Sex | Know Your Limits

So thrilled that the end of the week is here once again...except that I have to work tomorrow...price I pay for a day off last week.

Recently I noticed that a couple of my usual reads had been doing this blog called Formspring Fridays, where they would randomly answer some of the questions they had been sent on the site. And since this past week has not been a wildly relaxing one for me, I thought what better way to spend sometime with all of you by letting you in on my thoughts.

Have you ever been in a situation where you were not comfortable complying with the adventurous request of a lover?

Without question, my whole experience here has been about my own personal journey. In sharing with you, the idea has been to focus on the naughty thoughts, deepest desires and lustful moments that have come my way. This blog thing has been an incredible outlet for me to share what is on my mind and in my fantasies.

But, there are parts of my adventure that I can't share. For very obvious reasons, the guilty remain protected by a publication ban. Plus the nicknames I give them make it so much more intriguing - especially for anyone who knows that I do this and may be following along.

I am sure many of you have your various limits on what you are willing to do when it comes to sexual situations.

I think the easiest example for me to share on this goes back to the first time my hubby and I decided to play around with another couple. These were people that were friends and we had discussed the idea of a little bedroom play with them and came up with a plan. The night we had agreed upon, we all went out dinner and then back to their house for a few drinks.

As the night went along, we decided to get in to their hot tub together. Things heated up to the point where I ended up sitting on our male friend's lap, kissing him. Everyone was naked, and he was obviously turned on by the moment. It was a good time to slow things down just a little, so I slipped off his lap - and away from the erection that had been poking ever so close to my pussy.

So not to bring the whole night to a grinding halt, my hubby encouraged me to turn my attention to our female friend. She and I kissed and touched each other quite a bit, but as the guys were really enjoying the show, it was just the right time to suggest things cool down just a little. There was no sense in taking too many risks too soon with our foursome playtime.

And in the long run, it was the right decision at the time...even if theguys had to wait a few weeks before they would get to see her and I enjoy each other orally.

And even with my current situation with my Office Guy. I know that each time I take a few minutes to stop by and visit him in his office, the risk is there for throwing caution to the wind and surrendering to my lust.

I mean, seriously, sharing a steamy kiss in his office as he presses his obvious erection against me...it would have only taken one little tug on my panties and a quick zip of his pants and things could have been much different. And as sure as I am that my friend would be a willing playmate, I also understand the reality of keeping our sanity at times like that.

There are better ways to share that desire.

I know there are probably other times when I felt hesitant to jump into a sexual moment, and without question, as my adventure continues there will be others.

But that's what makes the journey interesting.

Andee     xoxo

Fantasies | Can It Still Be One

Sorry that I haven't had something sexy to occupy your mind with in a couple days. Every now and then life seems to get in the way of all the naughty fun we have together. Anyway, I managed to sneak in a few minutes to taste my coffee and let my mind wander back into the place where we have the most fun: my imagination!

My first thought on this exceptionally wonderful day was to answer a question that has plagued couples for a very long time: How much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood?

But it occurred to me that I probably wouldn't notice how much wood a woodchuck could chuck, because I would be getting some wood as I wrapped my arms around a tree and hiked up my hem.

OK...just kidding.

A friend had asked me the other day about my fantasy, and now that some parts of it had become a reality, what did that mean for the fantasy overall. Would I now look for others, or would this one still be a fantasy?

I have many different fantasies when it comes to my sexual adventure. Some are just those crazy thoughts that occupy my mind on occasion, while others are more captivating - and potentially worth pursuing.

Just because I was able to spend an incredible hour with my Office Guy a couple weeks ago, experiencing the sexual tension between us come to a realistic moment - and while my husband looked on approvingly - doesn't mean that the thought of it all comes to a conclusion. There is still a great deal of the fantasy that I would like to explore.

The experience I did have answered a few of those questions that pop into my mind. But at the same time, like all great sexual experiences should do, it has left me with an even deeper wonder about my fantasy.

In a way, it is a bit like that chocolate cake I used as an analogy in my blog on Friday. Having a taste leaves you wanting to have another piece. Finding the point where you have had just enough in one sitting is the challenge. After dessert, you will want more, but you also understand that a little piece here and there is far more delightful.

In this particular fantasy, I have found a few answers and an awful lot of pleasure, but many thoughts remain.

What I don't know is if the opportunity will present itself again.

Andee    xoxo

Sneak Peek | Do I Have "Sex Only" Panties

Every now and then, I have to look to some of the questions that have come my way in emails, chat and Formspring for some inspiration on my blogs. As I know this week will also be bringing the occasional pervert trying to sneak a peek up my skirt as I ride the train to work, it kind of struck me that this would be an appropriate idea for some naughtiness.

Do you have panties that are only for those “I know I’m having sex” nights?

The easy answer is yes, don't we all?

It's a bit of the Bridget Jones in all of us ... if you have seen the movie, you know there is a scene where she scolds herself for wearing sensible underwear when it becomes obvious that she is about to be in a sexual situation.

My traditional selection of knickers revolves around the very comfortable, and still flattering should anyone get an unscheduled peek at them, bikini-style. This has been my panty of choice since I was a teenager. I've never been a thong girl, and won't even get into a debate about that week each month when it just becomes a whole different purpose down there.

I'm also not the type to flash my t-bar every time I need to squat down at work, but I'm also someone who is fairly conscious of what I wear under my clothes influences how I feel about myself. If I want to feel sexy and confident, I need to have a feeling that I look sexy and confident. And underwear is the foundation on which I build that sentiment.

I am also an exceptionally lucky girl. I have a husband that is very intimate with Victoria and her Secrets, so I also have a drawer full of microfibre options at my fingertips. I will dress for sex, and have no shame in doing so.

As such, there are very specific pairs of panties in my collection that I will slip on, knowing who will be seeing them ... knowing that I will be employing all my feminine charms to coax him into bed. On those occasions I have no problem setting aside my traditional bikini-style preference and will slip on a sexy Brazilian tanga, or a thong. Their time on my body will be short-lived, so I will deal with the slight discomfort of having "butt floss."

My biggest goal in those moments is to see the look in his eye at the moment when my clothes hit the floor and I am standing there in just a tiny wisp of fabric between my moist desire and his throbbing passion.

So don't be fooled. Every pair of panties are a carefully planned selection.

Andee     xoxo 

Humour | 10 Things About Having A Penis

I was reading the somewhat humourous article by Toronto blogger Josh Bowman entitled Ten Things I've Learned From Having A Penis, and I thought it would kind of fun to add my own thoughts from a woman's perspective on having a penis. Now, as you know, there are only a couple of ways that we can actually have a penis ... most of which are covered here.

I was 15 years old when I first had a penis. As I blogged about before, it wasn't the greatest or most memorable experience; in fact, I wish I had waited a while longer before I tried a penis. But, it is what it is and I have really worked hard at living my life without regrets ... and homicidal tendencies.

So, as a little weekend distraction, here are a few of things I have learned from having a penis:

1. Sometimes it can hurt. While a woman possesses the necessary receptacles to host a penis or two on occasion, if the proper preparation has not occurred, the arrival of an unannounced penis can be physically shocking.
2. Most penises are very friendly. I have learned that a lot of owners of a penis are frequently willing to share it.
3. The owner of the penis is also willing to share it in some very unusual places. When I was younger, this meant sharing the penis is places like the back seat of the car, behind my parent's barn, in the fort my brother built in the woods. As I got older and more familiar with the penis, the owners starting making requests for new places to actual visit with the penis ... and they didn't mean in the bush anymore.
4. No matter how nicely you talk to a penis, it will occasionally spit at you. Except the rubber ones. They just taste like blueberry sex lube.
5. No matter how much the owner of the penis tells you that it doesn't taste that bad when a penis spits at you, he never seems to want to indulge in any kind of kissing after you have had a penis in your mouth.
6. At some point in a relationship - even more so if I have indulged in a little too much tequila, the penis will try to slip in the back door.
7. If you talk really dirty to me, even if I have not had a little too much tequila, I will let a penis in through the back door ... but some penises don't like to hear that you are also interested in having another penis come in through the front door for the same party.
8. Some penises love it when I have too much tequila, but they do not feel all that spunky if they have had a little too much tequila.
9. Those who own the penis are very self conscious about any comparisons to other penises.
10. I prefer to have a penis that knows what it can do to me, as opposed to a penis that just takes up all the available space and doesn't know how to behave like a real penis.

Now, the are many other delightful things I have learned from having a penis, such as how when used properly, a penis can make my eyes roll into my head, my back arch and toes curl. Or how it will make me use the kind of language that makes a seasoned sailor blush. But despite all the things I have learned from having a penis, I can say that I am having much more fun as someone who just gets to borrow it on occasion than actually owning it. Ownership seems like far too much work.

Have an awesome weekend. I'm off to see if someone I know that owns a penis might be interested in visiting for a little while.  ;-)

Andee     xoxo

TFIF | Inspired By A Word Prompt

Yesterday, while nestled into the rather unbending seat on my morning train, I was looking around at some of the other tweets and blogs that I like to keep up on. One of my usuals - Gemma Jones - was sharing this idea for TFIF which I found really interesting. I can relate to a lot of what Gemma has written and shared because, like me, she is opening up her sexual adventure for you to enjoy. Life is meant to be explored, and it makes me feel a little less "alone" when I know there are many others out there that see it as an adventure, not just a condition.

And, as someone who struggles some days to bring you something intriguing to read, the idea of having to write an entry based on a single word struck me as the kind of challenge I could really put my libido to!

I suspect others will have their own take - some fictional, some erotic - mine is just going to be the naughty thoughts that swirl around (like that is a big leap anyway). I hope you like it.

This week's word:

Keyhole

When I think of that word, it takes me back to an old house that had those doors with the "Hollywood" keyholes that you could see through. And these days, I wonder how much fun one of those could be in fulfilling both mine and my husband's voyeuristic fantasies. So, here are a few of the things I would love to see through the keyhole:

1. My husband with another woman

Strangely, this is my fantasy more than his. But it also helps me understand why he was so supportive and caring about me to achieve mine last week. I would love to watch him as he does all those wonderful things to another woman...to see his hands touch her all over, to watch her reactions through the foreplay. It would be an incredible experience for me to watch him get oral. I would love to watch her face at the moment he slides into her, and then to watch his sexy butt. I would love to see him at the moment of climax...there's just too many hot things about what I would like about this!

2. My husband masturbating

I know this is something that a lot of men are not very comfortable with sharing. I think I kind of understand; guys have been "taught" that self-gratification is a very private thing - and for many, a very dirty, sinful thing. Some men I know think women see masturbation as a sexual dysfunction: why would you do that when I am here, am I not good enough for you ... etc. When, in fact, it is a very normal and healthy activity - that I just happen to love seeing men do!

3. Another couple having sex

It has been a long time since I have been able to watch this...and that last time was a bit of a scramble as there were four of us in bed, each with our own partner and each doing pretty much the same thing. I would love to just be able to watch. And this is so much better than the typical "put in a porn flick." I want to be able to see all the little nuances of the moment, how she pushes her heels into the mattress as he thrusts into her...the beads of sweat...to hear the moans and passion they share in the moment.

4. Another woman cumming

As someone who is only recently becoming a bit more comfortable with this being a 'public' act, I am also a little 'double standard' about it still. But to watch another woman bringing herself to orgasm - heck even without a vibrator - is something absolutely delicious that I would love to be a part of.

5. Someone peeking at me

If you haven't noticed by now - after all my blogs, tweets and 10 years of posting on my wesbite - that I have a little exhibitionist in me ... well ... you're missing out! It has long been a fantasy of mine to have someone watch me have sex. It's a very exciting fantasy that, despite already being a reality for me, continually gets me going. It's why I have mirrors in my bedroom.

There you go, some wonderfully voyeuristic thoughts on what I would like to see through one of those old-fashioned keyholes. Now, I'm off to Home Depot to see if they still make them!

Andee     xoxo

Fantasies | What Men Really Want ... ?

Surely you guys are getting bored with all the blogging lately about sexual fantasies, but it's been hard to get so many of these thoughts out of my head.

But, despite all that, it has also given me a great opportunity to learn a lot more about what makes us tick when it comes to the reality of a fantasy. We all have those thoughts that will just never be anything more than a bit of brain flirting ... I mean, I can turn my fantasy about my Office Guy into a reality, but I doubt very much that my threesome with Jennifer Aniston is ever going to materialize.

So what is it that we really fantasize about when it comes to achievable goals? First up is a little piece of an article I found when I was trying to figure out what it is that you men really think about when it comes to some realistic action.

Call it daydreaming, call it fantasizing ... call it a very healthy pastime! 

With a little embellishment from me – after a intriguing couple of months learning all about what turns guys on – the top five things that men really fantasize about – and that will keep him rushing back for home cooking, rather than hitting the local bar for take-out sushi.

Blow The Man Down
Unexpected, non-reciprocal oral sex. Men want head. They just don’t ask for blowjobs as often as they would, because they think you’ll demand immediate sexual gratification in return. Plus, they are worried you’ll turn them down. So, every so often when he doesn’t expect it, walk up to him, give him a kiss, get down on your knees, give him a blowjob, then zip him back up and go back to what you were doing – without saying a word. He’ll think you love his cock and you are the best partner he’s ever had in his entire life.

Andee's thoughts: I asked my husband about this because he is constantly telling me about how incredible my oral talents are. He said this is probably the one thing that occupies his mind when we are apart, and of all the places he can imagine me giving him one.

Bring A Friend
Thinking about you with another woman. No, you don’t have to actually eat the furry chalice in front of him or seduce one of your girlfriends. He just wants to be able to think about you doing so. Therefore, when you are in bed or want to get him into bed, tell him about a time you “experimented” in college tripping the clit fantastic. Don’t worry if you never actually did so. This is a time when it’s completely OK to lie to him. Just make sure you invent a person and don’t talk about someone he’s going to run into in real life. If talking about this makes him want you to try it again, simply tell him that once you had sex with him, you realized that dick was the only thing you ever wanted. Then, give him a blowjob.

Andee's thoughts: I would never encourage telling a lie to my partner in bed, for fear that he ever learned it, he would question everything – including the honestly amazing stuff. Well, unless you can tell an incredible story about what you would do to Jennifer Aniston without using your hands! Seriously, find someone to experiment with just once in your life; make it a bucket list item. You might be surprised just how delicious it actually is to make another woman clutch at the mattress and arch her back all because of what you can do with your tongue!

'You're Such A Stud!'
Believing you are always thinking about sex with him. He wants to think that he is such a stud that you are doing nothing with your life other than thinking about his dick. Really. This is an easy fantasy to satisfy. A couple times a day, send him a dirty text message. If you are daring, send him a dirty picture to his cell phone. Can’t think of what to say in your dirty text message? Here’s a few suggestions: “I can’t wait to suck your cock” and “God, I keep thinking about when I sucked your cock last night” and “I’m wet thinking about sucking your cock.” I think you see where this is going.

Andee's thoughts: I'm not sure it is necessarily about the "sex with him" or just the simple fact that I am totally into getting some, flirting like mad and cranking up the relationship heat with some very erotic and naughty sexts. In the end, I don't care – if I have his undivided sexual attention, then I know it's going to be a great day. Of course, I do try to be a bit more creative and cryptic!

Come Here Often?
Picking up a girl in a bar and scoring a quickie. When dudes are hanging out, they talk about two things: Sports and “that one time I scored when I met that girl in the bar and she took me to the bathroom/alley/backseat of my car/whatever.” Most of the time the dudes are talking shit – but that doesn’t matter. They talk about it because it’s what they want. So, make it happen. Set up a scenario where you get to a bar early, he shows up and you two act like strangers and you let him pick you up. You’ll get bonus points if you are flirting with another guy when he shows up and then you blow off the other guy in favor of him. Then, after letting him buy you a few drinks and chatting you up, take him into the bathroom, alley or the backseat of his car and give him a blow job.

Andee's thoughts: I actually love this one because it is a very easy and achievable fantasy for couples who want to add just a little spice to their marriage. The biggest leap is having the courage to get to the bar alone and early ... but if you're like me, that is also the biggest danger. I might actually make my guy work to win my attention!

Coming In The Back Door
Anal sex. I know for a lot of us this is a little scary. It already hurt when we lost our first virginity – do we really want to go through that again? Don’t worry that much about it. Many women find anal sex really pleasurable. Anal sex is great because it’s taboo and it’s something other guys brag about. Putting your ass up in the air and letting him ravage it will drive him insane. If he’s never done it before, you’ll have to take some of the preparation into your own hands – by lubing yourself up before you get into bed – but if you let him have it he’ll love you for it and you may find that you get more intense orgasms than you expect from the sexperience. A good idea is to experiment a bit yourself with vibrators and dildos beforehand so you are used to this new type of penetration. The good news about this? This is the one time that he won’t be thinking about getting a blowjob.

Andee's thoughts: It took me a long time to open up the back door. It's still not something that is a primary part of our sex life, but I will say this much: including it as part of the playground during sex (vibrators, fingers, dildos) leads to some incredible sensations for all parties. Not to mention how much it fuels the whole threesome fantasy in my head – the one without Jennifer Aniston, however. She already showed up in the "bring a friend" category.

So there you have it, five real fantasies that occupy a man's mind. And even if they aren't yours, from this Sexy Northern Angel, I'm just thrilled you have them ... and hopefully some will come true for you too!

Andee     xoxo

Sex | The Thoughts We Have

Good morning! A little quickie for Hump Day...as you know, if you follow me on Twitter, I have a thing for statistics - especially the kind about sex. I found this little infographic that I though kind of fit in with my mind over the past few days.

Can you guess where I fit in? I'll give you a hint ... it's certainly not the "I don't know" category!

TMI Tuesday | Sexual Favours

31 Sexual Favors for her/him features 31 circular tokens promising a variety of sexual services that will leave your partner utterly satisfied. You could drop one in her purse or in his lunch as a hint of what’s to come later or to hint at what sexual delight you’d like to savor.
This TMI Tuesday let’s play our own 31 Sexual Favors. List 31 unique and exciting sexual activities or services you’d put on your very own tokens that are guaranteed to make you the favorite flavor of the week.

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I'm not 100% certain that I will be able to come up with a total 31, so I'm aiming for a nice Top 10 in a few different categories this week - and what an appropriate week to be thinking about sexual favours after the fun I had a mere seven days ago! And much like last Wednesday, even this sexual game seems to be balanced in my favour.

Now, in away, this is a little bit like the way my hubby and I have fun with our cellphones these days; with naughty little messages about naughty things. So, I hope you enjoy the kind of tokens my hubby and I will be giving away in my game!

The Most Intriguing Top 10

For Andee:

1. Oral sex in the office
2. Wear stockings with no panties for a day at work
3. Have a friend take a photo of Andee flashing
4. A night of playing sexual confession
5. I get to watch hubby pleasure himself for me

For Hubby:

1. Blowjob while driving home from Andee's no panty day
2. Long, tormenting oral sex while Andee shares a fantasy
3. Let you watch Andee masturbate with a toy you pick
4. Tormenting foreplay until Andee confesses a new fantasy
5. A date night wearing only what you get to pick for Andee

And Just For Fun

So, some of these are more in line with the sexual fun we are already enjoying with each other on a somewhat regular basis, but with the idea that sharing a token in advance of what is supposed to come later - building the anticipation as part of the foreplay:

1. Wash each other, head to toe, in the shower
2. Oral sex in the shower
3. A good old-fashioned handjob
4. A day of erotic and naughty sexual texting
5. Start the day in panties...carpool home commando
6. Pin me against the wall and stick your hand up my skirt
7. A night of making out on the couch
8. Sex under the stars
9. Sex in the backseat of the car
10. Hotel hot tub handjob
11. Use your tongue wherever I demand

Rare...but Hot

These ideas are those that we have sometimes shared during the heat of the moment, or during one of those late-night cuddles...not for the faint of heart, but guaranteed to get it beating like a rock 'n' roll drum solo!

1. Invite my friend to join me again
2. Oral sex with someone watching me go down on you
3. A date to our favourite swingers club again
4. A evening at a strip club, complete with mutual lap dances
5. Sex in the window of our hotel, facing the Vegas strip
6. Two tickets to Hedonism
7. Call a friend to photograph me for my website
8. Have a friend join me for a new video for my website
9. Invite a girlfriend to join me while you watch
10. Give me the MFM threesome I want 

So, there you have it: 31 Sexual Favours from Andee ... and of course, you'll note I spelled "favours" the Canadian way, because we always like to include "u" with it comes to things like sexual favours!

Andee     xoxo

Baring My Soul After My Fantasy

I have always said that my blog is a bit of what I can't say, the ideas I want to pursue and the thoughts that swirl around in my often-overcharged libido. It's a collection of so much of what goes on in my life, and everything I want to fill my bucket list with.

Getting to today has been a bizarre trip through my mind. The past few days have seen highs and lows, as expected. Part of me would like to bring you another blog entry like Friday's, where I explain in intimate detail the thrill, passion, excitement and toe-curling orgasm of the moment ... but also today is equally as nerve-wracking for me, as today will be the first time I get to see my Office Guy since Wednesday. I am a little afraid if it will be weird; I'm also afraid of how much I want to beg him for an encore performance.

One of the "fallouts" from having a great fantasy come true like mine did on Wednesday is what happens in your mind when all the heat, passion and orgasmic sensation fade. Do regrets emerge, does that knot in your stomach ever subside when you see the person of your sexual desires in a whole new light?

For me, as mentioned, the past few days have been a whirlwind of incredible emotion. Reliving the moment over and over. And the slightly devious thrill it brought to my life ... ok, maybe it wasn't just slightly devious.

The truth is, my only regret about Wednesday is that we didn't have the time to do it all over again ... and a few other things as well. Kind of like a delicious cake, one slice will sate the appetite, but not quite fulfill the hunger for all the sweetness of the icing.

On Sunday, before I headed out to work, I just happened to see a link to an article I had read back a few weeks ago. The article is about a Australian nurse and her experiences as a palliative care worker. Over 12 years she gathered the dying thoughts of her patients - and wrote a book about their regrets. It's an incredible examination of how we live our lives. And for my husband and I, underlined exactly why we find ourselves on this sexual adventure.

Most of what she includes is expected: regrets on the path the chose, and the people they neglected and the dreams unfilled. But even if your dreams don't touch on anything close to something like my sexual adventure, the question still remains:

What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life?

When my husband and I began to explore the limits of our relationship and the degree to which we could push the trust, we knew that the risks were there. Getting to the point where an afternoon like last week occurred took a whole bunch of baby-steps, stops and starts. But, we also knew that there was so much life to be lived. Sometimes it takes having you soul shaken, your heart broken and a baggage fee applied to some of what we carry through life to help you surrender those preconceived notions, laid upon by often-less-happy people around us.

I have said before that we have had a few moments in the past couple years that made us look deeply into each others eyes and draw in a deep breath from the shock and bewilderment that has overtaken us. From the heart-breaking loss of people close to us, to seeing dear friends confront mortality head on due to illness, to watching as couples around us dismantle their marriages because the love was lost, has made us challenge what it is we want from this ride.

And I can't sit here and say that everyone is able to do the same. In speaking with my husband, and trying to understand his sincere willingness to allow certain events to take place - without fearing jealousy or reprisal - we have been able to shed some of the confines of our relationship and open ourselves to new levels of happiness. Not to mention, we have found an incredible way to enhance our relationship.

Some days, I admit I don't understand what I have done to deserve the opportunity given to me last week ... or any of the freedom to have some fun with my Office Guy without the orgasmic delight. But I'm not about to sit back and allow other people to determine the path my relationship should take with either my husband or my friend.

So, what would be my biggest regret if this was the last day of my life?

I honestly don't know just yet. But I do know that I don't want to reach the end with an empty "bucket of unfulfilled dreams" and whole lot of "What ifs..."

Maybe my biggest regret would be that of never having even one piece of the cake because I was too busy worrying about my diet.

Andee     xoxo

Sex | Turning Fantasy Into Reality

First off, thanks to everyone for your comments and messages about my little rendezvous on Wednesday. Initially I had thought I would give myself a bit of time to let everything sink in a little deeper ... and see if there was any fallout or repercussions, but I know there's quite a few of you that are anxiously awaiting an update ...

I think it goes without saying that I was really nervous about how the day would play out. When you spend so much time dreaming up things between your ears, it can be hard for reality to live up to those expectations. I think anyone who has been through the idea of turning fantasy into reality would agree that often it does not turn out like the scripted idea you carry in your imagination.

By the time we checked into the hotel, I was pretty rattled. I still wasn't entirely sure that my Office Guy would show up - and even if he did, could we even go through with any of the notions I had in my head.

As planned, I emailed him to let him know the details ... and set to work on shooting some new updates for my website while we waited.

My heart damn near beat right out of my chest when I heard the knock. I greeted my friend at the door wearing nothing but my bra, panties, stockings and garterbelt. Not exactly what I had intended, but I had told my husband that I would open the door in whatever state of dress I had reached.

As my friend came into the little hallway of the hotel room, he gave me the once over, and one of those looks that said he approved. I could tell he was as nervous, so I kissed him in an effort to try to calm him down a little.

From there, I brought him into the main room to meet my husband, and enjoy a little small talk. While all of us were chatting, I was gently touching him, kissing him ... encouraging him to do the same to me. It felt incredible to have his hands on me ... even more so with the fact that my husband was just a few feet away, and approving of the whole experience. To have that kind of freedom in my mind to know this was really happening just added to my sexual excitement. My husband nestled into his little corner to sit back and enjoy the show, while my Office Guy and I finally got down to business.

We laid down on the bed and made out for a couple minutes while he ran his hands over my body, eventually reaching down between my legs where he could feel how wet, turned on and ready I was for him. He had touched me there once before, during a little heated moment in his office last week - when I showed him I was wearing stockings to work ... but that touch was only through my panties. Well, we were at work! This time, my pussy was all his to explore.

He then moved down between my thighs so he was in position to lick me and set to work with his mouth ... One of the things that truly sent me over the edge was during this sensational pussy-licking, I glanced over at where my husband was sitting and watching intently. He gave me a little wink and smile ... and from there I knew my fantasy was everything I wanted it to be.

In no time, I was clutching at the sheets on the hotel bed, pushing against the headboard with my hands as I lay there on my back. The reality was unbelievable as I reached down between my stockinged legs and clutched at my friend's head. I think I may have muttered a few words between my moans as I surrendered to my desires. My Office Guy slid his long finger deep into me, stroking my g-spot as he continued with his amazingly talented tongue and proceeded to bring me to an incredible orgasm.

I have explored a little with other men in my sexual adventure, but he was the first man - other than my husband - in over 20 years to make me cum that way. I'm not one that easily reaches orgasms - even more so after having children - and often enjoy a little extra help in getting there, so this was an amazing surprise.

I couldn't do much for a few minutes. I just lay there, my body quivering, my pussy tingling and my mind swimming with a sense of delight I can barely explain. My orgasm wasn't just this physical result, it was a moment that rocked my whole sexual adventure. It left me lying there ... and thinking back time and time again that I want to experience that all over again ... and again.

Then it was my turn to repay the favour. I rolled him onto his back and straddled him. We kissed for a moment, so I could taste myself on his lips and tongue. I might have mentioned about how I also enjoy the taste of pussy ...

I took him into my mouth - an equally incredible moment that I had been fantasizing about for a long time. I proceeded to lick, suck, stroke and enjoy his dick until he let go onto my tongue. Equally so, he became the first man I have let cum in my mouth since I was a teenage girl doing some very naughty things at a young age.

I had thought over and over in my mind how things would end. Would I just let him cum in my mouth, would we progress from oral to intercourse? I didn't know ... and in the moments after, I didn't care. My fantasy had become an awesome reality.

Sadly, like all good things, there had to be an end to the moment, as my Office Guy needed to leave for other obligations. I'm anxious to chat with him, relive the excitement and almost indescribable pleasure he gave me.

And, the question remains if there will be a second time ... I can only hope there will be.

... I'm not sure about the question if I will be able to behave at work.

Andee     xoxo

Sex | I Might Be Game Now

Well, it's finally here. I know many of you think "What? Hump Day?" And you would be right ... or at least there is a very nervous and excited part of me that would hope so. For anyone who has toiled with me over the past few days, and managed to still hang around after my tweets, blogs and ramblings about what today means for me, I think you'll see the connection in this post to all that.

For those that haven't, a brief recap in a very short version: today, if all the planets align in my favour, I will finally be able to turn a fantasy I have held for some time into a reality. A male friend, who I have flirted with, teased and tormented for the past several months has agreed to meet me today, away from work (and under the voyeuristic eye of my husband) for something "more."

Midweek may seem odd choice for a rendezvous to some people, but the reality is that the planning has taken a fair bit of careful coordination as to not make everyone's real life obligations too complicated.

And as I write this, I still can't be assured that my friend will actually make the leap with me. Despite the conversations and emails between us, there are a lot of realistic pressures and complications to it all.

So when I was brainstorming what I might occupy my mind with this morning, in an effort to calm my nerves, restrain some of the excitement and trying not to over-think the opportunity, this question from a TMI Tuesday idea from way back struck a chord:

If the opportunity arose, what would you like to do to someone else that you have never been game to try before?

This is very intriguing for me to dwell upon because, quite frankly, I am taking a huge leap and risk with everything that I have laid out so far. If today unfolds as I imagine in my mind, it will be the biggest step I have taken in my sexual adventure since I started. It's one thing to experiment and solve a few curiosities about being bisexual, but to me there seems to be a slight emotional and physical difference in spending time with another woman. The social pressures aren't exactly the same; because let's be honest, our society is willing to accept the notion of two women enjoying a sexual experience together.

To take a much different path and seek out a sexual encounter with a man that is not my husband is something that challenges a great many of society's mores. I know it is the kind of idea that makes a lot of men shudder and it's something that I am willing to bet the majority of women fantasize about, right along with me. For men, sex is still a conquest; for women, the same "conquest" earns her a reputation as "easy."

And there are some people who see this is not a big deal; but I hazard to say that given a comparison between a bisexual situation between two woman and a oft-construed extramarital sexual experience between a married woman and not her husband, more people are going to say the girl-on-girl thing is OK.

Regardless, for my own sexual adventure this is a huge turning point. I honestly can't say that it hasn't been a case of me "not being game" to involve another man in my sex life as much as it has been finding the man that will fit into my fantasy. And by that I don't mean some hulking Adonis with orgasm-inducing talents beyond all conceivable thought. I mean a man that appeals to me sexually and intellectually - and has a whole bunch of strings elsewhere so this is nothing more than a fun encounter. I'm not looking to replace anything in my life, just something that will enhance the sexual fun.

As someone who is not exactly the wildest extrovert, hooking up with others at places like the swingers clubs we have been to, or joining an online dating community for couples, isn't where my adventure sits. The personal connection is important to me, because I need to feel the attraction and interest for me to come this far out of my shell.

That has taken time.

And as for how this situation came about, that part of life's adventure hasn't been as fun. I'm very happy in my marriage. I'm lucky in that I married my best friend and soulmate - and someone who is willing to let me have my moment of fantasy and desire. We have explored and experienced so much together - away from the kind of things I share on here. Like so many of you, we have seen a lot of things happen around us that have, in a strange way, opened the doors to this kind of sexual encounter ... the kind of things that make question the silly hang-ups and petty jealousies.

I've touched on it before, but life's experience brings you devastating moments of pain and deep loss AND moments of tremendous joy and incredible reward. Every step along both sides of that experience is what leads us to question our lot in life, and challenge the regrets we don't want to carry. That is where we find ourselves as a couple today. We don't want to be the "couple next door." The couple next door to us fight and yell at each other; other couples we've seen end their marriage, and others yet again, you wonder why they bother.

I think I've said it so much the past few weeks as all of this has gathered speed that it has become a bit cliché - life doesn't have a passenger seat.

Today, I just hope it has a nice stick-shift!

Now, having exposed my soul a little less than I hope to expose my body in a few hours, I can ponder a brief "OK Andee, after this, what is next on that list of things you might be game for?"

Easy ... if it all goes according to my fantasy today:

Oral sex in his office. Just once.

Andee     xoxo

TMI Tuesday | Making A Wish ... list

I had all these great ideas of how I was going to get some really insightful blogs written for March Break, since I was home for the week. But, as you may have been following along, there are some really incredible events planned for me tomorrow – and unfortunately my mind is in a complete disarray of nerves, excitement, horniness and anticipation.

So, this week I went back to the folks that bring a lot of us some great Too Much Information Tuesday ideas for inspiration ... hope you like what you learn about me today!

This week’s TMI Tuesday idea is brought to you by Mistress Gail who was inspired by the handy little app that allows you to add anything to your Amazon gift list – the universal wish list button.

1. We all know and love a Top 10 list, who or what is number one on your wishlist?
I'm not sure the "who" would mean too much to anyone but me. I'm not a real celebrity-chaser, so dishing the names just wouldn't make sense. There are people in my life that have aroused my sexual curiosity to all kinds of new levels and right now, things have been put in place to (hopefully) put some reality to that fantasy.

Having said that, when it comes to other ideas of a Top 10 list, I have posted a couple here before about some of my wishes. Right now, I would definitely rank a trip to the world's most romantic city: Paris, France. I would love to recreate one of the classic photographic moments of being kissed with the Eiffel Tower as the backdrop.

2. Tell us 2 naughty things you’d put on your wishlist and 2 more naughty or nice things you’d add to the list.
Very good question ... and a bit of a challenge for me because I have a great many of the naughty things I want. The first 'naughty' thing on my current list would, perhaps, be a trip to Hedonism. I'm very curious about what an experience like that might bring. The second 'naughty' thing would be an honest-to-goodness MFM.

Now, for the additions ... they're not really 'naughty' unless you use them for a naughty intent, but I'm going to suggest adding some more stockings and garters to my growing collection. I recently discovered just how much they can enhance the workday – again, when shared with the right people – and there's nothing nicer than a naughty way to pass the time at work!

3. Your order has been mixed up and instead of your selected gift you receive Fireman Sam (see http://mollysdailykiss.com/2011/12/07/inflation/). What do you do?
After reading her review, I think the best thing to do would be to call all my girlfriends and organize a pool party. He might be a bit more fun as an inflatable raft if his 12-inch hose isn't going to put out my fire. Sex dolls for women strike me as a bit creepy – actually, sex dolls in general strike me as creepy.

4. The miss-delivery is sorted and you get the right order. Because of the mix-up you’ve also received a free gift voucher for one of many new accessories available to enhance your new wishlist item. What do you choose?
Right now about the only real sex-toy curiosity I have is about those We-Vibes. There is very something intriguing about having that enjoyable sex-toy vibration going on – hands free – while my partner was burying himself deep inside me. So, I think I would like to try it out, but after reading many reviews on them, I'm not sure I would spend the $150 on one.

5. Your best friend arrives at your back door just as the courier (who is to die for) arrives at the front door with your accessory delivery. What do you do? (choose one)
    a) usher your friend away because it’s ALL YOURS! and you can’t wait, let alone share
    b) tell your friend to come inside with the intent to have them join in
    c) what the heck, two’s company, four’s an orgy! (invite the courier in as well)
I would border between b) and c) ... someone needs to hold the camera, and since the item I have selected is best put into use with a man and a woman, the super-sexy courier will be required to make a delivery of a much harder kind.

Bonus: Do you have a real wish list in the works? If yes, what’s on it?
I do have a bit of a wishlist, but it also borders a little between a 'bucket list' and a set of goals. Of course, that said, I`m also well enough aware that life can deal changes in a hurry and the reality is you need to roll with what comes your way. Some of the things that are on my list aren't really concrete items. There are lots of places I wish I could travel to, like a tour of historic Europe, chase pirate footsteps in the Caribbean, enjoy an African safari ... while other ideas tend to float around where I am hoping my career goes. All somewhat normal and suburban.

But when it comes down to a sexual wishlist, I`m not sure there is much on it that would surprise people. I have a lot of sexual desires, fantasies, ideas ... all that good stuff, but I can`t positively say there are many things that are mandatory items. More of what is on that wishlist is about continuing the adventure. Yes, my wishlist includes a MFM threesome and the opportunity to explore much more deeply my bisexual side, among a few other thoughts; but mostly my real wishlist centres around enjoying each and every opportunity that does come my way.

Andee     xoxo

Relationships | Going On A Sexual Adventure

A long time ago - actually I think in my second blog entry - I shared my thoughts on why I felt it was important for couples to share. It hasn't always been an easy thing philosophy to adhere to, but overall a worthwhile one.

This week, my sexual adventure is (hopefully) going to take some serious next steps. The plans are in place, the ideas have been shared, and now a healthy part of it relies on someone else's level of intrigue and courage.

But it gives a moment to think about the whole path ... and even if my fantasy does not become a reality this week, everything that has led me to this point in it has been an exceptional "mind-fuck."

Not long ago, I was reading a rather interesting article on sexual fantasies - mostly because anytime I see an article that says "sexual fantasies" I'm going to read it! Even those silly ones in trashy women's magazines that offer really bad advice on how to "turn his fantasies into realities" and offer you no more insight than shopping for lingerie and shoes. You might as well buy him a box of tissue and hand over the Victoria's Secrets catalog.

But this article focused on the idea that couples who are more sexually adventurous are more likely to be sexually satisfied. And with sex being the second most contentious issue in relationships after money, it seems to be an important consideration.

The article suggested that: "Sexual adventurousness was significantly related to relationship length, such that the longer the duration of the relationship, the greater the number of sexual activities engaged in. Participants indicated that engaging in sexually adventurous behaviors increased their sexual satisfaction, with a large majority of participants indicating that their partner's satisfaction was also improved with engaging in the behaviors."

Personally, I have to agree. As a relationship matures, so do the sexual needs and desires. You can't expect the excitement of weekend hookups from your dating days to continue once you settle in to a consistent routine of seeing each other every morning and evening - and dealing with the societal realities of a marriage and life together. Not to mention, as you begin to share a life together with a much deeper commitment, your "relationship mind" begins to evolve as some of those early-days-of-dating protective layers are peeled away.

Being sexually adventurous together can be a challenge. It requires each side of the relationship to open up their level of vulnerability, trust and shed some hang-ups. The biggest challenge is to shed these inhibitions - unless, of course you are me. Then the biggest challenge is to find someone who you are truly sexually intrigued by and convince them to become part of the adventure!

But being sexually adventurous doesn't have to be the same as my ideas of bringing someone new into my marriage. In a way, and with a hint of reluctant admission, my sexual adventurous side tends to be a bit extreme for many couples - and then on the polar end, some might think it might be rather vanilla. I'm not going to suggest anyone do the kind of things I have done - nor am I going to suggest I am looking to reach the limits that we see some modern porn stars pursue. I want one guy to join me, not 800. (Then again, my fantasy is meant to enhance my relationship not set records or garner sales for my latest adult video.)

Regardless of whether your idea of being adventurous with your partner involves a new toy, a pair of stockings and garterbelt, or another person, I like to think back on the idea that started this whole ramble: how important it is to share those ideas, talk about them with your partner and letting them know that each idea is about adding something hot to the relationship.

And, heck, if that doesn't work, start a blog and you can leave hints for them to read ...

Andee     xoxo

Relationships | An Affair Of The ....

I'm always thrilled when some of my rambling tweets are intriguing enough for you to pay attention to...and not to mention when I actually get to ramble on about something you want to know!

I know, my life away from my blog must be just riveting!

Anyway, I wrote something the other day about how half of emotional affairs evolve into sexual affairs. My facts on the subject were based on one of those relationship surveys I happened to read in one of the trashy women's magazine that tend to frustrate and amuse me so much.

My Twitter friend Paul (@PAscsupporter) wanted to know what I thought was "worse" when it came to affairs between men and women: emotional or sexual?

This particular subject is especially challenging for me, as I sincerely think there are two very distinct schools of thought on this particular subject, if not three! We have those who are involved in seeking something beyond their marriage with someone, we have the spouse who is being "cheated on" and then we will have those that believe subjects like this can't be defined in crystal clear terms.

Then there is the people who debate the issue of whether or not humans - and living creatures - are meant to be monogamous.

That's just scratching the surface. Because like so many things when it comes to relationships between men and women, this can be an exceptionally complex and confusing subject.

A number of studies on the subject have shown that men's affairs tend to be more sexual, while women's tend to be more emotional. But, as with so many things when it comes to relationships, marriage and the limits people set within them, it can be difficult to pin down exactly what might define an "affair" and not every one can be hemmed into a narrow category.

But, digging into my trusty resources for a definition before we go too far:

An emotional affair can be defined as follows:
"A relationship between a person and someone other than (their) spouse (or lover) that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage. The role of an affair is to create emotional distance in the marriage." In this view, neither sexual intercourse nor physical affection is necessary to impact the committed relationships of those involved in the affair. It is held that an emotional affair can injure a committed relationship more than a one night stand or other casual sexual encounters.

And, I don't think I really need to describe what a sexual affair is ... do I?

So now we know the difference between in the heart and in the panties, let's get to the nitty-gritty.

Women tend to be more emotionally invested - as a generalization - so it makes sense that women would gravitate more to something that appeals to us on a different level. Whether it's a sense of "still having it after all these years" to looking for emotional fulfillment that may no longer exist in their marriage, there are any number of reasons why women are often identified as being in emotional affairs. We need the affair to fill an emotional need, a void that exists and a feeling of being "special."

Women are more likely to become involved with someone they are attracted to beyond the physical, and want to see more than once in order to satisfy those emotional needs. We're just not as inclined to go purely for the physical gratification.

Men - again as a generalization - tend to look for the physical needs they no longer have fulfilled at home. Perhaps their wives won't do certain sexual acts, or no longer turn them on, or no longer have the passion and desire for some mattress dancing. Men seem to look for something that is more "animalistic" and hits on their need to get some action. And even though I learned from a personal friend that men do want to have their emotional needs fulfilled, the available statistics don't seem to support an argument for men primarily seeking emotional affairs.

But Paul's question was, which is worse?

If I had to pick one, I would have to say an emotional affair is worse. Some physical moments can be overcome, shared, forgiven ... even celebrated if you don't have too many sexual hang-ups in your life, but it seems that (if we follow the definition above) the elements of an emotional affair run so much deeper.

I think we can allow ourselves moments of physical pleasure without over-thinking the whole situation. It appeals to a more basic human instinct. Whether it's a drunken kiss at an Office Party or a Spring Break fling in his hotel room, these are physical moments that don't always equate to who we really are. The emotional side of the argument runs deeper within our psyche, and that is where, I think, the true crux of the matter lay: by opening your internal intimacy to another person you are "cheating" the person you vowed to love and honour IF you do so without inviting your marital partner into the whole sexual experience.

However, in all of this, I think I have found the best way to define exactly where my life is at now: a romantic friendship, which refers to both very close but non-sexual relationship and at times physical relationship between friends, often involving a degree of physical closeness beyond that which is common in modern society.

Now, shut up and kiss me ;-)

Andee     xoxo

Commando | Spoiling the Panty Raid

One of the fun things that my husband and I like to tease each other with - typically by texting - is the idea of me going commando at work. Now, that might seem a little vanilla for some, but my workday (and this scenario) usually includes at least one other person in the equation ... so it's not just about a body-hugging dress and not having any VPLs. And it often involves me starting out with panties, but coming home without them. 

Of course, most of that seems to find its way to Twitter too ...

Anyway, I was having this fun conversation on Friday night with my girlfriends from work about some of the naughty times when we have teased the crap out of our guys, the crazy stuff we've done just to spice up the moment, and what are some of the things that worked best when we wanted to turn up the heat.

This seemed somewhat appropriate given all those memories that came back. 

Commando: Sexy or disgusting? 

I think it depends totally on the situation and the person. For me, the commando experience is reserved for some very special moments ... and occasionally occurs unplanned. So on my own level, I think "sexy."

And, as was pointed out to me during this process, the origins of "going commando" are not from an episode of the sitcom Friends - although I'm sure many a man has fantasized about the scene in which Jennifer Aniston's character alludes to the fact that she is sans panties under her dress. The expression apparently comes from a more military background referring to soldiers doing what they could to avoid crotch rot and chaffing ... eeeww. 

Do you have a "best" commando story?  

As I mentioned, there aren't many moments when I intentionally set out in "commando" mode. Even when my hubby and I were exploring the swingers club scene, I still slipped into a tiny g-string. Most of the times when I've removed my panties have been either by request, or as a playful surprise.

The very last time was a couple months ago, when my hubby and I were attending the Everything To Do With Sex Show in Toronto. Naturally it was a very sexually charged date night, and as we were leaving, I slipped into the ladies room and ditched my panties. The ride home, if you recall from my previous blog about it, was even more sexually charged! Those are exactly the kind of commando moments in my life.

One of the "best" times I ever did the commando thing was at a Christmas party my husband's work was hosting. These things tended to be a little routine at best and, while I started the evening wearing a dainty pair of knickers, I felt our evening could be a lot more exciting. The whole evening marked a number of "firsts" for me, as you will see. And, as we were still only dating at the time, this was the first time I had been so openly brazen in our sexual relationship. I guess some firsts can be the most memorable.

After a couple of drinks, I was ready to focus more of my attention on getting my date for the evening to ditch his coworkers and concentrate on my needs. I slipped into the ladies room and promptly removed my panties. Returning to the table, I used the very cliche method of distraction: I whispered in his ear that I needed him to hold onto my panties for me, as I stuffed them into his suit jacket pocket.

Of course, that guaranteed a lot more attention coming my way. We stayed and enjoyed a few more dances and headed home for a more private party. On the way home, I firmly planted my heels on the dashboard, pulled up the hem of my party dress and, for also the first time, proceeded to masturbate in the front seat while he drove along.

Andee     xoxo

More Sex Fantasies | Infographic

I found this infographic that was kind of amusing and educational. As you have seen, especially if you follow me on Twitter, I like to share a lot of statistical and factual data about sex, sexuality ... all that fun stuff.

Hope you find this amusing for a quick update! Click on the image to get a readable size ...