This week we slip into my panties to learn a little too much information about my orgasms, and all the delightful ways and ideas that take me from zero to sixty in a blink of an eye. And I know you also enjoy the idea of having me in the throws of passion.
Do you remember your first orgasm. How old were you? Tell us about it.
Yes, I was a young teenager and just discovering all those wonderful things that were beginning to happen to me as puberty began to occur. I had an idea as to what pleasure was about, but had yet to fully explore. One day, I was at a pool with some friends and learned that if you positioned yourself just right, the water jet provided an amazing thrust of excitement. Not long after, I learned you could enjoy the same sensations with the running water from the bathtub faucet.
What is your favourite way to orgasm? (sex, g-spot, oral, etc)
It's hard to say if there is a favourite way for me because any orgasm is a good orgasm. But, the vast majority of my orgasms come from my favourite little vibrator. To be more descriptive, masturbation for me is also very much an external act. I'm not a woman who can orgasm just through penetration and so clitoral stimulation is my thing.
Are there any ways you want to experience an orgasm but haven't yet? (oral, g-spot, with or without a vibrator, squirt, etc.)
Hmm ... I have to admit that this confuses me a bit. Is the question looking for a technical or experiential answer; or even geographic? I can't think of other objects or methods of reaching an orgasm that I haven't tried. That isn't to say that there aren't things that I see that makes me go "hmm." Or people....
When I think of orgasms in unusual ways, I think more about places that intrigue me and daring situations ... there are a lot of thoughts in my mind along those lines.
When it comes to people, I can think of two ways right now: through the talents of another woman and the talents of a man other than my husband. Both of these experiences have been done in my past, but I would love to experience that all over again - especially now that I am at a much better place in my sexual adventure.
Have you ever had an orgasm in your sleep?
Not that I am aware ... although I have woken up extremely turned on by an erotic dream and taken a few minutes to give myself one.
What is the easiest/fastest way for you to have an orgasm?
My favourite toy is my primary tool for getting there. But I have a couple others that I don't rely on too much because, believe it or not, they are just too good at making me cum. My fear here is that those ones may desensitize me to anything else. Both of them are of the infamous Sex & The City turbo rabbit style ... and for any woman out there wondering, they are spectacular. Just don't spoil yourself.
If you want to catch me in action and see exactly what I mean, slip on over here. I cum a lot on there.
How many times a week do you try to reach an orgasm?
It varies. As much as I would love to give the impression that my life is purely a sexual amusement park, the truth is some days I am feeling it and other days I'm not. I am more about trying to have quality orgasms. As funny as that sounds, I think it is true that some are just better than others - such as masturbating because my imagination has completely taken over my libido and masturbating to relax and try fall asleep. Both are good, but one requires a little mental commitment.
Have you ever had an orgasm at the same time as your partner? Who normally cums first?
Every so often this is something we try to accomplish. Most of the time though, one of us goes off first - and that depends on the occasion. I am lucky because my husband loves to watch me orgasm, and usually wants me to experience that pleasure first. He says there is something exceptionally hot about fucking a pussy that has cum. It's one of his kinks ... and I'm not about to complain.
Can you have multiples?
Yes, multiple orgasms are something that I can achieve. Most of the time I am good for two per really horny session, occasionally three.
How long does it normally take for you to reach orgasm?
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Actually, like you, for me it varies for a whole bunch of reasons. Mostly it depends on the connection between my mind and my body. Sometimes I can coax one out in no time, and then other times I need to spend a bit of time getting into the zone. If I am especially horny that day it can be over in a couple minutes.
One other thing to consider is sometimes I want it to last. I want to build the fantasy in my mind that is going to get me there and let it all play out. A lot of guys I know rely on the visual fantasy that porn brings them, I like using my imagination.
Have you ever faked one?
Actually, yes I have. And there has been a few different reasons - and circumstances - as to why. The one that really stands out as I write this occurred shortly
Normally I just lie back and let the guy do his thing. If he’s happy and things work out, then I don’t dwell on if I’ve managed to reach an orgasm. For me, there is just as much in the experience with the closeness and love that can be shared through being intimate. After the birth of my kids, things were a bit different physically with me, and it not only affected how my body reacted, but also my libido. The inability to enjoy things the same as before kids was a very difficult, emotional thing to overcome.
My husband was performing a little oral activity on me and no matter how hard I tried to keep my mind in the moment, trying to bring my orgasm out, things just went on…and on. I was getting self-conscious and just “pretended” so we could move on ... not for his benefit, but to hide my disappointment at how my body was now different. I can’t tell you how awful I felt afterwards. When I finally had the nerve – much later – to tell him, I was an emotional wreck.
But, despite it all, this experience just became another chance for us to talk about our sex life and keep things real. As a couple, we learned to find the best ways to make sure we felt the passion, desire, connection in those moments. No, I don’t get my “O” every time. But I get a closeness with my husband, knowing we have been able to keep the talk going and not keep secrets from each other. That’s so much more important.