tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7549617923202311175.post7993552868023521713..comments2022-04-03T13:47:26.839-04:00Comments on Sexy Northern Angel: Relationships | An Affair Of The ....Andeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08110859320304570766noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7549617923202311175.post-50919356451150403972012-03-06T19:42:53.443-05:002012-03-06T19:42:53.443-05:00There is a lot of emphasis in our culture on the p...There is a lot of emphasis in our culture on the physical act of cheating i.e. the sex act. I don't think there is as much about the emotional side. <br />There are probably a large number of women out there who have 'emotional affairs' and justify to themselves that they aren't cheating because there is no sex. Of course they are lying to themselves. <br />I also think that if you are a woman the emotional side of the affair is more devastating than the physical side but for a man the opposite is the case. This is a generalisation but you get the point. <br />Jake and I have discussed cheating of course because as part of our swinging journey we have had to deal with sexual acts with other people. To us having sex with another person is not cheating (kinda obvious that one). Having said that neither of us is free to go off and have intimate moments with whoever and whenever we like. Primary consideration still has to be given to the primary relationship. <br />We tend to define cheating these days as something that you wouldn't want your partner to see you doing. In other words if you are hiding something, a conversation, a sex act or your feelings about a particular person then you are cheating. Something I have been surprised about is that you can be quaking in your boots about telling your partner something and when they hear it they will say "Oh I knew that and I didn't think it was a big deal." When you have a completely honest relationship things seem so much easier.Gemma Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08513302674483365569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7549617923202311175.post-16296400984891388572012-03-06T15:26:00.049-05:002012-03-06T15:26:00.049-05:00Thanks for the mention here. On the whole, I think...Thanks for the mention here. On the whole, I think you are probably right in that the emotional affair is probably worse. It is more likely to take away from the love that made the couple get married, choose to live together, or be committed in whatever fashion they are committed. But I think men often see it a different way, one that is more biological and visceral, even territorial. We fear the sexual affair because it opens the women to conceiving another man's baby and so depriving us of our progeny, and procreative function. Nowadays, we can detect paternity with a test, but prior to this, how would a man know the son to whom he plans to bequeath his inheritance is truly his son, born of his seed? the only way is to protect the woman from being inseminated by another man. It's ok if she likes some other guy more than us but she better not let him get her pregnant. <br />I again would be curious to know some hard and fast statistics on this as well as some of the detailed reasoning that other men and women have. It's a very fascinating subject. And it is a good reminder that marriage/partnership takes work, and it is continuous and ongoing work, to keep it happy and thriving. Both need to give and receive and be flexible and open to change and adaptation. We change everyday. <br />peace<br />Paul @pascsupporter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com