c) Daredevil – sexual adventure and sexual thrills are what you are about. You get off on the risk factor.
d) Subdued – sex is a necessary part of the relationship so you are available when needed

I really like this question because I love trying to figure out just what other people’s sexual personality might be. It’s a bit of twisted thing for me, especially when I meet a couple and as I get to know them begin to wonder what the attraction is, who takes the lead in the bedroom … if they are as kinky as I am, if they might be shocked to discover some of the adventures and experiences I’ve enjoyed.

But picking just one personality type for myself, I would say that I am very much the Daredevil when it comes to sex. I’m all for trying new things and ways to indulge my sexual desires. The bigger problem I have with being a Daredevil is not having all the necessary opportunities to challenge the risk and danger more than I do. Some parts of real life and socially acceptable behavior keep things in check. And, let’s be honest, despite the outward sexual confidence you might think comes through in all of this fun stuff online, I remain very much a shy, reserved person whose imagination runs wilder than her true courage.

But I also have a bit of a multiple personality aspect as well, because for the most part, I am not the initiator in sex – and I’m pretty sure my partner would love it if I would take the lead more often. I can’t say that wholly makes me the Sex Slave, but I’m sure you get the idea.

How many times have you sneaked away from party guests to have sex in another part of the party venue? Where did you sneak to? Were you ever caught?

In all honesty, none … there have been a few times where we have left a party to go home (or somewhere far removed from the venue) to get down to business, but I have never done the women’s washroom stall or darkened coatroom vertical shuffle.

But I think most of that simply boils down to opportunity and degree of horniness. I like quickies, but if I know there is the chance for extended sexual action – such as just getting all naked, sweaty and duly laid, it’s more appealing to me to not have to slip my dress back on and return to being a social butterfly.

Having said that, I also think it would an unbelievably erotic experience to try something different like that. It would be a lot of fun to find somewhere secluded, pull up the hem of my dress and drop my panties and let the guy drive me hard. Then, when we were done, slip my panties back on and return to the party wondering what people might think if they knew I was soaking wet from my experience just a few minutes earlier. Would they notice my flushed cheeks and slightly different walk? Of course, that’s assuming I chose intercourse over giving him a mind-blowing tongue-lashing.

Makes me want to get myself an invite to something soon!

Your sex party that you are mad crazy for requested you do one of the following, which one would you grant consent to do?
a) Bondage/Light Restraint – with your legs and hands tied while having sex
b) Sexual spanking that leaves marks
c) Record the two of you having sex
d) Have sex in a mirrored room where you can see yourselves having sex from every angle

Well, given that the only one I have not done outright is b), and d) might be challenged by the aficionados as – while I have sex mirrors installed in my bedroom and have enjoyed hotels with strategically placed mirrors – I have never done it in a room that was floor-to-ceiling reflections. But should I find that room, you can be guaranteed I would be game.

I love to watch sex, and I love to watch my lover in action … it’s kind of like my own personal sex show. I can’t say that I am a big enthusiast of watching porn, and like most women I prefer the intelligence of erotica and pushing my imagination. But given the chance to watch things live – whether I’m in on it or not – is extremely exciting for me.

As for the sexual spanking, neither my partner nor I have particularly explored the idea of mixing pleasure and sexual pain as part of our routine. I’m not against it though, and who knows … maybe someday we will find the right level of kink to knock that one off the list of “haven’t done.” He does own a riding crop … just hasn’t brought it to the bedroom yet.

Do you act out your sexual fantasies (select one)? Why?
a) I act out all my fantasies
b) I act out many of my fantasies
c) I act out some of my fantasies
d) I act out very few of my fantasies
e) I don’t act out any of my fantasies
f) I don’t have any fantasies

I would have to say that right now I fall into the c) category. I have acted out a some of my fantasies, and these days I am very interested in continuing to explore and turn more of them into realities as the opportunities come along. Of course, the sad fact is that there are some that just seem too far out of reach due to either the people that occupy a role in them, or that some other hurdles just seem too big to overcome. As much fun as it would be to have a wild interlude with, say, Jennifer Aniston, I’m not counting on that to happen any time soon. Nor will some of my exceptionally voyeuristic and exhibitionist ideas … more so due to laws surrounding public nudity, etc.

However, those that can be turned into realities are very much on my list of desires and I am really fortunate to have someone in my life that is willing to explore some of those with me. I think that might be the bigger hurdle for many people – having the support and understanding of their partner to validate their fantasies and allow them to be a healthy part of their relationship.

How important is sex in your life (select one)?
a) I could hardly survive without it
b) It is very important
c) It is somewhat important
d) I could live without it
e) If it were up to me, sex wouldn’t even exist

Easy answer – a)

Now then, given that you cannot predict what cards life might deal, I would add to that choice by saying that my libido right now says a), but you take what you get. It’s no secret that I love sex, and I love a wide variety of sexual experiences – from simple solo sessions designed to relieve a little stress to downright kinky, fuzzy handcuffs and blindfolds while you probe my body with sex toys and your own erect dick kind of sex.

BONUS: (Fill in the blank)
Sex is ______________
Sex is meant to be an exciting adventure
Andee     xoxo


Anonymous said...

Hmmm, I'm wondering whats under that suit. LOL

Jack and Jill said...

Your hypothetical answer to #2 was really hot. And your answer to #4 was similar to my own. I have far too many fantasies, quite a few involving people who are likely not interested or otherwise inaccessible, to realistically be able to make them all come true.


H said...

I too like this I am definetly B and C

Jessi W. said...

Great post!

Question#1:Some of A some of C
Question#2: We have sneaked away during a party a couple of times.
We went to the laundry room and took full use of the dryer :D) Didn't get caught!
Question#3: Have done all 4, A turns me on most.
Question#5:A, life without sex would be an extreme bore!
Question#6: Sex is: A vital part of human nature and should be explored safely and with respect for the wishes of all others involved.

Gemma Jones said...

Great answers as always. I totally agree with you on your answer to No 1.

AHubbyof2SexualMinds said...

Great answers, there are grey areas between each answer on #1 for sure. Daredevils are always fun! Your answer to #5 was great as well, sex is great even as just a stress reliever, which some days it certainly is.

Andee said...

Thank you everyone for the awesome comments. This one was a lot of fun to share.