This year marks 23 years since I first met my husband and entered into an incredible partnership of adventure and exploration. It hasn’t been a picnic from beginning to end – we struggled through some early dark days and found our way through a commitment to making it work instead of running away.
But, are we perfect ... whoa Nelly ... far from it. So even I can enjoy the advice that I gained from a recent experience.
I was having a pretty decent day until one of my coworkers revealed a bit of news. She's having some major issues at home as she and her husband are fighting. Well, you know me; I couldn't resist avoiding a bit of responsibility and found some stuff about making up after a fight. Maybe you guys might be able to use it yourself? I printed out a copy and will keep in my purse for my man the next time we have a spat.
What is the best way to kiss and make-up after a big fight?
1. Show them you love them in new and exciting ways.
There are tons of different ways to show someone you love them, and declaring your affection in new ways is a great way to make up after a fight.
2. Try writing them a romantic poem, even if it’s really sappy.
Sure, it may be a very bad and sappy poem, but your lover will be much more likely to kiss and make up with you after a breakup if you’re willing to make a bit of a fool of yourself first!
3. Make your sweetheart a romantic dinner, even if you’re a lousy cook.
Just like writing a romantic poem, making a romantic dinner doesn’t involve the end result as much as the effort. Putting your all into preparing a nice meal will help your make up session go much smoother and put your fight in the past.
4. Try sending them a fun, romantic greeting card.
This one is easier to do than writing a poem or cooking a meal, but it still goes a long way when it comes to making up with your sweetheart. Putting a card into the mail after a breakup is easy and inexpensive.
5. Add some romantic flowers to the mix, whether you’re a guy or a girl.
No matter whom they are or whether they are a guy or girl, your sweetie will love a gift of romantic flowers from you after a fight. Just take care to send them to a location that won’t embarrass them, like at work, if you want to your “kiss and make up” session to go smoothly.
6. Try taking them out for a special romantic date to mend things.
If you’ve progressed far enough to see each other again after a fight or breakup, try taking them out on a special date to mend the fences. Be creative and look at it as a chance to re-discover each other and make up.
7. Look at your relationship problems as an opportunity to grow together.
As we said before, every romantic relationship experiences problems, fights, and even occasional breakups. But if you look at it as an opportunity to learn from your mistakes and grow together, you will be much more likely to kiss and make up.
8. Try to learn to laugh at yourself and not take things too seriously.
This one is key. Taking things too seriously doesn’t make anything easier, especially a breakup of fight. And if you want to make up, then you need to learn to lighten up and laugh at yourself a little.
9. Don’t be afraid to let them have time to themselves to heal.
Time alone is very important in a relationship, especially so after a bad fight or a breakup. Give them and yourself time to heal before rushing back to make up right away.
10. Take another look at becoming better friends.
If you can work at becoming better friends, your relationship will be much better able to handle fights and breakups. And when it comes time to kiss and make up, you’ll be able to do it easier if you are friends.
So, there you go ... a borrowed collection of tips on how to keep your own relationship strong, progressive and hopefully sexual adventurous every now and then!