Sex | Caught By The Kids

Anyone who drove past me on the way to work this morning must have been thinking I had lost my mind. I was laughing and giggling for most of my drive, and then continued to do so most of the day.

On the radio, the morning show jocks were talking about if people had ever caught their parents in an intimate moment. The whole conversation had started following a clip from a recent interview that guitarist Slash had given, stating when he was a young boy, he caught his mother and David Bowie together, naked.

Now, for me, moving past the “ick” factor in this story, the listeners’ comments that followed were the ones that had me giggling. The one host explained that when he was five, he walked in on his Mom and Dad in their bedroom and his father was standing on a step stool, with Mom in front of him. They told the young boy they were changing a light bulb … despite both being totally naked.

Uh huh …

Personally, I never caught my parents in that kind of a situation … and I firmly believe I am much better off for it.

And as a parent, I can’t say that I have been “caught” by my kids, but there have been a few close calls. In our house – not so much lately, but definitely recently – I would have sworn that the sound of my vibrator was like a dog whistle for children. As soon as it came out of the drawer and was turned on, little footsteps would bound up the stairs, pretty much bringing any potential for an orgasm to a sudden stop.

But I think where I differ from my own parents is that I am very open and honest with my children; especially when it comes to relationships between adults. These days they understand that a closed bedroom door is meant for privacy – regardless of the time of day. And when they have asked, I have not made up bizarre stories about chiropractic needs or auditioning for professional wrestling.

My parents were somewhat honest with my siblings and I about how a marriage worked, so we kind of knew that certain intimacies existed. It was a positive environment and has allowed me to be successful in my own marriage. My hubby, I think, would rather not be involved with the conversation when I explain things to my kids – but accepts that it is better they know the truth and not have a twisted sense of a relationship that suggests babies come from storks.

Children get enough mixed messages in their lives – way more than we ever did; and we were exposed even more so than our parents to a confusing storm of what it means to be a sexual being. I just think subjecting them to “little white lies” is not helping them see through the mire … especially when they really need to have positive role models on how to make a marriage work.

Andee     xoxo

TMI Tuesday | Gettin' Off

Another Tuesday means another week of sharing too much information with you guys. Sadly this week will be a bit short, as the subject doesn't really touch on any of my experiences. Call me sheltered ... but I will still give it a good try and leave you with something interesting to think about.

The folks at TMI Tuesday want to know a little about how we "get off" and our "booty call" habits. So, with those ideas all hooked up in my mind, I hope you're not too disappointed with what you don't learn this week.

1. Have you ever initiated a booty call?

To me, a booty call is something that happens between two people who are not necessarily romantically connected, so with that in mind, no I haven't. But if you think of a booty call as just a sexual hook-up between two people who may be dating ... but on that specific occasion are only getting together that night just to get laid, yes.

2. Have you ever accepted a booty call?

Kind of the same answer as above ... depending on your definition of booty call.

3. Ever had a “friend with benefits” relationship? How long did it last? Are you still friends or acquaintances with that person? Are you still having sex with that friend?

This is something that seems to just orbit around my current sexual adventure. In our exploring of our desires and fantasies, my husband and I have dabbled closely with trying to take things to the "friends with benefits" level, but it has never truly reached that point.

4. Tell us about your best one-night stand, what made it so good?

Um ... I wish I could, but I have never had a one-night stand.

5. When was your last one-night stand?

Sadly, see above ...

6. What’s the grimiest, dirtiest place that you’ve had sex?

It's a little hard to imagine how this counts as grimy and dirty, but I would have to say the family boathouse. My family owns a small boat house about an hour and a half from where I live, it's big enough to fit my father's bass boat but not much more. And since there isn't any services down there - such as toilet or hydro - it isn't a constant destination for me. Back when I was dating my hubby, we used to spend a lot more time going out on the boat, for obvious reasons, and I know we did it at least a few times in the boat house too - among the ancient fishing line and poles hanging on the wall, the cobwebs and recycled jugs, worm cans and old tackle boxes. 

Bonus: What’s the one random thing you wish your friends knew about you?

A dangerous question ... I'm not sure I want them to know too much for fear of being judged. Now, you're likely to say friends wouldn't do that, but I'm no longer that naive. We all judge, even our closest friends and family. That said, the one thing I wish more people knew about me is that I am actually a very approachable person. I'm not sure why, but for most of my life, people have tended to be gravitate towards my friends and kind of surreptitiously gotten to know me. Also, that I really don't mind being alone every now and then. I find it somewhat intriguing how people find it awkward to observe someone enjoying a moment alone ... such as dining alone at a restaurant.

Oh ... and that I'm not kidding when I say my husband does the majority of my clothes shopping. And that I really do find those "old-fashioned" stockings a sexy way to have some fun at work. Ok, maybe not that last part too much. That would definitely be a bit too much information for them to know about me!

Andee     xoxo

What Makes A Lasting Relationship

As you know, last week I was away on my summer vacation. It also happened to coincide with the 20th anniversary of when my husband proposed to me. So, as I was digging around in some of the notes and questions that I had been sent, this one also kind of fell into place.

A while back, probably after one of my diatribes about making a marriage work, someone asked me what I thought were the major factors to a lasting relationship. I've been in mine now for 22 years ... and not that it makes me any sort of expert, just someone who likes a challenging topic to write about on these quiet summer nights when I know you guys will be stopping around for a sexy Miniskirt Monday pic in the morning.

I would say, the major factors - because there are so many, and each relationship has varying degrees of depth to them - would be the following:

Trust

Trusting each other to do the right thing for the relationship, the family, the longevity of the relationship, and the person. Trust is one of the hardest things to earn ... and one of the easiest things to lose in any relationship.

Friendship

Being good friends is extremely important in the development of a relationship and adds to the foundation of trust. That's not to say you have to be identical, with identical interests, but you have to "like" your partner, as well as "love." There is a big difference. I'm lucky because I married my best friend, and that friendship has grown even stronger.

Honesty

Without honesty, there can be no trust. It is the cornerstone of a lasting relationship. And while everyone has secrets, there's a big difference in hiding, say, an affair and hiding the receipts from your last dress-shopping excursion. The important part is having the ability to communicate and share the differences in ideas, desires and dreams.

Compassion

You need to have a heart, and understanding and a willingness to open yourself up when most vulnerable.

Kindness/Respect

Really, I think this goes without saying. It's the mortar that holds the foundation in place. I could never be with someone that did not respect who I am, and be supportive of my ambitions, dreams and goals.

Adventure

For me this is important. On the surface, I may look like a pretty average hockey mom/housewife to people, but I relish adventure and it plays a huge role in defining who I am. Without my partner sharing my sense of adventure, the relationship could not evolve constantly. Not to mention how dull life would be without it.

Whew ... my brain hurts now.

Andee     xoxo 

Sex | A Favourite Fetish

This is probably one topic that could keep going around and around as I get deeper and deeper into my sexual adventure. And while it has been a marvelous 10 years of exploring, gradually experimenting and experiencing new things, I am continually amazed at both what I learn from other people in terms of fetishes, and how my own kinks and sexual quirks seemingly evolve along the way.

I can't say that any of mine border even close to some of those truly outrageous requests I have gotten through my website and videos over the past decade ... some of which still leave me scratching my head. I think mine are relatively tame and yet still sexy enough to be intriguing and maybe a bit unusual among my offline circle of friends. Naturally, I am making a bit of an assumption there, as I don't really know what goes on behind their bedroom doors.

So when this Formspring question made an appearance, I thought "I have an answer to that!"

What is one of your favourite fetishes, and why?

Quite a while back I wrote about how I was learning to really understand what it is men like about women in stockings. For photographic reasons, I was quite comfortable with wearing them, along with the more modern version, thigh highs. But other than my wedding day, and a few steamy date nights, I had not really explored the idea of wearing hosiery as such, as part of my office attire.

And while it is something that always proves to be a worthwhile fashion choice - given the reactions it produces at home and at work - like all good fetishes, moderation is the key in keeping it exciting and erotic each time. I think if I wore them everyday, or at least every time I dressed up for work or a date, it may get a little too expected. Part of why it is a favourite fetish is the reaction of the guys, not just the ideas in my own mind.

I have definitely come to appreciate the sideways glances, and occasional downright stare, that I get from the guys I work with. Unlike some women who might see that as a precursor to sexual harassment, I'm thrilled - and somewhat turned on - but the knowledge that they consider me worthy of their lusty looks. I certainly can't complain when the whole idea is very much planned and expected on my behalf.

I think that is a big part of why I see it as being different from being "objectified." I set out with a teasing, flirting scheme in mind ... trying to be coy on my own to catch the men around me sneaking a peek. And if our eyes happen to meet, I try to give them a knowing little look that says I'm thrilled they noticed and flattered.

And even though the guys may never know if there is a garter belt holding those stockings up, or if I'm jammed into some tortuous control tops, I can't say I get the same personal feelings from pantyhose ... they are just something that I could never feel comfortable in. But stockings, and the occasional romp in thigh highs, make me feel sexy and attractive.

That's why right now, they are among my favourite fetishes. And, if you really like to see how it plays out, don't miss my latest update ... it's exactly what this blog is all about!

Andee     xoxo

TMI Tuesday | Pleasure or Pain

Hey there! I mentioned that this week would be a bit of a crazy week for me to try to update. I'm enjoying my vacation right now, trying to behave like a responsible parent while my kids run wild...oh well, they're young and if you can't have fun while you're young, when can you have fun.

This week's TMI Tuesday takes you back into my bedroom, where all the fun takes place and some of my preferences for when things get a little crazy adult-style.

1. Which do you enjoy more in bed, pain or pleasure?

I have never been someone that has enjoyed pain as part of my sex life. There are certain degrees of "pain" that occasionally happen - such as the first few minutes of anal sex when my body is adjusting to the act and the sensations of pleasure take over, but not like those fetish ideas of being hit, whipped, restrained or humiliated. Sex in my life is very much about the pursuit of pleasure ... all the time.

2. Do you like being tickled during sex? Where?

I am ticklish, but I can assure you that it is not something that I remotely enjoy during sex. In fact, being tickled is something that usually pisses me off ... so, when you get right down to it, it's definitely a turn-off for me.

3. Have you ever used feathers during sex?

I can't specifically think of a time when feathers were part of my sex life. Now, that is not to say that I haven't enjoyed a moment or two when something very similar was used. Not long after I had finished the Fifty Shades trilogy, my husband planned a night of sexual teasing and "torture" for me. He had bought a dog leash and collar, which he attached to the bed and then told me to wear around my neck to restrain my head to the bed. He then used our bondage restraints on my wrists and ankles, adding a blindfold to the mix. From there he began to torment me with a soft makeup brush, around my nipples, my face, my clit ... it was delightful and erotic. 

4. Do you like to be blindfolded during sex? Why?

I don't mind using a blindfold during the occasional sex session. It can be very erotic, especially when combined with some of the mind-fuck tactics that my husband likes to tease me with when I am in that particular situation. I think by removing one sense, the others become much more heightened. Add to that the impact it can have on the imagination, it is extremely exciting and erotic.

5. Have you ever used cold or heat as part of your sex play? What provided the cold or heat?

Hmm, would it be too cliche to say I bring the heat? I know ... cheesy at best. But there was one time not that long ago when we experimented with some ice that proved to be both erotic and chilly. My hubby had bought me a bit of a gag gift - a cock-shaped mold for making a rather large ice cube. By large I mean around five inches, so on par with an actual man. One night we were looking for something to make a photo session to be a bit more interesting and we brought out the frozen cock. It was an incredibly unusual sensation to have that ice cold cock sliding all the way into me ... although the contrast of having my husband's hot tongue and lips on me at the same time was incredible. Not something I would repeat too often - I don't like having an "ice cream headache" in my pussy - but it was unusual and enjoyable on a very steamy and humid summer night.

6. Do you enjoy being spanked, giving spankings, or both?

Spanking is not something that is part of my sex life.

7. Do you have a safeword? Have you ever used it?

When my husband and I first started to experiment in the swinging lifestyle, we came up with a safeword to use in the event that we felt things needed to slow down. As the whole experience was something exceptionally new to us, we had no idea what to expect. I have used it once in the time we have been on this sexual adventure together.

Bonus: Tell us in 3-4 sentences the most painful or pleasurable sexual experience you have had.

As I mentioned, pain is a very limited aspect of my sex life. Now, to limit the pleasurable experience to just one moment would be very hard. And while I'm sure you guys are tired of hearing about the adventure, my rendezvous with my friend has got to be the most recent experience that ranks highly.

Andee     xoxo

On Vacation

Hey everyone, I'm on vacation this week with my family so my entries may be a little sparse and not always going off on the time the usually do.

But just to keep you entertained, how about a little something appropriate from the beach ;-)

TMI Tuesday | Regrets, I've Had a Few?

Ok, so maybe the classic by Frank Sinatra isn't exactly what everyone had in mind when it came to this week's TMI Tuesday blog, but there is nothing wrong with a little soundtrack in life. I can't say that mine would be that song though - and while I'm no fan of the Brit Pop icons, The Spice Girls, I do think a better choice would be "Spice Up Your Life!"

Anyway, plug in your own theme song and enjoy my thoughts.

"Looking back on our lives, we can have a mix of reactions to the things we’ve done. When it comes to sex, our memories can color us with pride, fondness, nostalgia, indifference, or all too often, regret.

"This week’s TMI Tuesday questions delve into things that people typically regret later in life. How much do you regret, if at all, any of the following?"

1. Do you regret how you “lost” your virginity? If yes, why and to whom would you have preferred to have lost it?

The big thing is I try not to have many regrets. When I lost my virginity, it was simply the time where my relationship was at with that boy. It was awkward, uncomfortable and certainly not romantic. Do I wish I waited? Most definitely. Even though I was 15 at the times and many of my friends had already "been there, done that" I was still very naive about sex. I certainly wish I had waited longer - and perhaps chose a different partner.

2. Have you ever lived a moment in your life where you said “Yeah, I’m not going to ever tell anyone about that.” Describe that moment or incident.

Um ... do I have to narrow it down to just one moment or incident? There are definitely a few occasions in my life, especially over the past 10 years, where I have found myself thinking "there is no way this is going to come out."

The most recent occasion needs to remain a secret to protect someone. Another one that comes to mind quickly is the occasion when my husband and I explored our first foursome experience with a couple that we know. As fun and exciting as the experience was at the time, it's just not something you can bring up in the grocery store or at the annual school Christmas concert.

3. Do you regret having acted on a sexual impulse? If yes, please describe.

I thought long and hard about this one, and I don't think I have any regrets here to be honest. I think that there may be an occasion or two when I was purely self-centred on wanting a certain sexual moment to play out in a certain way, but I can't say there has been one of those moments where I thought that I crossed the line.

Maybe it is also one of those issues too, where because I am a woman, any time I display a sexual impulse it is a welcome change from the guy having to be the initiator ...

4. Do you regret not having had sex with someone who you could have had sex? If yes, would you do it over and have sex?

Wow, kind of a loaded question. There are some experiences that I think back on and wish there had been more to them, and that the moment had maybe taken a different turn. But that is not to say I regret the missed opportunity. Everything happens for a reason.

The most prominent example of this was from the time when I was away at a conference with a coworker. You can read the whole story here, but the "regret" I do have was not so much about not having the opportunity to explore my bisexual side to its fullest - in a moment when it could have easily developed into a something resembling a scene from a mainstream lesbian porn flick - but rather being too drunk to fulfill what could have been. 

5. Do you regret not having asked out or tried to hook up with someone you really liked out of fear of rejection only to later learn that person wanted you, too? If yes, please describe. 

Actually, no ...but the opportunities have been slim. I have been with the same man since I was 16. 

6. Do you regret having done a particular sex act? If yes, please describe. 

Once again, there isn't really an experience that I regret ...and even when I wrack my brain, there isn't anything specific that screams at me "Seriously, Andee? How about when ..." Now, that said, there have been times when my libido has not been in sync with my partner, but I probably think more about missed opportunities than messed opportunities.

Bonus: Do you regret not having told someone you love them? Romantic, not familial or friendship love.

I generally try to be open with my feeling, even with my friends. I think there have been times when maybe I could have been more upfront than I have been with my relationships, but once again, no regrets. The people who matter dearly know that they matter dearly.

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How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!

Andee     xoxo

One Talent That Remains Unknown

Just one more week to go, and then yours truly will be heading out on a much anticipated vacation. I can’t wait. This has definitely been a long, hot summer ... but don’t think I’m complaining about the long and hot part; just that I have not been able to enjoy most of it because I have been holed up at work.

And, of course, this summer also brought us the Olympic Games – where we got to watch a lot of talented athletes fulfill their dreams. From the highs and the lows, there was always something exciting and intriguing happening.

I can’t say I was ever one that had any lofty athletic ambitions. I'm most definitely a pro at chesterfield rugby; I was pretty good at basketball all through school, and later discovered a passion for baseball. I guess I have always been relatively competitive, no matter what focus I have at the time.

So with all that in mind, it seems kind of connected to one of the Formspring questions I received a while back:

What talent do you have that you are embarrassed to admit to?

Well, I have to be honest: you’re not going to see me on Dancing With The Stars or any of the Idol shows anytime soon. Nor will I be signing any autographs following my Oscar-award winning performance in this year’s blockbuster.

My husband (bless his soul) will tell you that my talents lay in two areas: my chosen profession ... and the bedroom. And as such, sharing any insight into my talents that earn me a paycheque isn’t anything to be embarrassed about – which leaves the one area I am sure most of you are much more intrigued by.

Even then, I can’t say that I am particularly embarrassed to admit it – and not that I am especially self-congratulating. Oral sex ... because it's not something you can bring up in conversation a lot.

I’m sure lots of you protest, saying you would love to have a discussion with a woman who loves – and is good at giving – oral sex, but let’s try to keep things in perspective for just a moment. There are very few socially-acceptable situations when the subject can be discussed openly. Not to mention just how it would alter my male friends’ and coworkers’ perspective of me.

And, then there might be some who scoff at the notion, thinking that "really, there's not much that needs to go into a good blow job..." But, with a slight dose of vanity, I know that this is one talent that I truly have. Years ago, as a bit of a lark, I actually went to a course on how to "drive you man wild in bed." A friend, who worked in the media, was attending for an assignment and she wanted someone to come along with her for support and to share the laughs. One of the key components to the workshop was on how to properly drive a man wild with your mouth. I paid extra attention during that part of the day.

To this day my husband says it was the best money he ever spent.

Andee     xoxo

My (Not So) Secret Sex Wardrobe

Even though it was a short work week here, I can say I am so glad Friday has arrived and the weekend can begin. There are a few things I definitely want to get caught up on this weekend, most of which involve getting sweaty, busy and thoroughly laid. All I need to do is find a willing participant in my naughty scheme … but I don’t think it will be that difficult.

Earlier this week, I wrote about how my black stiletto heels go a long way in guaranteeing on a hot date, things will end with me in just those shoes. It’s not that much of a secret that a great pair of sexy heels and the perfect sexy dress or skirt are among the best weapons we can employ when it comes to securing a partner for some mattress dancing. It’s a bit of fun we like to have as women; working what we can and what we know will get guys attention.

It’s also something I have to keep in mind when I set to work on creating some new updates for my website – what ideas will attract the greatest number of viewers. I recognize there are many fetishes out there, but some tend to be more mainstream – such as high heels. It’s common knowledge that a pair of heels make a woman’s legs look better … and when there is so much competition online for the naughty bits, I gotta do what I can to keep as many of you cumming back.

Anyway, the few comments I made about my penchant for sex-specific shoes in my previous blogs led to a bit of a discussion with a friend who was intrigued, and subsequently asked if I had a secret wardrobe just for my own sexual fun.

Realistically, no. Other secrets, maybe ...

The wardrobe I wear to raise the temperature at home tends not to be what you would expect. As someone who already has posed for hundreds of photos in an assortment of lingerie, ranging from the sweet and innocent to the somewhat kinky, dressing in a stereotypical “let me slip into something more comfortable” fashion isn’t a big thing. And while I know what my husband likes to see me in, for whatever reason exists, these days we just don’t put a major effort into the seduction process behind closed doors.

But, before you begin to feel sorry for me, let me also add that my husband is pretty clear as to what his particular thing is these days; and I certainly don’t complain. He would rather see me dressed up in something suitable for work, as opposed to cheesy boudoir feather boas and feather-adorned mules. The particular kink that plays out in this, is that knowing I feel sexy – in a public setting – and that I get to enjoy the attention and flirtatious nature of the men around me, my libido (and his) is just that much hotter.

It’s one thing to play the naughty secret fantasy online through all the photos, but it’s more personally rewarding to feel good about my looks, catch the glances of my male coworkers and playful innuendo, and bring that back home.

So, do I really have a secret wardrobe for my own sexual fun … yes, but it’s only a thinly disguised secret in that all those dresses and miniskirts for work usually get me laid at home.

Andee     xoxo

The Real TMI To Yesterday's Questions

If you happened to stop by yesterday, you would have read my questions to the answers that the folks behind TMI Tuesday provided this week. Of course, if you have been paying attention to me over the past two years, you will know that I'm not one for short answers.

And even though the questions were created on the fly, I thought it might be kind of fun to dig a little deeper into the answers - because I think I have figured out that you seem to enjoy really getting into the naughty corners of my mind.

1. When using a dildo with your partner, where is the most likely spot it will end up? 

It all depends on exactly how the dildo became involved in the moment - and which dildo in my collection it is. Not too long ago, my husband bought me a new toy, strictly intended to be used for anal play during intercourse. He knows just how much the idea of being penetrated in front and back gets me extremely hot and bothered. It's a huge fantasy that we often like to play with.

However, I do own a couple of larger dildos that aren't exactly suited for that same purpose. As much as I like to think about being taken in both holes, some things are just a bit too large to make it a wild experience. Those particular toys are more than likely to be used as "torture" devices by my hubby as he torments the hell out of my pussy - and mind - with them.

2. What is the one accessory you can wear on a date to make sure you wind up getting laid?

Without question, my husband loves me in high heels. And I have learned that when I feel the need or desire for a little sexual attention, slipping on a pair of sexy stilettos is one way to guarantee I will get some.

I still remember when I first learned that my husband had a bit of a footwear fetish. At the time, we were still dating and I had borrowed a friend's pair of boots that I happened to like. At the end of the evening I was on my back, heels in the air, having an awesome time ... and would always have a little smile when I would see my friend wearing them, wondering what she would think if she knew what I did in them.

3. What is the one physical reaction you expect your answer to Question 2 will produce in your date for the night? 

Let's just say that I pretty know just how I can turn my husband on without doing too much ... a sexy little dress, a great pair of shoes and a naughty little glance will help me turn get him hard and stiff. And for those women who somehow think doing something like that is tiresome or beneath them, ie: "Why should I have to do something like that?" ... you have totally missed the lesson on seduction, and the rewards it brings.

4. What is something that you partner might say in bed that would put a damper on your sexual enthusiasm?
As I mention below, sex doesn't always have to be a serious occasion. Some fun, laughter and light-heartedness is also a good thing. However, short of referring to me by someone else's name in the height of passion or throws of orgasm, probably the one thing that would put me off is if a guy is talking to himself. The funny answer given by the folks at TMI was “By George I think he’s got it!” For me, that would be just way too weird. First, the George I know in my real life is not all that ... and secondly, it would be hard to get visions of Eliza Doolittle out of my mind.

If you don't know who she is, try reading Pygmalion by ... wait for it ... George Bernard Shaw. Or renting My Fair Lady, the musical movie version of the same story.

5. Sex doesn't always have to such a serious thing. What is the last thing you wore to bed that made your partner laugh? 

I find it amusing when I meet people who believe that sex has to be this serious, mind-blowing experience every single time. When you spend many years with the same person, you learn that sex can be fun on many different levels, from the excitement of newlywed sex through to exploring and pushing the relationship envelope inside the bedroom, it doesn't have to ever be "the same old thing."

In my relationship, we have shared tears over sex and laughs. One of the funniest moments came when I was in college and my boyfriend (who became my husband) stayed over. Canadian winters can get a little cold, and the house I was sharing with my roommates wasn't always at a tropical temperature. I was wearing a pair of wool socks to keep my feet warm when he brushed my feet with his and then said in a pretend sexy voice "Oh baby, I love how you wear things to turn me on."

It was a very hysterical moment for me at the time ... but I have since stopped wearing thick wool socks to bed. 

6. When using a washroom in a public place, what is the one thing that will make you risk wetting yourself instead of just going?

There is part of me that is intrigued by the idea of a glory hole experience. The anonymity of the situation, the thrill of doing something I happen to love doing - giving oral sex - is a turn on. However, despite the reality of what a glory hole is, I would still want the security of it being a safe and clean experience.

That said, slipping into most public bathrooms is a test for even the most relaxed germaphobe ... and if I see anything that remotely looks like a peephole, you can be guaranteed I will risk the kidney stones, and hold it until I can pee somewhere less disgusting.

Bonus:

What would you say to your partner when they accidentally discover your collection of Playgirl magazines?
I don't think I ever really got into Playgirl magazine all that much until later in life. I wasn't particularly drawn to pictoral porn; opting for the more erotic approach of the written word. Now, I have no objection to seeing photos of hot naked men with 0% body fat and hard and stiff ...

But I also don't have much reason to hide any of that.

So, the real truth behind my question to the answer: I hid them there so you wouldn’t find them ... relates a lot more to where I store my AA batteries, and how I keep them tucked away for my own battery-operated fun so that my Little Men will not find them and use them for silly things like their remotes for the video game system.

Andee     xoxo

TMI Tuesday | What's The Question

Well, I have to say it's a good thing you gave me the answers this week for TMI Tuesday. With this past weekend being a long weekend here in Canada, my brain is not exactly ready to jump back into the whole work thing. Not to mention, maybe just a bit hazy after a few vodka coolers.

So this week, the folks that bring you too much information each Tuesday have done something a little different: they have challenged us to create some creative questions that tie into the responses they have already provided.

For example: Answer (given): 28 marbles. Question (you the blogger create): How many did she fit in her vagina?

1. When using a dildo with your partner, where is the most likely spot it will end up?
Answer: My butt
 
2. What is the one accessory you can wear on a date to make sure you wind up getting laid?
Answer: stiletto black leather pumps

3. What is the one physical reaction you expect your answer to Question 2 will produce in your date for the night?
Answer: hard and stiff

4. What is something that you partner might say in bed that would put a damper on your sexual enthusiasm?
Answer: “By George I think he’s got it!”

5. Sex doesn't always have to such a serious thing. What is the last thing you wore to bed that made your partner laugh?
Answer: socks

6. When using a washroom in a public place, what is the one thing that will make you risk wetting yourself instead of just going?
Answer: hole in the wall

Bonus:

What would you say to your partner when they accidentally discover your collection of Playgirl magazines?
Answer: I hid them there so you wouldn’t find them.

How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!

And tomorrow, guys, I will give you some really deep insight into my real answers behind the questions I came up with for today's fun update.

Andee     xoxo

The Best (Sex) Decision I Ever Made

Seriously, I can't say enough about how happy I am to reach the end of the week. This has been another crazy one for me; but given that we're in the middle of prime vacation season, it's no wonder things at work are blowing like a summer thunderstorm.

I have found myself lost in thought about the direction of my sexual adventure. A few things out of my control have slowed some of my plans, while a couple of other discoveries have left me feeling somewhat intrigued. Confusing, yet still quite enjoyable.

My desire is that this summer will bring some new sexual experiences. Although some have left me panting with desire, I remain hopeful some others can still become a reality.

Anyway, when this question was asked by my darling hubby the other day, it gave me the opportunity to slip back into some of the dark corners of my imagination and dig through my past to come up with a good answer for him ... and you.

Which has been the best decision you ever made sexually?

Other than marrying my husband ... I would have to say starting my website. It is definitely one of the most unique decisions I have made in relation to my sex life. It's certainly not something that everyone can say they have done. It has also been a huge motivator for me to discover a much deeper sense of who I am as a sexual person, and opened a lot of doors that have allowed me to do so.

Like most women I know - at least those who have been willing to share - decisions such as losing my virginity were not among the best. Made during the peak of teenage hormones and a desire to be "accepted" among my peers, it wasn't the best of experiences. Frankly, I wish I had waited. I don't necessarily regret that moment, but I was so young and naive ... and it took me a long time to get over some of the emotional residue from that relationship.

My website has allowed me to find my sexual groove with a great deal of openness. It has forced my husband and I to be more creative with our sexual desires, ideas and experiences. Instead of hiding some of our kinks and sexual quirks, we found a way to share them and discuss them ... heck, even videotape some of them. For all the "vanilla" that remains in my real life, the escape into being "Andee" and the freedom that comes with it has become a big key in the success of our marriage.

When you are creating fantasies for other people, it has forces you to not be spectators in life. In a way, it brings a responsibility to open the imaginations of all those people who come along with us in the adventure. I can't tell you how many hours of fun I have had as a result of my site that I may not have had otherwise ... plus where it led in terms of exploring so many of my own fantasies.

Andee     xoxo

 

Sex | True ... or Urban Legend

Every so often, when the mood strikes and the planets seem to be aligned, the conversation at work turns to something intriguing. This time, instead of regaling each other with stories about our wild and crazy weekends (mine almost always involves kids’ sports in the summer time ... and the winter time), things turned to sex stories.

Someone had mentioned the old “I heard ...” and proceeded to tell everyone sitting there about how the had learned that a certain couple they knew (not us) were involved in “the lifestyle.” This, for those of you who prefer the old goldfish bowl description, is best known as being swingers.

And, it’s often in those discussions that I find my tongue hurts from biting it, or I have to give a friendly boot to those in my life who know just a bit too much about what my weekends are occasionally like.

Regardless, without rehashing the story of what has gone on in my own personal life over the past few months, truth be told, there aren’t very many wild and crazy sex tales for me to share. Even the few occasions when my husband and I tested the waters of swinging, it wasn’t anything like the stereotypes you might associate with it; no orange shag carpets, bean bag chairs, satin jumpsuits and guys with big cheesy moustaches. Just two overly excited married couples, a bit too much to drink, and our imaginations.

But the question in question was: “What is the wildest, most unbelievable sex story you have ever heard?”

I don’t know ... this is kind of where I always feel a bit naive and sheltered. Where I grew up, sex usually earned you a reputation. Then in college, it was a bit more experimentation; and though I shared a house with three guys, they knew well enough not to dish out too much of the sexual BS. None of them were exactly Casanovas.

Despite knowing these days that it was just our own small town version of the story, there was one of those urban legends going around back when I was in high school about a girl who tried the old "frozen hot dog" as a sex toy. As I am sure many of you have heard, the story goes about a girl who uses a ballpark frank to sexually pleasure herself, only to discover the hot dog breaks and has to go to ER to have it removed from her vagina.

At my school, the story began after one of those crazy bush parties that happened pretty much once a year. I remember the girl they said it was, and I still wonder if she ever knew, if she cared or if it left her with some sort of emotional pain.

The other story that I found kind of wild and unbelievable was one that was going around about one of the girl’s in my grade. It apparently happened after senior prom at one of the after parties. The girl, who had been drinking (these always revolve around too much alcohol), followed her friend and the friend’s boyfriend into one of the bedrooms at the house where the party was taking place. She then, rumour has it, successfully seduced the other girl and put on a display of lesbian sex not seen outside of movies about the Swedish Bikini Volleyball Team.

I think I am way more intrigued by this tale than the one about the hot dog, mostly because of my own bisexuality and how I would love to have the opportunity to ask the girl if that really did happen.

The thing about sex stories, I believe, is that few of us would tell the whole truth about our own experiences to people who are a regular part of our lives. In my own experience, I’m sure that quite a few people who be speechless to learn of the things I have done, even though none of them would prove to be the genesis of a trilogy of trashy erotic novels about bdsm, billionaires and red rooms. Despite the adventure I am having right now, there is little in my own sexual history that starts with “So, I met this football team after I won a wet t-shirt contest during Spring Break in Daytona ...”

But, who knows ... maybe someone out there is talking about this somewhat shy and quirky Canadian woman they know who has her own raunchy website and porn videos.

Andee     xoxo