Now, for me, moving past the “ick” factor in this story, the listeners’ comments that followed were the ones that had me giggling. The one host explained that when he was five, he walked in on his Mom and Dad in their bedroom and his father was standing on a step stool, with Mom in front of him. They told the young boy they were changing a light bulb … despite both being totally naked.
Uh huh …
Personally, I never caught my parents in that kind of a situation … and I firmly believe I am much better off for it.
And as a parent, I can’t say that I have been “caught” by my kids, but there have been a few close calls. In our house – not so much lately, but definitely recently – I would have sworn that the sound of my vibrator was like a dog whistle for children. As soon as it came out of the drawer and was turned on, little footsteps would bound up the stairs, pretty much bringing any potential for an orgasm to a sudden stop.
But I think where I differ from my own parents is that I am very open and honest with my children; especially when it comes to relationships between adults. These days they understand that a closed bedroom door is meant for privacy – regardless of the time of day. And when they have asked, I have not made up bizarre stories about chiropractic needs or auditioning for professional wrestling.
My parents were somewhat honest with my siblings and I about how a marriage worked, so we kind of knew that certain intimacies existed. It was a positive environment and has allowed me to be successful in my own marriage. My hubby, I think, would rather not be involved with the conversation when I explain things to my kids – but accepts that it is better they know the truth and not have a twisted sense of a relationship that suggests babies come from storks.
Children get enough mixed messages in their lives – way more than we ever did; and we were exposed even more so than our parents to a confusing storm of what it means to be a sexual being. I just think subjecting them to “little white lies” is not helping them see through the mire … especially when they really need to have positive role models on how to make a marriage work.