August 17, 2011

Relationships | Mine Is An Open Book

A couple weeks back I learned some unfortunate news. A couple that are very close friends with my hubby and I have decided to separate. It was a bit of surprise to learn the news, but even more of a surprise to learn the end had been coming for a very long time.

I’m not sure about you guys, but when I hear about couples breaking up, I always feel kind of sad. I’ve mentioned many times before, communication is vital in keeping a relationship alive. I can’t imagine the amount of hurt that comes from watching something that has defined you for many years come to an end - but I guess for some people, the moment must also come as a relief.

One of my chat friends and I had a really good gab last week and it took me a little bit to finally get to this question, and it seems pretty timely … how frequently (or infrequently) do you like talking about your relationship?

When it comes right down to it, I’m pretty much an open book. I know there’s lots of people who have these online lives that don’t like other people knowing they have existing relationships - husbands, wives, significant others. But for me, my husband pretty much knows about everything. He doesn’t sit over my shoulder and “monitor” what I’m up to, but he is involved in my interests. Does that matter? It doesn’t to me. I’m still as outgoing, adventurous … naughty … as I want to be. The biggest key, as I have said before (I know, boring, eh?) is communication between us.

I think it’s pretty obvious - especially since the intention was there from the start - that my blog brings so much of my relationship out into the open. More on the side of subjects that may not fly at Sunday dinner with the in-laws, but I’m only assuming that either my own mother or my mother-in-law would be all that interested in discussing my bedroom gymnastics, fuzzy handcuffs or bisexual experimentation.

Equally so, I generally don’t blather on too much in my offline life either. It’s something that if you ask, I’ll answer. I hear too much from others about their miserable marriages and frustration with spouses, so I think they would likely punch me in the face if I talk about my happiness in mine.

That said, on here I am very open about talking about that part of my relationship.

But what about sharing what goes on in my own personal relationship? Well, that pretty much is up to you, if you want to know. There’s not many “dark secrets” in my life, mostly because I tend to be an open-minded person. Mostly I find that the guys I talk with in person really don’t want to know about what goes on with my husband … they seem to like the idea behind chatting up some married woman. It creates a level of intrigue and mystique … which is fine by me. It certainly makes for some very “interesting” conversations, if you know what I mean!

Online, for the most part, all you need to do is ask. I’m not the kind of person who gets offended very easily. Goodness, if you’re going to come onto a website that features over 800 amateur porn models, then I need to be open-minded about discussing sexual subjects with you … and frankly, in our culture, there‘s more than enough hang-ups elsewhere.
Andee     xoxo

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