My blog is closer to the real person than my website, but that is also based more on how easy it is for me to connect with everyone here. My website has a pretty defined template, and is obviously managed by the folks that own Southern Charms. I can't really make it more interactive like my blog or Twitter ... so instead I try to keep you all amused with a bunch of different ways to touch me.
On my website, you will get to see more of "Andee." That part of me is the amateur model, trying to find what you guys like when it comes to the pornographic side of life. She is brave, sexy, outrageous and adventurous ... and hopefully sexually intriguing enough for you to want to see a little more. Andee from Southern Charms can play the slutty schoolgirl, the French maid or the sex-mad MILF ... whereas typically, I don't wear the sky-high stilettos to work, nor do I dress up in a super-short mini-kilt for anything other than photo sessions.
Of course, over the 10 years I have been doing my website, there have been many updates that show more of who I am. I am still a woman who loves to get dressed up for date night, will slip on some sexy lingerie to seduce a man... and also knows that a lot of you want to see the everyday me. So with that in mind, there are still many updates of me looking just like the woman you might see at the local pub or on the train heading to work.
And to be fair, my experience from those 10 years of posing, getting naked, and learning what men like in their fantasies, has also helped me find some willingness to break out of a fashion rut and enjoy some edgy looks ... slip on a sexy dress for work, and wear stockings and garters for something other than a photo session. I can honestly say it has helped me become a little more courageous and adventurous with my clothing.
But, even with those additions, my website is still very much "the fantasy."
I think there is a slight misconception that "Andee" is more of me than she really is. And a lot of that has to do with the environment in which I work and live. Like when I was blogging about talking about sex, as much as I enjoy the subject, it is just not something that I can bring up in conversation with my friends.
Which is why I also believe that my blog allows you to make an even deeper connection to how I try to create that fantasy for you. Here you really get to step inside my thoughts, some of which can be real experiences and others just lustful desires.
On here I am less obsessed with "rejection." If something doesn't fly on here, then it just didn't fit - like if a certain photo set wasn't well received, or a video doesn't sell, or if a blog doesn't rank high for visitors. I can delete a hurtful email and not have to accept where it came from because people hide behind the anonymity of the Internet. But if I was to make a leap in person, like some of those with my Office Guy, and it turned awkward ... I would struggle to get past the embarrassment.
And all the craziness you read about that goes on between my Office Guy and me, this is the only place other than my bedroom with my husband that I could share that. My other coworkers just wouldn't be able to grasp the idea behind it.
And that's just part of it. I can't imagine the scandal if they knew the whole story.
I guess it's a lot easier to be vulnerable online than it is in person.
But, what you do have that is more me than the webmodel fantasy is the thoughts I share. My real life has that as the secret.